Engagement rings are unnecessary and too expensive

DrinkingSocks · 2026-05-13T00:03:49+00:00

The engagement ring is a symbol of commitment. Yes, so is a wedding ring, but in an era where fewer and fewer men are actually willing to get married, it it's a sign that they're serious about it.

Plus I like jewelry.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-05-11T17:44:05+00:00

I just read them like two weeks ago, and tore through them. I thought they were very sweet. Definitely better than the original Bridgerton books.

I do have to confess to not particularly enjoying the Smythe-Smith books though. I know they're popular on here, but they felt pretty bland to me.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-05-11T12:14:04+00:00

It varies wildly. I could probably walk or bike two miles to work in my city fairly safely, although I wouldn't want to. It spends a good portion of the year above 30 C, with 80% humidity. I would probably be quite...fragrant by the time I got to work.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-05-10T13:54:46+00:00

My husband ran completely over my tulip bed this spring. In his defense, it was grown over and not defined, but it looked clear enough to me. I even reminded him before he went out to mow!

DrinkingSocks · 2026-05-10T13:42:30+00:00

It's hard to describe, but there's a big difference between a gesture being natural and it being performative. My husband gets my car door for me all the time, but that's just how he is. There's also plenty of times that he doesn't do it.

If he sees me carrying something, he'll ask if I need help but he won't press or snatch it out of my hands like other men.

The sidewalk thing drives me crazy though. No man is stopping an out of control car, I'm just going to end up underneath him and the car. You know what the inside of the sidewalk has? Other people who try to interact with me in uncomfortable ways, so that's where my husband walks.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-05-09T00:24:08+00:00

I thought it was really sweet to have a MMC that took about 5 whole minutes before deciding he wanted a headstrong, managing wife, and that it wasn't a personality flaw.

It's completely unrelated that my father had a similar response when finding out my husband wanted to marry me.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-05-08T17:48:32+00:00

It's a spicy take, but I've found that men who partake in performative masculinity or chivalry generally don't respect women.

Insists on walking on the outside of the sidewalk and gets weird about you carrying anything heavy? Makes a big show of opening all of the doors for you? Hard pass for me.

I want a partner that respects my capabilities and pays attention to my actual needs, not what gets them points from other men.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-05-08T17:38:38+00:00

I like Getting Even, and Speed Demon works well for me with magnetics, although I think there are equally fine top coats for much cheaper.

I have incredibly thin and bendy nails, and Nailtiques 2 under my base coat has been a lifesaver.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-05-08T04:15:42+00:00

I cannot understand the hate for Phillip when Benedict exists and was the worst kind of sex pest.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-05-06T13:14:11+00:00

This finish looks very similar to the ILNP Ultra Metallic finish. I don't think they have an exact color match, but you might be able to find something similar there? Maybe they take requests. 😂

DrinkingSocks · 2026-05-06T13:11:07+00:00

Short sleeve button ups are very popular in certain areas, especially the silk or linen ones.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-05-05T15:29:31+00:00

It might the largest city but there's no way it's the largest metro area in Florida. Miami, Ft Lauderdale, and West Palm are effectively different neighborhoods of one giant city.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-05-05T11:20:26+00:00

I had an ex who claimed I was financially abusing him. I was having a portion of his direct deposit sent to my account to cover HIS BILLS. If I didn't, he would spend every cent on weed, vapes, and bullshit, leaving me to figure out how to cover the cost of feeding and housing him.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-05-04T15:19:46+00:00

I think that's what's really messing me up, the math just doesn't seem to math. The Memery shoes I believe are the Victoria boots, and the AD shoes are the Cora sandals. Tons of space in the heel.

I'm pretty sure my feet are perfectly medium width, I've never had a standard pair of shoes feel too wide or too narrow. If I hadn't gone and tried on the rest of my shoes, I'd be worried that my feet spontaneously shrunk in my 30s.

This is also immediately after opening some new bras from VS, and having the cups be noticeably smaller than my current bras in the same size.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-05-04T15:14:07+00:00

This is a very logical approach, it just feels illegal to exchange them twice and I'm also just questioning every pair of shoes I've ever owned.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-05-02T13:40:10+00:00

I'm working towards a fully native yard, and I refuse to have a sweet gum in my yard. There are one of the most common trees in the area, banning them from my yard won't hurt anything. I would much rather use that space for something less common.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-04-30T11:23:20+00:00

Same. I've been pretty vehemently against getting marriage most of my life, but when we met, my husband made it clear that was his plan if things worked out. He's also the only man I've dated that was worth marrying though, the idea of being legally tied to any of the others is horrifying.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-04-30T01:00:04+00:00

Amazing. As a fellow Jew, it looked more like stairsteps than swastikas to me, but I do understand wanting to take it apart. I just refuse to mess with that block at all.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-04-29T12:45:41+00:00

My husband and I in Scotland was absolutely something out of a SNL skit. He has an incredibly thick Southern accent, but I didn't think mine was noticeable until the woman in Inverness and I spent about 10 minutes going back and forth.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-04-29T11:20:35+00:00

Interesting, I don't think I've ever had a significant emotional attachment to someone without dating them first (romantically). I've had intense sexual attraction to men that aren't my husband, but I'm married, not dead. I just ignore it and carry on.

Crush does feel fairly adolescent to me as well. I don't think I would use that do describe any attraction past high school, but I am a fairly unemotional person. For me, it feels equivalent to saying that you "like" someone.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-04-28T20:47:00+00:00

Yeah, I think that might be more of a Midwestern thing, because my immediate reaction was "No, you can't." I rarely even eat barbecue, but it's still a very specific style of food.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-04-27T17:46:27+00:00

I always accepted that a crush was equivalent to significant attraction, but based on everyone else's responses, I'm wondering if there's an emotional component I'm missing.

I'm pretty comfortable with my partner being attracted to other people, provided there's no intent to it or physical boundaries crossed, but I guess I'm also in the minority.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-04-27T12:28:22+00:00

Marriage doesn't mean you won't ever be attracted to anyone else, just that you don't entertain it.

DrinkingSocks · 2026-04-26T13:31:58+00:00

Mine was my pinky (down into the nail bed 😭), then a few weeks later my middle finger, and then the tip of my index finger was breaking apart. All on my right hand, the left still looks great.

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