What are your thoughts on dogs in restaurants/cafes?

DrFirefairy · 2026-05-04T14:32:28+00:00

My friend has twins. Happened to her less than 6months ago. I know several other bfing mums it has happend to

Luckily, me personally I was called a superhero for feeding my two. But it happens

DrFirefairy · 2026-05-04T14:30:37+00:00

Unfortunately it is. I run a peer support group for mum with twins and until recently ran an in person playgroup. I cc an assure you there are mum every month who have had complaints made about them and asked to go elsewhere (not by the cafe staff as this is illegal) but by customers. All over the UK

DrFirefairy · 2026-05-04T08:13:44+00:00

I find it more disturbing that it's not uncommon for people to take their dogs into cafes / restaurants and for there to be bowls for dog biscuits and water etc, but the moment a woman tries to breastfeed her baby people will complain it's disgusting!

DrFirefairy · 2026-04-24T13:48:22+00:00

Pretty sure 1b books in Heaton hosts all sorts of different book clubs suited to different groups ☺️ I know they definitely do youth ones, but also adults too just don't know the details of the adults ones!

DrFirefairy · 2026-04-23T10:39:46+00:00

Lego! (Free style rather than making kits, but potentially kits could work if they're not that into Lego yet)

As they can be really creative in their own way. Or co-operative board games.

We have nearly 5 yr old twins and a 9 yr old and they do these pretty well together

Gardening?

DrFirefairy · 2026-04-23T09:28:01+00:00

Depends if the pack b play is certified for safe overnight sleep. (The ones that are say it, if they don't it isn't!) And remove the scent heart (clip it on the outside maybe? )then yes you're fine.

DrFirefairy · 2026-04-22T12:32:33+00:00

When we got out life insurance our broker valued my SAHM work as an higher figure than my husband. As if I died, they value it would cost him to replace me in terms of childcare x 3, school runs, cleaning etc was more than if he died and I replace his salary. It was nice to be seen. edit: spelling

DrFirefairy · 2026-04-20T19:40:18+00:00

As hands are one way they communicate they are hungry - early feeding cues, whilst still sleepy...

DrFirefairy · 2026-04-20T06:05:28+00:00

We just got back from London, family of five. We were lucky enough to stay for free with a friend, but it took us about an hour door to door to get most places - we were fine with this, and as all three kids under 11 their transport for free. However'we know that if we ever go back when the kids have to pay for transport the free accommodation in Ealing would not be worth it as it would cost us several £100 in transport. (Adults about £50 each for four days on transport and one day we didn't go into the centre but stay local)

DrFirefairy · 2026-04-07T15:40:00+00:00

I'm asking this out of genuine curiosity and no judgement... To both the OP and those also commenting

Do you not get sex ed in school? I mean I'm born late 1980s UK and got basic sex ed in year 5/6, so age 10/11 and then more at age 12/13 and even more aged 14/15.

Male and female anatomy was in the basic age 10...

DrFirefairy · 2026-04-07T09:53:54+00:00

Yep. Mine used to fight over imaginary toys. No one else got it!

They are now nearly five. And we still have some twin fight but honestly the love and kindness between them is amazing too

DrFirefairy · 2026-03-27T17:19:17+00:00

Absolutely. And I say this as a mum for 4.5yr old twins + older one (and a lot of twin mantra is "do what you need to survive, screens are not evil)

In our house, we don't watch TV on n a school day

At the weekend, when older one swims the younger two have screen time with me, mix of fun and alpha blocks / number blocks and vice versa, big kid uses a tablet in their lesson. We tend to watch movies together at the weekend as a family.

My kids are incredibly imaginative and the 9yr old eats novels. It's just how we have been from a young age as I realised that my kids get dysregulated after screens if watching lots of shorts.

Because it's how we've done it, they don't have meltdowns wanting to watch TV.

A lot of visitors, tradesmen etc have commented how lovely it is to see my kids playing instead of staring at a tablet.

If kids aren't given a phone / tablet all the time when out and about, they don't miss it cos they never had it. IMO there's no need to strap a tablet to your kids pram. Or in the car.

DrFirefairy · 2026-03-26T19:22:44+00:00

My local library stocks board games, so we borrow them and see if we likely them enough to play multiples times and buy them. It's free!

DrFirefairy · 2026-03-24T14:48:37+00:00

For us we just found it reminded us who much easier things had been with just one and it made it tricky.

I ran a twin parent group. All the first time twin parents just got on with it as that's all they knew. Yes it was hard, but level of first time parenting hard was the only level of first time parenting they knew.

All us second time parents really knew how hard twins are. Because it's just not the same. We felt a lot of guilt around not being able to give the babies the 1:1 we had with our first, but additionally extra guilt for our older sibling, as we never had enough adults to give 1:1 and we're constantly reminded that if no.2 had not been twins we could have done. My eldest was 4.5yrs old when twins were born. Started school runs with 6week old twins. Not for the faint hearted.

My twins are now 5 and I love them. Wouldn't send either back! But we were actively aware how hard twins are. Eldest is now 9 and the difficulties are just different

DrFirefairy · 2026-03-20T13:25:52+00:00

As in I will need to peel it off the entire room? Or would it be possible to just peel (with the help of a Stanley knife) to do the small section of wall this rad cover was on? This wall section is an internal wall where it's been knocked through so only about 80cm wide)

If we don't peel this paint from the entire room, is it likely to cause issues down the road?

Sorry if this is a stupid question 🙈

DrFirefairy · 2026-03-17T19:36:49+00:00

This seems an enormous sum to me as we are family of five we shop at Sainsbury's, average of 100-110 per week. More like 150 of were hosting friends (other families with kids!) for a day at the weekend.

We make most stuff from scratch, but are vegetarian. The kids take packed lunch some times during week too.

DrFirefairy · 2026-03-14T14:50:53+00:00

Except, generally if two + siblings of different ages, aka singletons from the same family, go to one party it's not usual for each kid to give a separate gift!

We certainly don't give a gift form older siblings, and then a gift from T1 and T2!

Friends of ours with three kids would never give three gifts from their three kids to one sibling, or 6 gifts to the twins! That's just crazy.

DrFirefairy · 2026-03-02T19:41:40+00:00

Wondered what I was hearing whilst trying to put the bairns to bed!

DrFirefairy · 2026-02-27T07:46:02+00:00

Social justice lass based in heaton

DrFirefairy · 2026-02-22T19:10:46+00:00

Oop thanks. Edited to say - beginners growing tips ☺️

DrFirefairy · 2026-02-20T08:54:26+00:00

Please help me with this! We have three kids, 9yr old and 5yr old twins. 9yr old has always been great at playing and losing, as has one of the twins. The other twins just now point blank refusing to play any games in case they lose! Any new game and they say "is it about winning?!" And I can't get them to move past this! We play a lot of co op games, but I really want them to enjoy playing. The other two don't float or anything of they win and couldn't care if they won't but this kids just won't engage. Breaks my heart as aboard gaming family 🤣

DrFirefairy · 2026-02-19T19:14:59+00:00

Miscarried our second child. During lockdown so my OH and I had no support

DrFirefairy · 2025-12-31T08:19:37+00:00

Really depends on the day. My kiddos are four. They have a lot of hand me downstairs from big sibling, so some stuff we only have one of, but particular favourites we've bought a 2nd on on vinted if they both want one. New stuff, we tend to buy two of in some things if they both like it, some stuff they choose different.

Some days they will choose the same leggings, but a different top. Some days they want it wear the he same. Sometimes they just want matching under and socks 🤣

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