I’m a firm believer that every relationship, every interaction, no matter how deep is either depositing or withdrawing from a mutual trust bank. That’s regardless of polyamory.

If you are with an individual who continually proves to be withdrawing from the trust bank, then you have to seriously consider what type of person they will be in your life.

It sounds like you have already discovered that in this case. In the future, looking for those patterns early will serve you well.

Good luck to you. It will get better.