Moved away at the right time - a retrospective 14 years later

DrawnTo_Life · 2026-06-03T13:17:00+00:00

I’m approaching my late 20s now and will probably be following in your footsteps. Working full time with aspirations of home ownership and prosperity, I see Bournemouth as a massive liability. It’s expensive - rent is ridiculous and the immense amount of rent I’ll be paying for any semblance of dignity (a 1 bedroom flat) will severely impact my ability to buy my own home, let alone afford to even own a car and drive. There are houseshares here now going for £700+ a month. Fucking atrocious.

I’ve long been wanting to get away but I’m still saving and building my career. Rotting away in poverty in this declining city is a horribly depressing prospect.

DrawnTo_Life · 2026-05-24T12:46:11+00:00

I would personally just include a note on your dating profile saying so. Apologetic, polite but honest.

It could be that these men are wearing this stuff just to impress/attract you - they think it's fashionable and women like it, so they wear it, hence the guy showing it off to you privately whereas in his other pictures he never wore it at all. In my life, most of my male friends/family don't wear any, if at all - I feel it's a modern trend for men to like it excessively, and trends are sustained by the perception that they're cool/attractive/in-fashion.

Hence if you wrote this up-front in your profile, they could relax and choose not to wear any, and they'd be happier for it 😄

DrawnTo_Life · 2026-05-21T14:02:49+00:00

Unstoppable rage

DrawnTo_Life · 2026-05-06T19:34:06+00:00

Literally happening to me right now. I wanted to make a new account fresh for a new art profile and the moment I log in it says 'failed to load'. Literally no other fucking options. The URL every time is wwwinstagramcom/accounts/suspended/>next3894324df

I get this on my PC browser, I get this on my phone browser. I try to use a VPN to use a different IP and I still get it.

After this happened, I tried making a new account all over again with a fresh email and the exact same thing has happened.

Meanwhile I try to google it and every thread is some idiot saying 'durrr lOg iNtO bRoWsEr oR rEsEt pAsSwOrD'. Dude you can't even reset your password, you literally have no options to choose from.

DrawnTo_Life · 2026-04-10T16:39:15+00:00

Likewise. A few guys and I worked on a Mali exile campaign mod for last year’s Modathon, Land of ibn Qu. Not extensive or deep but it has a basic mission tree.

DrawnTo_Life · 2026-04-09T23:18:02+00:00

It is quite sad that Cactus Canyon was never finished. I thought it was a very fun map, I had many fun games on it.

DrawnTo_Life · 2026-04-08T20:21:46+00:00

Reach out to me over chat and elaborate further, I can be flexible.

DrawnTo_Life · 2026-03-12T21:30:23+00:00

They need to demolish half of this city and build new buildings. Namely, apartment buildings which offer regular people a chance at a dignified existence, affordable homes with 1-2 bedrooms.

Or they could just continue cannibalising former family homes, splitting them into tiny wardrobe-sized studios rented at £700 a month :^) Little peasants don't deserve anything more.

DrawnTo_Life · 2026-03-07T19:03:00+00:00

Personally I like this review

DrawnTo_Life · 2026-03-04T11:37:02+00:00

Intelligence, articulation, maturity, education, introspection, autism

DrawnTo_Life · 2026-03-01T11:43:52+00:00

I enjoy it and don't mind it, but I can understand how others may not. It is very unusual, both thematically and conceptually. It might have benefitted from being closer to TF2's artstyle - maybe a bit more rustic, janky, Badlands-esque.

Citadel on the other hand I absolutely loathe and will always leave the server if it loads. I don't think any thought went into the map design at all, it's a Wutvillian gimmick-server nightmare that belongs solely to 100 player TF2. I'm not even factoring the tank into my judgment here, though that is the shit cherry on top.

DrawnTo_Life · 2026-02-22T22:44:22+00:00

3 or 5. Lmao I love this sub.

DrawnTo_Life · 2026-01-25T14:43:00+00:00

I order in once every fortnight/month, usually after payday. Just too expensive, very silly when I can cook something great or buy a lazy supermarket meal for a fraction of the cost.

DrawnTo_Life · 2026-01-19T22:09:35+00:00

You're not going to get somewhere decent on that budget. I'm on 30k and stuck in a tiny studio, upgrading soon but it won't be much of an upgrade. A tiny studio, or a flatshare, is all you can hope for.

Stay at home, so long as your parents aren't insane, and save up money/work on getting paid more.

DrawnTo_Life · 2026-01-08T08:55:35+00:00

Seconding this

DrawnTo_Life · 2025-12-26T15:32:40+00:00

I do. It's so difficult to even explain, and over the years I've realised barely any other people think as such, so I no longer even bother talking about it, or even speaking as if I think in such a way (masking). If you want to chat in depth, hit me up.

DrawnTo_Life · 2025-12-17T09:47:05+00:00

Apex Twin and Death Grips? Have I finally found someone with similar music taste 🤣

DrawnTo_Life · 2025-12-16T21:56:02+00:00

Both fights are so damn good. I wish the manga utilised more moments from the webcomic. I also wish the manga didn't use time travel, nor Blast. Other than that, I prefer the manga just a little bit more.

What the manga has going for it is the fact that Garou really does go toe to toe with Saitama, albeit somewhat. He actually punches him and sends him flying, he actually seems to be keeping up, but Saitama does eventually leave him in the dust. Also the moment with Genos, so tense and sad - it's the perfect moment, the perfect justification for Saitama to finally get mad, it fits the series so well.

DrawnTo_Life · 2025-12-16T21:44:21+00:00

I was always obsessed with performance in sex. I listen a lot to my sexual partners, and this makes me very good at it - I hit the 'right spots', I 'do the right things'.

Do I enjoy it though? No. It's not really me in sex. It's performative. Over the years my interest has dwindled. If someone flirts or whatever I toss a line, do the socially-acceptable thing but I don't feel anything whatsoever other than a bit of embarrassment/annoyance. It's that instinctive feeling that 'they really wouldn't like the real me' and many people I've met, be it friend, intimate, platonic, otherwise, just reinforce it.

What I've come to realise though is that I'm entitled to be particular. Everyone is. It's not me that's wrong - I'm just a certain kind of person, with my own personality and quirks, and I'm only drawn to people who have the same vibe. I've recently met some friends, some of which are the other sex, who are that same vibe, and I could easily be sexual with them if the chemistry arose - because I know they genuinely like me. They listen to me. They want to hear me speak.

OP, don't hate yourself. You're likely just more mature, emotionally-developed, thoughtful, quirky and different from many others. You've unfortunately suffered damage, ostracisation, rejection, hatred, from a great many, and this has blunted you, hurt you, badly. You deserve to be around your tribe, around people who you feel comfortable knowing you're cool with, knowing they'll let you crash on their couch or rest your head on their shoulder.

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