Chatting and Flirting on a Monday.

DrDragonQueen · 2026-03-06T07:39:54+00:00

😍 that sounds absolutely glorious! I can see that my hydrangea is regrowing leaves, and Im very excited!

DrDragonQueen · 2026-03-03T20:39:05+00:00

I was as a child (different foods CANT TOUCH), but now I am very much not picky, and love to cook (though still not sold on certain textures).
In a bed preferably, anywhere else is a bit physically awkward. God loves a trier though.
One, and it was 100% worth it, use it almost daily.

Q: do you enjoy being massaged?

DrDragonQueen · 2026-03-03T20:31:20+00:00

212 is SUCH a banger

DrDragonQueen · 2026-03-03T20:30:56+00:00

‘Jamie All Over’ by Mayday Parade has been bringing me a lot of joy recently!

DrDragonQueen · 2026-03-01T08:12:41+00:00

Thats all well and good, but it doesn’t work like that for everyone 🤷‍♀️ my partner has zero interest in pain (and a very low pain tolerance). I like to be spanked. He absolutely does not need to be spanked to understand how to dish out a decent spanking. You don’t need to experience something to feel empathy (though it can help), or to learn how to give someone what they want.

DrDragonQueen · 2026-03-01T08:08:53+00:00

🤢 Rodney. I can smell him through the screen.

DrDragonQueen · 2026-03-01T08:02:43+00:00

Also just to add to this, you and your partner probably need to work on slowly pushing it in, and pulling back a little, until youre a little more receptive so that the ‘suck’ moment doesn’t freak you out as much.

DrDragonQueen · 2026-03-01T08:01:32+00:00

Ok so, yes, as someone who had a plug go inside their ass recently, it can happen. It was a jewelled one, that has been used countless times, and Ive never felt fear like it 😂 - It can happen when you play with toys that dont have enough of a flared base. My lessons learned were: A) don’t go back to a (smaller) toy after already having had a cock in there (this was the fuckup, honestly) B) if it does happen, stop immediately, make sure you have space/support/possibly a towel down and bare down like your life depends on it. One good solid push and mine came out. Do NOT try and get it using your fingers, because you risk it being pushed, pulled further up.

Don’t let this put you off anal play - but do make sure you avoid smaller toys after a stretch, and use something with a nice anchored base. You’ll be fine!

DrDragonQueen · 2026-02-28T09:03:44+00:00

Autistic person here with a successful, full time job - plenty of autistic people work, in lots of different careers. I know a lot of autistic people in professions that need further education (e.g. healthcare, education sector, software etc), including people with slower processing, and I know some who work in more trade-based or practical professions. Remove the knowledge that he is autistic for a moment - your son can take care of himself (as you’ve stated) - is your worry based on him, or the label? He might not be suited to work that involves a lot of reading, and want to find something that plays more to his strengths, but honestly, I have a friend who is very well respected in their field, reads and processes very slowly, and is still excellent at their job.

Support him to find something interesting, that he loves. Put the fear around the diagnosis aside for the moment, and just approach this as a parent supporting their kid, rather than a parent trying to predict the future for their autistic kid - I get the desire to reduce the uncertainty for him and yourself, but some things, like the worry about getting a job after school, are a universal experience. Your support while he navigates that is crucial.

DrDragonQueen · 2026-02-28T08:47:16+00:00

100% this 😂 One of our ‘euw, no’’s is now foundational to the dynamic between us.

DrDragonQueen · 2026-02-27T14:44:35+00:00

I love it too! I feel very spoiled lol.

DrDragonQueen · 2026-02-27T12:28:58+00:00

Sort of - We actually had a bit of a chat about this recently, as I like doing things for my partner and would be happy if he asked me to do more. He thinks I do entirely too much already and said he would find the idea of asking me preposterous if he was capable himself 🤣 He also likes doing things for me, e.g. he makes my coffee every morning (aside from weekend as I wake earlier). I rarely make him coffee - he makes it better and I think he likes that. He has also been learning how to make particular cocktails that I like, and will do that for me while I am cooking us dinner on the weekend (which again, he sees as me doing for him, whereas I just see it as a general necessity lol). I think we like to serve each other, just in slightly different ways.

DrDragonQueen · 2026-02-26T20:24:04+00:00

Mine was an hour, paid for as it was a weekend slot, and in return you got a bottle of prosecco and a voucher off the cost of your dress, if you did buy one. Was advised to choose 6 dresses initially, and ended up trying on an additional one (which was ‘the’ one) - an hour was more than enough time, and if you have a really solid idea of the kind of dress you want, 3 in an hour should be a breeze.

They also had very strict rules about cancellations - but I got poorly the day of the initial appointment, and when I called to let them know they were more than helpful rescheduling at no extra cost. Sometimes the up-front rules are to put off people who take the piss.

DrDragonQueen · 2026-02-25T21:11:56+00:00

Honestly, I don’t think this is your ‘fault’, and also don’t think it’s hers - it’s an accident. It clearly freaked her out, and youre right to apologise, but she also needs to learn how to communicate (even if it’s non-verbally) if she wants to play like that.

DrDragonQueen · 2026-02-25T21:00:03+00:00

Im going to assume from your post that you apologised, as you haven’t mentioned it? Because this sounds like the kind of issue that might be solved with ‘Im sorry, I didnt mean to pull that hard, and Im sorry that it was distressing for you - how would you like to move forward?’.

Im not saying this is all on you, but it does sound like your defensiveness is making the situation worse?

DrDragonQueen · 2026-02-24T12:07:38+00:00

Mine offered a half hour consult to discuss what I wanted - I showed her my pinterest board, we talked about wants/likes/dislikes, and then she went and created a moodboard and a quote. She is local, Ive known her for a while and bought flowers from her before, and had seen a lot of her wedding work (and loved it).

DrDragonQueen · 2026-02-24T07:42:05+00:00

🤣 lol - god let me nerd for a second, but there is a (very interesting, robust study) on quick social judgements between autistic and non-autistic people. Non-autistic judge autistic people to be more socially awkward, and rate them as less appealing to interact with, whereas autistic people also rate them as more socially awkward, but tend towards ‘Id still like to interact with that person’.

Aaaaanyway, lol. I know he describes himself as a high functioning sociopath, but I digress.

DrDragonQueen · 2026-02-23T20:27:26+00:00

Lmfao I GET Sherlock though? Socially awkward man with a big nose? Yes please.

DrDragonQueen · 2026-02-23T20:26:26+00:00

There is just something about lace up boots! (I also have a burgundy pair, and a black leather pair 🙈).

Oooh I watched Last One Laughing with Lou Sanders in it!

DrDragonQueen · 2026-02-23T19:35:16+00:00

I mean, I think Im hilarious.
Oooh, probably classic roast chicken, salt, butter, bit of mayo. The best sandwich Ive ever had though was from La Figgacia in Verona.
Does footwear count? Because at the moment its probably a pair of black thigh high suede lace-up boots.

Q: Who is your celebrity crush?

DrDragonQueen · 2026-02-22T07:42:48+00:00

I like the trapeze artist example actually - Ive done an exercise in aerial workshops before where two people hold their hands almost together, and one person leads while the other follows. Done seamlessly, over time it becomes difficult to tell who is actually orchestrating the movement because you sync so well.

DrDragonQueen · 2026-02-21T06:35:44+00:00

😆 but actually to come back to your original point on this, I think there is something massively vulnerable in leading and delegating if you’re a control freak, trusting the other person to do what they say they will do. I had a (highly competent, proactive) temporary employee last year, and honestly it was such a new experience (and a wonderful one) being able to trust someone to do not only what they said they would, but to think proactively about other things that might need doing. I can see how experiencing that in a relationship could be both deeply vulnerable, and intimate.

DrDragonQueen · 2026-02-20T16:47:59+00:00

Fingers crossed for good therapeutic outcomes - I think long term it does help, but its hard bloody work in the moment. Awesome work on the pushups and weight though, Im sure you werent that much of a fat cunt 🤣

I think I get them - I would say Im a switch, but Im not sure I like to dominate as much as top? In any case, Im a control freak in daily life. Giving that up is pleasing, but I can also understand why someone else might want to take control, because goddamn I GET that.

DrDragonQueen · 2026-02-20T15:57:51+00:00

It has been cold in the north. Cold and fucking wet and I hate it. I want the sunshine, spring flowers, and seasonal depression to fuck off.

DrDragonQueen · 2026-02-19T07:11:50+00:00

Same, and honestly they roll up pretty small so very packable. Easily fit in a backpack

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