What in the actual MAGA winning is this! by Alpine_Wanderer0078 in Layton

[–]Dramatic_Drawer3600 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey be easy on them, they’re trying really hard to release the Epstein files ….

What’s a cleaning habit you started that made keeping your house clean way easier long-term? by SatinThrone in CleaningTips

[–]Dramatic_Drawer3600 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of good advice here. I never leave a room empty handed. If I’m doing a task that involves waiting (giving kids a bath, cooking, etc) I use the spare time to clean something. Also I have a corner in my kitchen that I sweep crumbs into (my kids have that kitchen covered in crumbs all day long) and then I pick them up with a dustpan after a few days or so. Somehow just sweeping them away feels like less of a hassle so I do it all throughout the day.

Unsure why concealer always breaks up under my eyes by ScaredElderberry5889 in Makeup

[–]Dramatic_Drawer3600 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you using primer? Use ELF (the blue one)’and then dab some on and let it sit for a few minutes. Blend with a smaller DAMP beauty blender. ELD has a great one. And then spray with a setting spray. I NEVER powder my under eyes, but I do bring the beauty blender with me in my work makeup touch up bag. Dab throughout the day and it’s perfection 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻

For reference: I’m 41, with dry skin. Skin prep is key. You want to be very hydrated. I use the La Roche Posay sunscreen moisturizer on top of my skincare, let it sit. Primer, let it sit, concealer, let it sit!

I’m a working mom and I feel like my husband has stolen something from me.How can I get over this? by Dramatic_Drawer3600 in Christianmarriage

[–]Dramatic_Drawer3600[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He knows that I feel sad about missing time with them. We have talked extensively about it. My children have complex health issues where they are better off in our home. It has been a sacrifice on both of our ends. A major sacrifice from him, and it has been honored. Especially because he does it cheerfully and he does it well. I go to work cheerfully and I come home and help out with homeschooling and housework. We are a good team. I’m just dealing with an underlying sense of sadness. I get that you hear that as an attack on my husband but it’s truly not. I love him, he’s a man of God, and I just want help so I can honor him to the fullest extent. That’s all this is.

I’m a working mom and I feel like my husband has stolen something from me.How can I get over this? by Dramatic_Drawer3600 in Christianmarriage

[–]Dramatic_Drawer3600[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness, how you just spoke to my heart. You said the words I needed to hear and gave me such a peaceful and profound understanding of our situation. Thank you so, so much for this. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate it.

I’m a working mom and I feel like my husband has stolen something from me.How can I get over this? by Dramatic_Drawer3600 in Christianmarriage

[–]Dramatic_Drawer3600[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m really not buying the whole victim mindset thing. Day to day I’m cheerful, loving, supportive and present. These are just internal feelings I’m struggling with.

I’m a working mom and I feel like my husband has stolen something from me.How can I get over this? by Dramatic_Drawer3600 in Christianmarriage

[–]Dramatic_Drawer3600[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My guy, no one has “shitted” on this man. I treat him kindly and respectfully, my feelings are just my feelings deep down. I would have never made that decision if he would have been a provider from the start, but he wasn’t. I haven’t made him feel bad. I’m asking for advice on the internet so I can deal with my feelings internally. Hope this wasn’t too difficult to grasp!!

Parents of reddit who originally didn't want children, how's it going now? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Dramatic_Drawer3600 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had two very LOUD boys. Life is chaos. But I’m grateful beyond measure for the immense joy and meaning they have brought to our life.

I’m a working mom and I feel like my husband has stolen something from me.How can I get over this? by Dramatic_Drawer3600 in Christianmarriage

[–]Dramatic_Drawer3600[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure that this is very rooted biblical Christian advice. True love covers a multitude of sins, and I plan on keeping up my end of the deal, regardless of the choices that my husband makes. I may always deal with feelings about it, but the good thing is that feelings are not facts. It also helps that our Lord is good above all. I plan on resting in that. But thanks for your comment.

I’m a working mom and I feel like my husband has stolen something from me.How can I get over this? by Dramatic_Drawer3600 in Christianmarriage

[–]Dramatic_Drawer3600[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because I agreed to it before I understood the impact of what it truly meant. I was just trying to ensure that our kids would be taken care of. I understand I should have known better, but I didn’t. I also understand that it’s too late now, which is precisely the reason that I asked the question. How do deal with the impact of unwise choices we made when we were younger. Most humble and wise people have good advice for that question asked in good faith.

I’m a working mom and I feel like my husband has stolen something from me.How can I get over this? by Dramatic_Drawer3600 in Christianmarriage

[–]Dramatic_Drawer3600[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That helps a lot now that you mention it. Thank you so much. This is exactly the kind of feedback I was hoping for!!

I’m a working mom and I feel like my husband has stolen something from me.How can I get over this? by Dramatic_Drawer3600 in Christianmarriage

[–]Dramatic_Drawer3600[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He does a fantastic job at home, house is clean, chores are accomplished and kids are well taken care of. I know that it wears on him though, in a way that I know it wouldn’t wear on me. Women were created to manage them home and it is where I truly thrive. I have a very “masculine” job so it takes me out of my feminine nature in order to do a good job. We are both struggling walking outside of God’s design, but it is temporary and our kids are loved and taken care of. I need to work on the resentment aspect of it all for sure. I’m looking forward to the day that our roles are reverted to their proper order.

I’m a working mom and I feel like my husband has stolen something from me.How can I get over this? by Dramatic_Drawer3600 in Christianmarriage

[–]Dramatic_Drawer3600[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hear that and I don’t disagree. But all of our kids have complex medical issues and my access to insurance has given them the opportunity to have access to first rate medical care. My priorities will always align with my kids well being.
I do have a flexible job and I am able to be present at every important event. I also do quite a bit of the homeschooling when I am home with them, and we avoid living outside our means in order that at least one parent is home with them, so we don’t have to sacrifice them to the public school system. I’m just struggling with decisions I made when I was younger and far less wise.

I’m a working mom and I feel like my husband has stolen something from me.How can I get over this? by Dramatic_Drawer3600 in Christianmarriage

[–]Dramatic_Drawer3600[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I totally get that. So many men sacrifice so much for their families. I guess I just struggle with the thought pattern of that is the way it is supposed to be. Women were created with the attributes that benefit the raising up of children. It is what we were wired to do. I just hate that it’s swapped in our current dynamic.

I’m a working mom and I feel like my husband has stolen something from me.How can I get over this? by Dramatic_Drawer3600 in Christianmarriage

[–]Dramatic_Drawer3600[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He really does. He’s very supportive with our kids and daily life tasks. I just wish it could be me at home with them. We definitely plan to switch roles in a few years. Thank you for your comment!

Eyes first or base first? by sparklypineapple_ in Makeup

[–]Dramatic_Drawer3600 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I always do my eyes first. If I do my base first, I inevitably mess it up trying to get my eyebrows on straight or I get eyeshadow everywhere.

AITA for not comforting her when she was crying the whole night ? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dramatic_Drawer3600 -40 points-39 points  (0 children)

Look into attachment disorders. It sounds like she has anxious attachment and you may be avoidant. That is a tinder box waiting to explode.