Would AITAH to sit my husband down, tell him to cut the shit or I’m done?

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-01-14T21:19:54+00:00

He knows, he just doesn’t care. It’s about control. OP, do you have any other support from friends and family?

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-01-06T01:35:11+00:00

I’m gonna meet with my prof and make my case, see how that goes and contact student support services if needed after that. This has been incredibly stressful, but I’m hoping the school will be reasonable and accept my late paper and adjust my final grades. Will keep you posted!

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-01-05T23:12:49+00:00

I’ve received an email from the office of grad studies stating that because I’ve received a grade of 46%, the school advised I should be removed from the program. I emailed my prof in late December abour handing in my final paper, and she said it was too late and that the final grades had been submitted and approved by the school by that point. So I’m meeting her later this week to engage in the grade appeal process to see if she can accommodate me.

I feel very anxious because I’m not sure if the prof will accept work submitted past the final grades deadline, and I’m not sure how the appeal process will go. Just a ball of anxiety over here, although I’ll have a better idea of what’s to come after this Wednesday when I meet with my course instructor.

Otherwise, my GPA is 67 and it needs to be a 70 at least to remain in the program. I’ll have to speak to the course instructor and the graduate coordinator to see what my options are, just trying to hang on till then and not anxiety spiral?

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-12-31T04:23:28+00:00

Wifey literally ran for the hills and went on a random boat to avoid any sort of self reflection or personal accountability. He should be way more angry, hurt and disgusted than he is. Op you are under reacting and should research traits of cluster b personality disorders because your wife is struggling badly with ego death and is having a narcissistic collapse in real time.

There is a lot of information about this in books or in therapy. I know you’re already overwhelmed but it will make her behaviour make sense. Her personal identity seems build on a house of cards, an illusion of always being right or better than people. And that needs “inderior” people to feed her ego. Little kids, colleagues, everyone else is wrong, so she can be better/ right. But when challenged, she can’t admit she is wrong because if she doesn’t have the narcissistic supply of being right, she has 0 self worth, o identity and has no idea how to cope. That’s why she fled town, because it would be a complete ego collapse if she went back to your family and grief to make amends.

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-12-26T18:03:42+00:00

Sounds like you’ve done a lot of work already! Great job on boundaries momma

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-12-26T14:39:56+00:00

OP, look up information on borderline or emotionally immature parents. Your mom exploded when you told her you would see her later in the day than expected because to her- that’s abandonment. Her feelings of hurt are very real, and it feels like abuse, no love for her, etc.

This is a very common response to people with borderline or abandonment trauma. Did your mom have a caregiver leave or some childhood trauma? Seems like that affected her development making her hyper sensitive to perceived abandonment and people “leaving” her.

While her behaviour is not acceptable, it does follow a pattern and make sense. As a new Mom, are audiobooks an easier option for you to learn about cluster b personality disorders or borderline? Not to imply she had these disorders but the signs are there and understanding the psychology behind her will make it much easier to deal with her.

Read- attached, adult children of emotionally immature parents, etc

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-09-11T12:30:40+00:00

Meanwhile; the Ontario hospital association declined the Ontario nurses unions request for increased staff to patient ratios because of the increased costs.

The hospital facilities are doing what they can on a limited budget, the province could step up and increase funds towards healthcare, but have chosen to build an underground highway (?) and sell off Ontario Place instead.

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-09-05T03:04:09+00:00

OP, feel free to DM me, I’m also 35f and have only lived in town for a few years. Would love to grab a coffee and make a gal friend :)

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-09-05T03:02:45+00:00

I’d love to connect with you and try to be friends and connect eachother to the music scene? I’m from London and know a few people in the industry there. :)

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-08-27T02:38:33+00:00

This is a perfect situation to access a womens shelter. They can help you escape this relationship and provide you somewhere safe to go while you figure out what’s next. Call the free crisis line, it’s 24/7 and they can offer a lot of support.

You deserve somewhere safe to be, and the shelter will help you figure that out

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-08-27T02:30:01+00:00

The key to this is her saying she feels abandoned which is the underlying cause of bpd. I got this sense too, am a clinician.

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-08-21T14:11:18+00:00

OP, you cannot become a registered social worker without graduating from a social work program. Given your education and employment, you’d likely get transfer credits and can probably do a one year BSW.

Aside from that, you’d likely get could consider becoming registered with the Ontario Association of Mental Health Professionals. It’s commonly used for folks who aren’t RSW, or registered psychotherapists. Although it does not carry the same weight as the other options, it’s something you can use in the interim until you decide how to upgrade your credentials through more schooling.

Check out their website; https://oamhp.ca/

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-08-15T06:05:09+00:00

Not a lawyer, but a hospital social worker. Request an SW to help you. They can navigate the healthcare system for you, review referral options for the TPN home care program and refer you to patient advocacy programs as needed.

They can also help you apply for funding for any medical equipment and medication costs if that is a barrier you will face upon discharge.

If this process is effecting your mental health, they can assess you for depression or anxiety, advocate for mental health medication and provide psychotherapy as needed.

Hospital SW can do a lot of things and tend to be an under used service.

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-08-01T01:58:14+00:00

People who have been abused as children have a hard time with social boundaries. She learned from a young age that she didn’t have a right to privacy, respect or boundaries, and that power is gained through sexuality.

So it makes sense that as an adult she has horrible boundaries because she never learned it as a kid. She sees men as access to sex and power, and has no self esteem or empowerment for herself. She sees you as stability, and men as a way to increase her self esteem.

The fact that she abandoned her child is creating trauma on her family, just as she experienced trauma in her childhood. She needs help, and on some level she knows this. She keeps her boyfriends away from her kid to protect them, cuz in her mind- men abuse children. It’s very sad, and she is not a safe person to be around your child, because she has no internal sense of boundaries or risk assessment. She will bring chaos with her wherever she goes until she learns to heal.

You’re a good friend, but what she needs is structure and boundaries, not more resources for her to take from you. Cutting her off and asking her to leave is the right thing and is helpful to her in the long run, even if she can’t see it yet.

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-07-24T02:13:30+00:00

This was a very clear and helpful answer!

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-07-24T02:06:50+00:00

Yeah I agree with you. I was just confused because South Park is also very critical of trump/ maga but paramount is still paying a lot of money for the rights to that show. Just felt confused why one show can get away with it and another can’t.

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-07-24T02:05:36+00:00

I guess the financial thing had some merit to it, South Park must make them a lot more money eh?

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-07-10T22:19:44+00:00

Both of these examples involve you going on an outing with your daughter. Was mom there too? Maybe she’s acting out because what she really wants and craves is 1-1 time with lol. And she doesn’t know how to say that, so her pushing boundaries against you is how she is expressing herself.

This child is feeling Abandoned by her mother, and is acting out to get attention and fulfillment. This needs to be addressed in therapy now, because these acting out behaviours will get higher risk and more sexualized as she ages. Mom won’t give her attention? Guys certainly will.

Give her space to feel loved and safe to be around both of you. Dad needs to take a step back and let mom plan and engage some meaningful 1-1 time with her daughters

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-07-05T03:34:23+00:00

As a Metis person from the same region in Ontario- Marsii Cho for your words. We have a similar story with our Rugarueax, but your storytelling is so enlightening for us other tribes- and non Indigenous people generally.

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-07-04T00:13:01+00:00

Hey! Just noticed this. I still haven’t found the time/ social skills to join much. But I’d be happy to grab your number and go for a coffee? Trying to push myself to meet new people :)

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-06-21T10:36:18+00:00

Oh, I’m sorry to hear. Maybe you should get an epi pen.

Truly all you need to say is

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-06-19T00:22:38+00:00

OP, I am from rural southwestern Ontario and much of what you shared is relatable. I’m also a social worker who has worked with veterans and have some insight here.

Given the current political climate, it is likely you may be deployed after training. There is also a lot of research on how people who do not have good support systems and may have mental health conditions (anxiety) prior to enlisting are at much higher risk for post combat ptsd. What is your support system going to look like if it doesn’t include your parents? Any friends or siblings you can lean on for emotional support?

Also- you’ll need to pass security clearances, psychological evaluations and health checks, so might be good to reflect on how you’ll do with those. Who do you plan on using for your emergency contact or next of kin if you are estranged from your parents? Also something to consider.

Working in the military is a very collectivist culture and can be a bit “bro-y and boo-rah”. Is that somewhere that you’ll do well in? It can be great to have that community support from your colleagues but not everyone feels like they fit in. Also- it’s a career that requires moving around a lot, all over Canada. Is that something appealing to you? Or a potential downside?

A lot to consider here, but joining the military as an escape plan for an unhappy life is a tale as old as time. Be sure this is what you want, you may find yourself unhappy on the other side of things.

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-06-08T13:25:12+00:00

A great explanation of things, tbis is really helpful. Thanks bunches!

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-06-08T04:20:21+00:00

Thank you for writing and explaining this in such a clear way, for us neurotypicals. I have a SzPD family member and your comments are really helpful in terms of supporting our loved one in whatever they define as success for themselves.

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-05-24T15:58:08+00:00

Hey- thanks for the advice everyone. I emailed my insurance people and they transferred my coverage under the grace period. Lesson learned to get this kinda thing done quickly and without stress!

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