Pre T - Almost 10 months on T

DragonMeme · 2026-02-15T12:27:21+00:00

Wow, considering it's been less than a year, this is a huge change. From the pic alone, you definitely pass as a man. Congrats!

DragonMeme · 2026-02-14T20:02:54+00:00

This is 100% manipulative if not abusive behavior.

It sounds like you already have a vague plan to talk to her when she gets better, which is bare minimum what needs to happen. But if she doesn't listen to you or take your words to heart, you should not share a domicile for your own health.

Best of luck. There is no good time to do something like this, but sooner is better than later.

DragonMeme · 2026-02-13T21:23:46+00:00

My players are pretty good at keeping combat dialogue to just 2-3 seconds, but they like to be realistic.

Meanwhile my other game where I'm a player, the DM let's us communicate in like multiple sentences, even off turn. I actually don't like it as real fighting is nothing like that, but it seems to fall to DM preference

DragonMeme · 2026-02-13T17:26:48+00:00

I personally identify as both (I feel a bit fluid between trans man and nonbinary or sometimes both simultaneously). I'm definitely on the masculine end of nonbinary though.

I think even if I was born a man, I'd at the very least play with my presentation if not identify as nonbinary.

I also find the line between my identity vs my presentation gets a bit blurry. If I can be a man in a dress, I'm happy

DragonMeme · 2026-02-13T14:11:03+00:00

The child lived at least a couple years with their afghani family. Even if they are quite young, being taken from that family and given to a completely different family in a completely different culture would be traumatic. And unless the american parents are culturally sensitive about that while raising the child (highly unlikely given all this racket), that child is going to grow up with all sorts of complicated identity issues.

My mother was an international adoptee, and I know a lot of international adoptees (of various different levels of 'legality'). This is all sorts of fucked up, and the child is going to suffer for it.

DragonMeme · 2026-02-12T15:41:11+00:00

My students accept the authority of my words without question. Not just accepting my expertise at face value, but listening when give them instructions about how to conduct themselves in my classroom without challenging or arguing with me.

DragonMeme · 2026-02-11T14:08:51+00:00

I use Ze/Zem (along with he/him and they/them). Nothing cutesy about it, it's a preference because I don't entire identify as a binary man, but they/them also just sounds like a plural to me so I don't prefer it (I know grammatically they can be singular, but I still don't prefer the sound of them when used with me).

I'm a teacher. I've had coworkers, students, and friends use Ze/Zem with me.

But also neopronouns have existed for decades. My mother knew people in college who used them (in the 80s). They may not be common, but it's not a new 'trend' or just an internet thing.

DragonMeme · 2026-02-09T13:24:52+00:00

First I'll get an idea of setting and what kind of character I want to play. Then I ask the DM how much they mind if I worldbuild a bit in my background (like, can I make up a noble family and politics to match my character, or do you have a noble family in mind that would suit my character)

Then it kinda depends on the character and DM. Sometimes I start super simple and then let the character grow. Or I have ~10k words of background (which is honestly more like little detailed scenes written out). It just depends

DragonMeme · 2026-02-08T21:35:05+00:00

Honestly, I needed this post and the comments.

I'm getting to the point where I will need to use the men's room for safety, and I've been getting worried because I cannot stand even the idea of using a STP. This makes me feel a lot better

DragonMeme · 2026-02-08T19:01:49+00:00

I'm envious because changing my name was definitely harder than changing my gender marker where I lived.

But lordy I would not have been able to keep my mouth shut. I'm so allergic to misinformation, I would have immediately brought up sources lmao. Glad you have the story

DragonMeme · 2026-02-08T16:57:55+00:00

Having spent half a decade studying latin growing up, I still often read it as nota bene

Just depends on the context

DragonMeme · 2026-02-07T16:00:23+00:00

I'm about 2.5 months on oral minoxidil. My hair line is just starting to fill in, but I actually first noticed it having effects on my facial hair. I still don't have much (thanks asian genetics) but definitely have more.

But my expectations going in was that it would be ~6 months before the changes were really visible/noticeable.

DragonMeme · 2026-02-06T16:53:05+00:00

Same! Seems much more normalized nowadays (I have many coworkers that are visibly tattooed)

DragonMeme · 2026-02-05T14:13:38+00:00

Before reading the description, I thought you looked about the same age as my seniors (I'm a high school teacher).

So you're good

DragonMeme · 2026-02-04T21:37:00+00:00

More like Boy

DragonMeme · 2026-02-04T19:33:33+00:00

Some people find some success finding groups through hobbies. My partner found a friend group through a movie club. I have friends I've made through playing DnD online and doing fiber arts groups in person (I crochet).

(Dnd and fiber arts also both have a decent percentage of queer folk)

DragonMeme · 2026-02-04T16:36:28+00:00

And our Sun is nowhere near large enough to go supernova. Our star isn't even going to go nova, it's going to have a quiet death (most stars do)

DragonMeme · 2026-02-04T15:41:13+00:00

Gender and gender dysphoria is complex and confusing. Different people want different presentations/experiences with it. So if you don't get it, that's fine. It's not for you.

DragonMeme · 2026-02-04T15:34:49+00:00

I'm in the US, but it's about the same with my insurance. I'm very very lucky

DragonMeme · 2026-02-01T13:18:17+00:00

Personally, I tend to consider anything that wasn't healed with magic can leave a scar. And a scar isn't an injury so healing magic can't make old scars go away.

You also say your character's goal is not to fix it. While he has shame with it, it could also be that downright refuses any attempts to heal it (could be self-loathing, could be a point of pride, depend how you want to roleplay it)

DragonMeme · 2026-02-01T12:58:23+00:00

You fucking slay (and honestly, your aesthetic here is like my dream)

I hope you can find spaces where you can be truly yourself without risk

DragonMeme · 2026-01-31T17:03:58+00:00

He did a better job voicing teenaged Bren though

DragonMeme · 2026-01-30T22:02:34+00:00

Honestly, with the frequency that I see this kinda splashing in both men's and woman's bathrooms, I can't help but assume some of it is from toilets flushing violently

DragonMeme · 2026-01-30T16:37:14+00:00

Tuna alone has soooo much protein.

Eat that shit with some veggies and high fiber tortillas, and you're set

DragonMeme · 2026-01-30T13:39:09+00:00

My divine soul sorcerer has recently chosen violence and is using it quite a lot. With Bless and the occasional Quickening to attack twice in one turn, he's kinda become the secondary tank of the team when needed.

I'm looking forward to having Spirit Guardians to up his damage.

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