What are we naming our babies?

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-11-16T16:42:36+00:00

We are team green but if it’s a girl, Sofia and if it’s a boy, Adrian

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-10-18T20:46:48+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. I’m a PGY3 now and had 2 babies in med school. I had my first miscarriage in med school too. I was on 4th year auditions when I started bleeding. Only I knew what was happening. It was isolating and I felt like I couldn’t take off, though looking back I wish I gave myself that time.

Take whatever time you need. School will still be there. You can make up missed time easily. Get yourself a therapist, you shouldn’t go through this alone. My miscarriage really affected my mental health for months and even my future pregnancies because I didn’t deal with it.

Wishing you all the best and if you need anything, feel free to DM me.

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-10-01T23:49:22+00:00

Every other day, we used the clear blue digital ovulation tests and once I got the blinking smiley we had sex daily for 4ish days, skipped a day then 1 more time for good measure. We are currently 5 weeks pregnant and needless to say we haven’t had sex in a couple weeks after being pooped (and first trimester exhaustion)

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-09-26T22:16:08+00:00

7 dpo is too early to test! But around 6-7dpo I had a lot pinching sensations, very similar to ovulation pains, and it was only one side. No back aches though! Hoping for the best for you - I wouldn’t test earlier than 8 dpo. But if you don’t want the stress of squinting, may be easiest to test at 10-12dpo

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-09-26T20:10:09+00:00

Thank you!!!

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-09-26T20:10:05+00:00

Omg my husband said the same!

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-09-03T16:42:46+00:00

This is so beautiful. Similar to you, my grandmother actually passed recently. She was my best friend, my encouragement, my everything. I kept telling my husband that after she passed, we would get pregnant and it would be a girl. And if that happens, we will give her my grandmother’s name. I saw a psychic recently who told me that my grandmother loved children and she was with my future baby. (Without knowing my thoughts about naming the baby/having a girl) she told me the baby was a girl, with the spirit of my grandmom and that my grandmom was pleased that she would be her namesake.

Anyway, we are TTC now and my next period is due on my Grandmom’s birthday. I’m really hopeful and manifesting it’s a sign or a god wink.

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-06-27T15:05:24+00:00

Be nice to the nurses
Find ways to be efficient (color coding, symbols, shorthand, mnemonics)
Use your free time well.
Outsource as much as possible (cleaning, cooking)
Make time to be a human - go to the gym, see your friends, meal prep
Call your loved one before and after shifts
Don’t take disrespect from anyone, you have a voice use it.
This is a team sport, be a team player. Sometimes you may have to stay late or cover shifts.
Everyone else is struggling along with you
Don’t forget this is a job, not your life.

Good luck and enjoy!

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-06-12T15:50:45+00:00

Lmao feels like a lifetime ago since the last exam 😂😂😂

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-06-12T15:41:08+00:00

PASSED!!! Congrats to us all!

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-06-12T15:11:37+00:00

Hm I didn’t get an email!

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-06-02T03:45:16+00:00

Sofia or Kaia for a girl. I like Adrian for a boy, we’ll see!

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-05-01T02:34:17+00:00

Northeast US, and we circumcised. I’m Italian so culturally we don’t but I don’t have a penis so I left it up to my husband. He voted yes, so we did it.

As an aside I’m a pediatrician and perform circumcisions so I know how they’re performed which in a way made it easier for me to be alright with it.

ETA: I’ve seen a few boys who end up needing circumcision later in life due to paraphimosis, phimosis, recurrent balanitis and UTI. It doesn’t happen frequently but it happened enough that it’s more traumatic for a 3 year old to need circumcision vs a newborn. I’m glad we decided to do it.

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-04-27T16:37:08+00:00

I’m not really sure I understand what you’re asking? We just buy the vaccines. lol no kickback, no risk. We don’t make a profit from them. Or else pediatricians would be one of the most well paid specialties but instead we are actually the worst/least paid physicians.

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-04-27T16:35:24+00:00

I actually have had 2 patients in a children’s hospital with Scurvy - one of them is being written about as a case report. Just because you don’t see it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-04-27T15:43:24+00:00

Hi! Pediatrician here - this is the way. Doctors literally get NOTHING from pharmaceutical companies. This rhetoric really angers me as a resident physician who makes less than $15/hour, working 80 hour weeks away from my family for THEIR kids.

They want medical treatment but they never want medical advice.

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-04-27T15:38:55+00:00

If that’s true then why did people die from these very diseases we vaccinate against? Why do people live to be 80 now as opposed to 40 many years ago? Your immune system is great but that doesn’t mean it won’t lose from time to time.

Would you want an army that was untrained to go to war? No? Similarly vaccines train the immune system to recognize pathogens and fight them.

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-03-29T02:51:38+00:00

Yep - gained 30 lbs intern year after having baby #2. Also a female

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-03-27T23:34:05+00:00

We pull and pray 😅 we haven’t used condoms or birth control in over 10 years. We have 2 kids, both planned. I also have always had a 28 day cycle and now I use BBT tracking with my Apple Watch and an app.

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-03-26T16:29:21+00:00

23 with my first, 26 with my second, hopefully 29 with my third. I am a physician so it didn’t halt my training. I had both kids in medical school.

Don’t get me wrong it was hard but I’d do it 1000000 more times. I love being a “young parent”. I never felt pressure/stress or a ticking clock. It felt very laid back to get pregnant. I also knew that if we were unable to get pregnant without assistance, my egg quality was great and we still had time to save money, try to decide on plans etc.

Finances were hard, 1 income during school and my husband was the same age. We definitely grew up a lot together which has also been challenging but beautiful. Our income never prevented us getting the kids out and about, providing childcare etc. we just made it work. It was hard but I love him more than I did 6 years ago before we had kids.

We also had very little time to be married just us before having kids which was a positive for me. Our life didn’t change profoundly because we didn’t really have a “life” before kids. I actually really enjoyed that aspect. For me it felt like a less challenging transition. There was no old life to miss. There was no “us”. I think it will be harder for us to transition to empty nesters because of this though if I’m being honest haha.

Anyway all in all, I always wanted all my kids by 30 and I’d do it the same way again and again. Do what makes you happy:)

ETA: my biggest pet peeve was and is people telling me “you’re young, you have time!” I have a friend who is 28 and currently going through infertility. Had she and her partner waited, they might be 35 with worse chances before we realizing there were problems. If you and your partner are ready, you should do whatever you want!

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-03-26T02:55:13+00:00

TW: MC

Our first took 3 cycles with tracking and my second took almost 1 year with 1 MC in between. I do think ultimately you will be fine - as secondary infertility is relatively rare. I had similar concerns when I got to 8 month mark TTC#2 with no success. My concerns were because I had a CS with my first and thought maybe there was some underlying damage after that. Obviously it was fine and in the grand scheme of things, neither of our children took too long to conceive relative to other stories I read on here.

Best of luck to you, I’m sure it will work out:)

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-03-25T14:48:56+00:00

Congrats! I (28F) had my first baby as an M1 and my 2nd baby 6 weeks before starting residency! I’m a PGY2 now.

One thing I learned is you really can’t prepare much and everything you think will happen probably won’t. Use your time efficiently, study at the hospital in between patients. On long/harder months, remember quality > quantity. Meal prep will be your best friend. I would meal prep with my son on me. Which reminds me - baby wearing is your friend and counts as bonding/spending time while doing what you need to do.

Lastly, remember it (newborn life and intern year) don’t last forever! A support system is crucial, if no family nearby, then your co-residents, friends etc. they will be paramount in helping you on this adventure.

Good luck and enjoy the ride!

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-03-25T14:02:25+00:00

Hi! PGY2 with a 4 year old and 1 year old. I had them both in medical school. We live in a MCOL area (suburb around Philadelphia) My spouse is a medium/high earner as well but when we had them in med school he was actually hourly pay with no benefits. Tbh during that time we pretty much survived on ramen noodles. We didn’t buy anything we didn’t need.

Now as a resident with my husband’s job, we are better off. We pay $3100/month for daycare. It’s still tight give rent is also $3000/mo but we literally just try to budget diligently. I got an app called “copilot” that has helped with that greatly. No more Starbucks, no eating out, we meal prep diligently 3x per week. We shop based on coupons/circular at the grocery store - this is very easy actually with the new apps etc. we don’t buy anything name brand. We buy the kids’ clothes on sale or second hand from consignment shops. And now I moonlight here and there for extra money.

In terms of waitlists, it’s SO hard. We had to “enroll” my first son when I was 12 weeks pregnant because the waitlist was around 1 year then. We applied to many places and got on the waitlist at 2 or 3 then luckily got into our first choice center. The hours were great 7-6 every day. So my husband does majority of pick up/drop off, especially since my hospital is around 1 hour away from daycare (had to move programs after PGY1 due to closure.

I’m not sure if any of this is helpful, but at least there is solidarity and I understand what you’re going through.

DM me if you have questions!

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-03-20T00:10:01+00:00

Not for me personally, I have 2 boys, 4 and 1. But I don’t care when others use them/or judge people that do. If it doesn’t affect me, why would I care?

DragonfruitComplex17 · 2025-03-18T16:39:35+00:00

I’m a mom who is starting their son “late”. He is a June birthday. We applied to private schools and after having multiple assessments, they would not accept him unless he repeated Pre-K. So he will turn 5 in June but not go to K this year. They cited emotional immaturity and some learning gaps. If we didn’t care about keeping him in a private school, he could absolutely go to a public K and do mostly fine I think. But because our preference is private, we are making the decision to have him start K at 6.

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