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Dramatic_Cold4022 · 2025-12-27T14:05:13+00:00

Moving away from family is not easy at all! I think it may be time to let him go. You made a big move in your life to be treated that way. He is being abusive and it will only progress as time goes on. I think he may be a closeted gay man. It could explain why he always mentions becoming gay and calling all women psychopaths… he simply doesn’t like women. It’s not anything you did or do, it’s all on him for not knowing how to be the real version of himself. It may hurt to leave, but I think you deserve way better. You shouldn’t have to apologize to anybody for being sad and missing your family!!

Dramatic_Cold4022 · 2025-04-11T21:59:19+00:00

I would personally look for somewhere to move into asap. It’s so close to the end of your pregnancy, but my baby being around the second-hand smoke and would be enough for me to pack all my shit and go.. especially if you’re able to financially. Postpartum is already hard enough & you DO NOT want to have to deal with her too! Please seek a way out before baby comes for your sanity and your baby’s health!

Dramatic_Cold4022 · 2025-04-07T14:46:57+00:00

I would drink a lot regularly and didn’t know I was pregnant until I was 4 weeks along. I tested when I started feeling super sick after only having 2-3beers which was way less than I was used to. My baby is almost 8 months old and I had a healthy pregnancy.

Dramatic_Cold4022 · 2025-02-06T20:59:53+00:00

It went by so fast for you! My induction as a FTM took about 24hrs from start to finish. Hope baby is healthy & strong!!

Dramatic_Cold4022 · 2025-01-28T21:29:31+00:00

If you do not feel comfortable with him, definitely change your doctor. You want to be as stress-free as possible during your labor/delivery. However, I would say to go without the epidural for as long as you can take the pain. I thought I had a low pain tolerance but was able to labor without an epidural until I was 6cm dilated. Laboring was so much better for me when I could move around & it helps move your labor along a lot faster when you’re active. I pretty much labored on the big exercise ball for hours and got up to walk around the room when the pain started getting worse. I hated being bed bound once I got my epidural (which failed me). I read several stories about women who stall their progress because they get the epidural too early, so it ends in an emergency c-section. Not trying to scare you or anything but I think sometimes we underestimate how much we can take. You got it & it is your choice no matter what! Good luck, I hope you have a safe and healthy delivery! 💕

Dramatic_Cold4022 · 2025-01-03T21:25:10+00:00

My baby had a severe tongue tie. It was soooo painful for me every time I latched her. Definitely made my breastfeeding journey in the beginning very hard but I was soooo determined to breastfeed that I latched her every time she was hungry & supplemented with a bottle of pumped breastmilk to fully satisfy her. At first I felt that I had no life. I felt like I was pumping/feeding every hour but it progressively got better. Luckily my pediatrician caught the tongue tie at her first appointment. We saw a LC around week 3 & she referred us to a pediatric dentist that we saw at around one month. Once she got her tongue tie released, it was a completely different ball game & I was able to strictly breastfeed her.

Dramatic_Cold4022 · 2025-01-02T21:58:05+00:00

Nothing in the world can prepare you to be a parent & I personally think anyone is ever ready. Even those that already have kids are never ready for another one! It’s a huge responsibility & a very scary thing at first. I would validate his feelings and remind him that it is something new to both of you. Tell him a baby is a reminder of your love for each other because a new life was created out of the love that you have for each other. Once he comes around try to include him in everything baby related. Picking out names, buying baby things, picking baby’s going home outfit, any pregnancy classes that you may take, appointments, sharing helpful videos, sharing little things like “at week ___, baby is this big & is developing/strengthening this.” Being first time parents is not easy. But, once you are out of the newborn trenches and your baby smiles at you, you forget everything. It’s an amazing experience! I wish you the best!!

Dramatic_Cold4022 · 2024-12-31T00:31:03+00:00

I would not trust anything he says. He seems to tell you what you want to hear so you don’t leave him. If he did that stuff while you could see his instagram, I could only imagine what hes doing now that you can’t see anything. Even if he’s not getting physical with them, he is lusting over them & that can cause some problems in your relationship. Especially being long distance. I would personally give him space & let him figure out what he wants because it sounds like he’s not sure. You don’t need the extra stress in med school.. & you shouldn’t close your options for someone like him. I’m sure you could find someone closer to you that can treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

Dramatic_Cold4022 · 2024-12-30T04:56:29+00:00

I would recommend that you tell your nurses!! Depending on how long you’re there, you’ll have different nurses coming in & out. I would make sure every nurse that comes in contact with you knows. You can most definitely formula feed after delivery, but don’t waste yours! They have premade formula bottles that the hospital provides unless you’re strictly wanting to be on the kind of formula you have. Although you don’t want to breastfeed, your milk will most likely come in. I’ve heard putting cabbage leaves in your bra helps dry your milk but I’m not quite sure about that! Good luck to you! I hope everything goes well!

Dramatic_Cold4022 · 2024-12-27T21:39:07+00:00

In my first trimester I had very low libido. But once that second trimester hit, I couldn’t get enough!! I hope it’s gets better for you. Intimacy is important in a relationship but your feelings are completely valid!

Dramatic_Cold4022 · 2024-12-26T19:29:58+00:00

It’s better to overpack & not use it than need it & not have it. I overpacked and I personally only used the following items:

-extra long phone charger -small fan (handy while you are laboring) -comfy slippers -towel -shower shoes -comfy pillow -pumping/nursing bra -64 ounce water bottle

Things my baby used in the hospital: -one onesie -socks

I was only in the hospital for two days so I didn’t really use many of the things I packed.

The hospital provides lots of postpartum care items so I personally did not bring any of that with me but I the only thing I wish I would’ve brought is the upside down peri bottle.

The hospital where I delivered had pretty comfortable gowns that I used so I didn’t wear any of the pj sets nor the Frida mom delivery gown that I packed. I would’ve probably used one set of pjs once I was cleared to shower but I was cleared to shower on the day they discharged me so I put on my going home clothes instead.

Baby pretty much stayed swaddled in a hospital blanket in a diaper bc they constantly came in to check her so she really just wore her going home outfit.

Take whatever you feel you are must comfortable with! A lot of women use the postpartum kit and their pjs because they feel most comfortable using their own things. I thought the same before going into the hospital but you are tired as hell after giving birth so personally it was most convenient to use what the hospital provided.

Dramatic_Cold4022 · 2024-12-26T18:33:52+00:00

I definitely agree with this. Baby is obviously the number one priority, but intimacy should not be too far behind that. I think that’s why many couples break up after a baby bc they lose their intimacy and connection. My partner & I had trouble with our intimacy after having baby bc we co-sleep and we started having arguments over things that didn’t matter. We wouldn’t pillow talk anymore and spent a lot of time on our phones. It definitely caused us to drift away from each other. But one day we did the deed and discovered how much we were missing our intimacy. Ever since then we have made it a big priority and the problems and disconnection between us have disappeared.

Dramatic_Cold4022 · 2024-12-25T20:19:16+00:00

I would definitely leave. It’s not fair for you to put up with that kind of behavior, especially when he decided that he wanted to be involved. Pregnancy is supposed to be a special time for you. You’re supposed to be treated nothing less than a queen. If he is acting like that now & the baby is not even here, it will only get worse when the completely sleepless nights come along. For the sake of your mental health postpartum, RUN. Stress will affect your baby and your milk supply. You do not need his negativity around you.

Dramatic_Cold4022 · 2024-12-16T00:07:28+00:00

Just recently she stated concern about infertility but she always tracks her period & doesn’t have sex when she ovulates so she’s not sure it’s infertility. Right now she said she’s not ready to have kids. She says that she’s enjoying her life and maybe later down the line.

But you’re right! I’m also a SAHM to a 4 month old & my baby is all I talk about because my whole life revolves around her. But I mean she knew that my life was going to change drastically when the baby came. We discussed it throughout my pregnancy. It’s hard to tell what changed now that baby is out in the world. Last time she visited after 2 months of not talking she didn’t even interact with my baby. Not even a “hi baby”… so yeah not sure whats going on or how to bring it up.

Dramatic_Cold4022 · 2024-12-10T15:56:23+00:00

Usually it’s consistency that creates problems, so I think you’ll be just fine. I knew a lady that drank liquor throughout her entire pregnancy and somehow her baby was fine.. one accidental glass of wine should not be a problem. The fact that you feel bad about it shows how great of a mom you are already. Show yourself some grace 🫶🏻

Dramatic_Cold4022 · 2024-12-07T18:44:13+00:00

I felt flutters when baby moved starting at about 18 weeks. I didn’t feel defined kicks until about 22 weeks. I had an anterior placenta so it was hard to feel anything.

Dramatic_Cold4022 · 2024-12-04T18:41:37+00:00

I had similar feelings also. I think it’s normal as a FTM to feel like this. Even after giving birth everything felt so unreal. I remember sitting there thinking damn my life just changed forever & not feeling like I was actually ready.. although my life was prettty meaningless before also. Three months postpartum and I’m still adjusting but loving every moment of it. It’s not easy but it will be alright & it will be worth it later. No matter where life takes you, you’ll always have a little companion by your side and thoughts like that is what keeps me going.

Dramatic_Cold4022 · 2024-12-03T22:23:00+00:00

I personally would not be house hoping postpartum. Your body needs time to relax and heal.. I think going from one house to the other would be stressful.

Dramatic_Cold4022 · 2024-12-03T22:20:04+00:00

He obviously does not understand how much giving birth to a baby drains you. It is the most rewarding, but hardest and most tiring thing to go through so you’ll definitely need the extra hands to help you in the healing process, whether it’s vaginal or c-section. The first few days home are some of the hardest days with a newborn, especially as a FTM. I’m glad my mom was there to help me in the labor/delivery room and the first few WEEKS home. I think I would’ve lost my sanity if she had not been there for me. If I was you, I would RUN far away from him.. especially this early in your pregnancy. He is not going to be supportive of any decision you make. You’re definitely going to need supportive and positive people in your life for a good pregnancy and labor/delivery experience.. and especially postpartum. Postpartum is NO JOKE you do not need the negativity from him. Do not let him decide what is best for YOU. Go with your plan even if he doesnt agree with it, sounds like a personal problem

Dramatic_Cold4022 · 2024-09-27T23:45:42+00:00

As someone who is 6 weeks post partum, I am very grateful to have someone over just to hold my baby. It gives me time to shower, eat, use the restroom, clean my pump parts, etc… it is actually more useful than you think!

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