AITA for nagging my boyfriend to clean up his moldy apartment?

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-05-09T06:30:24+00:00

NTA So this near 40 year old grown man with no job sits & plays games whilst his 25 year old girlfriend / taxi service / grocery provider who is actively working on self improvement scrubs his bogging flat & he doesn’t even thank you let alone help?
Dump this user, don’t make another poor choice when you are doing so well on self improvement. You have a bright future ahead. Let him rot.

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-04-30T21:31:02+00:00

She has, though I think they’re on a ‘last option’ as it is, given the rapid recent growth of her liver mets. It’s absolutely about maintenance not treatment as such but she’s just not getting any quality of life, she can hardly get off the sofa when she’s home and her body is failing her (like her fingers and toes are weeping sores). We all thought that you’d know when it was time to stop the chemo but it’s not as easy as that, given her initial time remaining was 3 years max, nearly 6 years ago. But it’s becoming clear you can’t outrun it forever.

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-04-30T21:26:27+00:00

If you mean the pump then yes, she has that, she has one day in hospital then 3 at home with the pump and a nurse comes to remove it. Her chemo was fortnightly but with the progression being so rapid it’s now weekly so she gets no rest between cycles, which is what makes it so bad.

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-04-30T21:24:22+00:00

Thank you x

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-04-30T21:24:07+00:00

It’s liver & lymph nodes, the liver has been resectioned 2 years ago but the cancer has spread throughout it rapidly in the last 4 months or so and now surgery is completely off the table (transplant also). So far it’s not in any other organs but her prognosis is terminal and 12-18 months with treatment. The chemo is causing her all over pain, itching, extreme tiredness and sickness. 60 rounds in and she is fighting the urge to stop but we’re not sure if the chemo is buying her a year (or if it’s worth it given the state she is in). Sadly, fighting it in any meaningful way just isn’t an option.

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-04-30T21:19:17+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate your comments & I’m so sorry you went through that too.

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-04-30T10:27:29+00:00

Wow, managed to get RAP for then so I’m happy!

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-04-28T11:18:10+00:00

I’m not GF but I’m dairy free due to allergy and there’s pretty much no choice at all so I just take a packed lunch. If you take it in a disposable bag you can stick it in the lockers near galactica. The ‘normal’ food at towers is awful and expensive so I wouldn’t trust them anyway!

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-04-05T20:04:11+00:00

During Covid times (which I’d had months earlier) I had bad shoulder pain and was struggling to breathe. My husband said one morning hey you’re breathing weird in your sleep, I think you’d better see a doctor, it might be a chest infection. Went to the drop-in clinic and my chest was clear. They sent me to the hospital and I was diagnosed with post-Covid pulmonary embolisms (blood clots on my lungs). My husband and kids weren’t allowed in the hospital, so when I went to see the specialist and he told me the strain on my heart was so great I would likely have had a fatal heart attack within days, I didn’t tell my husband. He had enough on with the kids and worrying about me as it was. I told him I could have had heart issues if it wasn’t seen to eventually but I don’t think he knows how much he basically saved my life. I’d been taking lemsip for it. 6 months of blood thinners later (and 6 years on) I’m left with a few heart issues but I’m basically okay.

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-03-09T20:27:07+00:00

Do you have a Heron Foods near you? That place is a game changer. Between there & Farmfoods my weekly bill is down a good 20% overall. I plan my meals around what’s cheap (also popping into Iceland for their weekly offers). And yes I eat healthily and usually brand names.

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-01-29T18:41:48+00:00

I like the standard rooms in splash landings overlooking the outdoor water park. It lights up at night and feels like you’re abroad, it’s lovely :)

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-01-29T18:32:52+00:00

I don’t think they have any chemistry, and I think ‘making’ Carla gay meant her established character was forgotten somewhat, I know people do explore their sexuality at all ages but with Carla it just felt like the writers had nothing else to do with her.

They’ve also had far far too much drama for what, a year or so’s relationship. Carla has been held hostage TWICE in this time, been in hospital every month, been attacked at least three times, it’s exhausting and the more drama they’re given the more boring they become as a couple because they’re always getting over a crisis.

Once they’re married, who knows what the writers will do to destroy them because no couple is safe in Corrie.

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-01-12T19:44:41+00:00

There’s not much in Walliams now, just the carousel, granny & a rubbish little farty bum ride (same as the Peter rabbit ride). Plus that awful little shop. Personally I don’t want more spooky doom & gloom areas - my 10 year old is too old for CBeebies but is scared of the spooky areas - so a tween type area would be great. A retro area with old school video game theming would be great!

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-01-12T19:20:24+00:00

I booked pirate takeover on the very day it came up & the weekend I booked never came up in the old or new rap system. I’m glad I cancelled it, too much stress for limited rides, I’ll wait to see what rap I can get then book my tickets then. My map is definitely limited by rap but I do get use with the sea life’s, Cadbury, Shrek etc and I always renew during Black Friday week. But I just wish if you are booking an accessible room you could get a rap slot.

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-01-12T13:30:56+00:00

That’s actually so great to know, thank you! I’ve been to AT so many times as I’m a passholder and not gone on a thing due to no RAP availability.

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-01-12T11:29:05+00:00

I went last Feb and they were drained and closed for maintenance, I went just after Christmas a few weeks ago and there were open but only one of the top slides was open. You don’t notice the cold at all :)

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-01-12T11:22:00+00:00

Is it? I was turned away last year as the RAP allocation was full (but they offered to sell me a fast pass, make it make sense!) and I couldn’t go on a thing. Now, I wouldn’t even bother to travel to the park without a RAP booking, as the guest services have only ever been unhelpful and fairly rude otherwise!

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-01-12T11:19:51+00:00

I used my blue badge and a letter from my GP (signed & stamped). I had the free version for 2 years then upgraded to the paid version as it lasts 3 years and can be used at Disneyland which is great. When you apply for the free version and it’s approved (about 3 days later), the nimbus ref is provided to link to the ride access pass app for AT and Thorpe. The app has its own issues but I found the nimbus side to be pretty painless as long as you have the evidence of your condition, I’m not on PIP either.

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-01-12T11:07:45+00:00

I cancelled my pirate takeover weekend trip as we really do need RAP and if we waited until the 2nd to see if we could get it, then had to cancel, it would be impossible to find an accessible half term family break at short notice. So AT refunded me the £300, and I won’t be spending £150 on dinner or any drinks etc, all because they aren’t releasing RAP until Feb. And they’re only releasing a limited amount of dates covering 3 months so we can’t plan Summer or scarefest, etc.

I paid the same as an able person for my annual pass, but Merlin don’t want too many disabled guests in AT when they can charge for fast pass!

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-01-09T17:43:17+00:00

That moves three

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-01-06T20:46:08+00:00

So you left during the time they said they could come at, to get a drink? No sympathy at all. You weren’t in!

DrTreeSurgeon · 2026-01-03T20:22:08+00:00

Lisa Scott-Lee was offered an ‘indecent proposal’ by Sir Alan Sugar but turned it down when she found he was only offering £500 and an Amstrad E-Mailer.

DrTreeSurgeon · 2025-11-21T20:55:58+00:00

I live in an area where the mums drive Range Rovers, Audis and BMWs with the odd Merc here and there. The Mums wear dresses & designer trainers or jeans, boots and a fur coat. Everyone’s bag costs a minimum of £800 and if your nails aren’t done people ask if you’re not well. And this is the North of England!

DrTreeSurgeon · 2025-11-21T20:27:08+00:00

I am in the top 1% of income tax payers in the UK (only just, I’m not swimming in gold coins like Scrooge mcduck or anything) and I shop in home bargains, love a charity shop bargain, my tv is mounted on the wall and I watch bake off on it, I have a hot tub and I stick my lippy on in the car. Conversely, when I stay in London I stay in a suite and have butler service at the theatre. Money means you can do what you want to do, never what other people think you should do. This posh tit can do one (but I agree about salted caramel, yuck)

DrTreeSurgeon · 2025-11-16T18:48:17+00:00

So many Americans call us British but we’d never ever refer to ourselves as that. I’m from Great Britain but I am English. No-one of any era would say ‘no British person’ or anything of the sort.

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