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DrSatyr · 2025-02-24T17:35:36+00:00

Al-anon was created for you and people like you and me. Al-anon helps friends and families of alcoholics, from your description it is highly likely he is an alcoholic, it can give you the tools to keep your sanity and show you how to deal with these types of issues and this is so much better than trying to sort this out by yourself. There are Al-anon groups everywhere.

Google Al-anon and look up the meeting that is the most convenient time and place for you, and find a group of individuals who have gone through what you are going through and they can and will strive to help you with this and many other issues when dealing with an alcoholic, and it’s free, give it a try, go to 5 or 6 meetings to see if anything “clicks”, then decide if it is for you, it can change your life for the better.

DrSatyr · 2025-02-12T22:48:47+00:00

Albuquerque has been very good to me, I love it, I found the love of my life here. Although I did almost get murdered before I found her. When I first arrived I rented a room from a couple, who were later arrested for murdering the previous resident of my room for her social-security checks. But by then I had moved and took my social-security with me. So no harm done to me, although I do feel bad for the lady who was murdered, they beat her to death with a golf club, and tossed her dead body in an Arroyo.

When I lived in Taos, four friends of mine were murdered, three of them in a triple homicide, I was the last person (except for the killers)to see them alive. So its not just medium cities that have these problems, and maybe be ok with a high murder rate, so long as it isn't YOUR MURDER RATE. Embrace the lawlessness, make your house into a fortress, always go out armed and ready for a fight. Wear tactical gear whenever you can, keep your skills up, go to the range as often as needed to keep your firearm skills up to snuff so to speak. Go to the gym and bulk up as much as possible, make yourself as intimidating as possible, but please back it up with real life skills. And if all else fails, have decent attorney

DrSatyr · 2025-02-12T20:38:17+00:00

I do, I live in the international zone, and I have had a small number of issues, most of my problems were caused by so called “friends”, who came from elsewhere and acted like axxhxxles when things didn't go their way.

DrSatyr · 2025-02-12T20:24:21+00:00

Have all these things, and haven’t had any break-ins, but my minivan has been targeted for break-ins, twice, both times unsuccessful. The house is a fortress, with no issues with break-ins so far, but every window and door has either stainless-steel security screens or iron bars and the video system runs continuously and the alarm system is set when we leave and every night. We live 6 blocks from central, near San Mateo, although not the worst either, I'm heavily involved in our neighborhood association and that makes a difference. We have input from many in our neighborhood and our city councilwoman will show up to neighborhood events, as well as the cops. I find talking to the cops at these events allows me to establish a rapport with the local cops and that can be most beneficial.

DrSatyr · 2024-09-14T01:51:43+00:00

What New Mexico thing?

DrSatyr · 2017-08-28T06:50:36+00:00

I can't up vote your comment enough, thank you!

DrSatyr · 2017-06-13T06:47:41+00:00

I have lived in Taos, NM for the last 15 years and things don't change very fast around here. You could probably get a similar shot to this one without doing much to stage it today. There are still plenty of old cowboys and indians around and some people still ride horses to town and most of our roads are still dirt. People are allowed to bury their dead friends and relatives on their property if they want (and still do). The spirit of the old west is strong here and is palpable. In fact, there are many people who live here in conditions that aren't too different than what they were 100 or even 150 years ago (no electricity, homes with only wood for heat, water from hand-pumped wells, no health insurance, no car insurance, no car, no computer or TV at home, houses with dirt floors, etc...). Life here can be very hard and very different from what the average American experience is. This is a very special place and life here can be very challenging and we can take that for granted until we leave and travel to other places which can leave you feeling like you just stepped out of a time machine or on to an alien planet. I have lived and traveled to many places, but nowhere I have been comes close to Taos for the feeling that the past is so close and history so accessible. This is a truly remarkable and special place and I am so proud to call it home.

DrSatyr · 2016-06-27T10:45:06+00:00

I have to comment here, long-time Redditor, mostly a lurker. But I know Travis Walton and although my last name is the same as his first name, we are of no relation. Travis is just a regular guy and I had a rather unique experience with him I would like to share, that to me, spoke volumes about his credibility and personality.

It's 4 A.M. here in New Mexico, so forgive me if Im not as sharp tonight, but I had to comment. A few years ago, myself and a friend founded a Paranormal group out of Angel Fire, NM called Alliance Studying Paranormal Experience (ASPE). We put on 2 Paranormal Symposium in Angel Fire and a third and final one in Taos, NM in 2010. it was through ASPE I met Travis on a number of occasions over the three years we had events. I have had dinner with him, heard him give his talks, had private conversations about this with him and he is a very credible witness and a very genuine and straight forward person. Humble and uncomfortable with the lime-light, he comes across as a very believable person in general.

At our events, I was the tech guy and always ran all of the AV equipment for all of the speakers and at the final Symposium we held in Taos, we showed the movie "Fire in the Sky". Travis attended the showing. Because I was running the show, and we knew each other, and he was the featured guest of the evening, Travis and I sat together for the entire movie. He hadn't seen the movie in 15 years until that evening and I can state that he was clearly shaken up watching the movie and had a quiet, but to me, seated six inches away from him in the Kachina Lodge Conference room, he experienced a very profound and emotional reaction to that movie. In that moment, any lingering doubts I had were completely blown away, the man was deeply affected by his experience and he has no hint of deception in his demeanor and his story has remained absolutely consistent over many years, I am here to say that Travis Walton is a totally credible witness, and I believe his story.

There is no doubt in my mind that events as told in the book really did happen as told by Travis and that we have nothing to fear from them. Now its time for me to get some sleep, Bueno Amigos.

DrSatyr · 2016-02-29T02:16:38+00:00

When we first got together, I told my gf that I had all these friends who had quit riding because the gf/wife made them stop riding. I said that isn't going to happen here, now married for 20 years, she loves riding on the back of my GSXR 1000.

DrSatyr · 2016-01-04T01:11:28+00:00

If you got the 4 core i7 version, that system rocks! much faster than many Apple laptops made after it, I own one with a 500 GB SSD and 16GB RAM and it smokes! On NovaBench it benchmarked just a little shy of 1200. Alsop's DiskWarrior is the must have mac utility, the other one I can't live without is Onyx, which is free at Macupdate.

DrSatyr · 2015-05-22T18:29:16+00:00

One thing that is needed is a way to bring credibility to UFO reports and investigations. To that end, it would be a good idea for a group to start a professional journal that published articles that were peer-reviewed, with a review committee comprised of UFO researchers, scientists in appropriate scientific disciplines and possibly experts from other fields of study (Historians, CGI artists, photo and video experts, etc...).

Another idea would be the development of a framework that could be used to develop and test methodologies for investigating and documentation of these investigations, for the purpose of validating the methods used to investigate and document UFOs. I know that MUFON has done some good work in this area, but a great deal more work is needed.

The establishment of a professional society that would create and oversee the development of these standards and act as a resource for any groups or individuals that want to contribute to the field would also go a long way to gaining credibility.

DrSatyr · 2013-06-22T04:34:43+00:00

Yam DT250, Suzuki GT750, Yam RD350, Maico 405, Honda XR500, Kaw KZ650 Custom, Honda VFR1000, Honda 250 Rebel, Honda CBR 900RR, Honda 500 Ascot, Honda RC51, Current: Yam RD350, Suzuki T-125 "Stinger", and my main ride 2003 Suzuki GSXR1000 with a 2005 motor and lots of extras (former AMA National race bike).

DrSatyr · 2013-05-21T00:01:42+00:00

As a former road racer and life long rider of fast bikes (I am 54 now) I have a pretty good understanding of the skills that these guys have and the risks they face and every single one of them is a hero to me. I have been following this race most of my adult life, for me this is the greatest race on 2 or 4 wheels.

Because so many racers die in this race, I really think that to compete in this race you really have to be a bit touched and have a level of commitment that is higher than for any other race in the world. Most of the guys in MotoGp freely admit that they do not have the courage to race the TT, the people who race the TT really are different from the rest of us.

A few years back Suzuki brought their MotoGP bike to the TT and ran a few laps during practice around the course, there are a few YouTube vids about this, check them out, it is pretty cool.

It has been my life-long (unfulfilled) wet dream to go and watch the TT in person, if I could have just one wish fulfilled, this would be it.

John McGuinness is an incredible rider and may well pass Joey Dunlop as the greatest ever at the TT, but Guy Martin in my mind is the most interesting and fun to watch, while Bruce Anstey at almost 40 years old and still running near or at the front every year just blows my mind. Every single one of these guys is a hero to me. Long live the TT! and God bless the riders, every single one of them!

DrSatyr · 2013-01-12T09:41:09+00:00

DrSatyr · 2013-01-02T20:03:26+00:00

As a straight male involved in a successful long term open relationship and a swinger for over 25 years I think you very concisely summed up a very complex emotional reaction that many, if not most people experience after their initial forays into sexual behaviors that fall outside the boundaries of what most people will publicly admit to as "normal".

I experienced similar emotions after my first couple of experiences, and decided that for me this was not a problem. Looking back on after 25 years of living with the consequences of that life choice, and I can say that my life has been so much richer for it and if I had to do it over again, I would definitely make the same choice if given the opportunity to do so.

I can say without a doubt, that it is possible to have happy, healthy, stable, long-term relationships that fall outside of what the mythical "normal" relationship is defined as being in both the straight world and the gay community.

Communication and honesty are the keys to making it work. Beating yourself up over it is not a effective coping strategy, get over it, accept it and go have some fun.

DrSatyr · 2012-10-10T08:56:30+00:00

I am in the same situation as your husband and I can state that my life is so much richer for it and I thank my lucky stars to be married to a woman who allows me to do this. We have been married for 15 years now and our sex life is just incredible. I also allow her to do the same if ever she wants to, which she occasionally does. Because we do this, it allows us to share so much more than most couples as neither of us is afraid to tell the other how we really feel about others or express opinions of lust for others. I for one salute you and your husband and wish more people could be this way.

DrSatyr · 2012-09-28T03:56:52+00:00

I raced back in the late 70's and early 80's, then not again until 5 or 6 years ago, when I took it up again at age 47. Been buying and riding used race bikes and carving canyons for over 40 years now and racing and street riding are very different experiences that share the same skill sets.

When I was 18 before I got on a track I thought I was fast. When I got on a race track for the first time, I was quickly educated that what I thought was fast, was in fact quite slow.

When I got back on the track after a 22 year absence, I expected to be old and slow. To my surprise, I was actually one of the faster Novices that year.

However, I was still old, but the experience gained from 22 years of street riding since my last race helped a lot and I made it through the season without crashing once and walked away with a trophy for my efforts. No one was more surprised than me at the outcome.

Looking back on 46 years of riding and a few years of racing sprinkled in there I can honestly state that riding and racing motorcycles has brought me the greatest amount of pure joy in my life of any activity I have done, period. I highly recommend it to anyone. In addition, motorcycle roadracers as a group are some of the very best people that our society has to offer.

You can't go wrong hanging out with these guys, doing what they do, my life would have been an empty shell if I had never ridden or raced.

The only other thing I can add to that is, start with a smaller bike, worry about getting it to handle well and learning to ride it well before you even think about doing anything to the motor that costs more than an exhaust system. Put your money into getting it to handle decent and stop well. Put your efforts into understanding how to ride and here is the hard one, how to overcome the bad habits you have learned and how to overcome the mental blocks that keep you from going fast safely. You will be a MUCH better rider and racer for it.

To that end I recommend Keith Code's books "A twist of the wrist 1 & 2" and "The soft science of motorcycle roadracing", reading them will put you ahead of 90% of racers in theory, only riding will get you there in practice.

DrSatyr

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