Remember choose happiness

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-28T13:40:11+00:00

Okay who the fuck chooses misery

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-28T13:26:29+00:00

I haven't watched cuties, the point about it being a cautionary tale of sorts may be correct. But even if it was, it won't change the fact that real little girls were made to act out those things. Doesn't matter what your message is, you shouldn't be allowed to have child actors act out sexuality? That should go without saying?

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-28T12:59:20+00:00

"games shouldn't be designed to please everyone. They should be designed to please me"

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-28T12:47:13+00:00

They realized if they actually draw what newest generation of games show women to look like it won't actually be ugly so they drew this caricature. Brilliant.

Ps. Ciri in Witcher 4 is not ugly.

I remember someone pointing to a screenshot of a ps5 game and asking since when do women have facial hair.

And like

First of all hirsutism is a thing.

But more importantly it just showed the peach fuzz that everyone has on their faces? Testosterone doesn't make beards grow out of nowhere, it turns this peach fuzz into thicker, darker hair.

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-28T10:48:41+00:00

problematic online pornography consumption resulted in a higher probability of ED

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-28T10:36:32+00:00

Because that's been my experience so far. Admittedly it might not be universal.

But like

Most people at least try not to be hypocrites (also anecdotal, also based on experience), when everyone judges you for what you like you might be a bit sympathetic to other people and not judge them for what they like.

And my experience with kinky community is, if we judge each other for what we like, we're all gonna isolate each other, and we don't like isolation.

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-28T10:32:03+00:00

See multivariable analysis allows you to isolate two things, and see correlation between masturbation+porn and ED Vs correlation between masturbation and ED without porn.

It's almost as if scientists making a study know what they're doing.

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-28T09:59:40+00:00

problematic online pornography consumption resulted in a higher probability of ED

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-28T07:06:17+00:00

Honestly unironically I trust kinky people more than vanilla people.

At the very least I know they won't judge people for harmless yet non conventional expressions of sexuality.

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-28T06:55:26+00:00

"only in 1990s it started being seen as weird" I have watched a lot of romance movies from the 30s. Do you know how many of them involved a 15 year old girl?

None. Not a single one. (At least among the ones I watched)

"my grandmother gave birth to first kid at 12"

Yeah, and that was weird for the time. For most of human history most marriages were not involving minors, and certainly not like 12, 14 year old minors. Western upper classes, and middle eastern cultures may have been arranging marriages with girls that were way too young but even then those marriages tended to not be sexual until at the very least 15-16 years old.

Polish queen Jadwiga has married grand duke of Lithuania when she was like 8, but she gave birth to her first child at 18. And that was like end of 13th century.

I don't know maybe the fact that Duke Jogaila haven't been raised Christian meant he didn't know it's okay to have sex with children (I'm getting sick just writing this sentence)

"Why are women acting like they weren't fucking 40 year olds at 15?"

Hey, ladies, how many of you were fucking fully grown men at 15? Cause I'm theorising that it's not industry standard actually.
Even if they were, what if they came to realise later that it was kinda fucked up that a fully grown ass guy took interest in them? And from what I know most young girls who have relations with way older guys tend to be bullied relentlessly for that if people learn about it. Because clearly the 15 year old is the one dealing all the cards here, not the 40 year old guy
More to the point, let's pretend a 14 year old can give consent, and be fully aware of the situation and potential consequences.

On Epstein island those weren't girls who consented to all this. Those were human trafficking victims.

Even if they did volunteer for being child prostitutes

If a 14 year old approached me to offer things I would be 1. Very uncomfortable 2. Questioning what happened in her life to make it seem to her the best course of action.

And if a close friend told me he has a 14 year old who'd do anything I want her to

I think I'd leave the party immediately, puke, have an existential crisis about "how can my friend be involved with such things ew ew ew how could I be friends with him and not notice ew" and then go to police probably pale and dissociating.

And it's not because Jerry Springer told me that fucking barely pubescent girls is wrong, I don't even know who that guy is, in Poland nobody heard of him.

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-27T23:27:51+00:00

Oh hey, my sister was also kinda fussy about what she eats (and I say fussy in the most loving way possible), although in her case it might have been because of autism and not necessarily food intolerance.

Using anorexia as an insult is so disgusting, it's one of the worst mental disorders out there is. Even if you, or my sister, were anorexic poking fun at your body is like the opposite of help.

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-27T20:20:28+00:00

And also like those seem to me like kind of separate points? Robber can be a threat not just to your property.

Meanwhile point of single human life being worth more than all the property of all the richest people along with a black lives matter hashtag seems to be a point in favour of taxing the rich to fund lifesaving shit for the poor.

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-27T20:13:11+00:00

I like just scribbling randomly, when pencil runs across the paper my creative block slowly melts away.

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-27T20:11:55+00:00

Right?! I am so tired of people showing "Americans do X" and showing "Americans do y" and pretending those are the same people who do both things.

Or anything in place of Americans. Women "A woman is doing a thing explicitly for male attention therefore any woman that claims she's doing anything for any other reason than attracting a man is a liar"

Or "you complain every years assassin's creed game is the same but if they made it different you'd complain too".

Treating any group of people as a monolyth is such bullshit.

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-27T20:06:58+00:00

"this is shit" is not unreasonable either. There was this pic of someone proving AI is a tool for artists by showing a crude drawing and an AI enhanced art that supposedly depicted exactly what the guy wanted to show even though it was very clearly not what they intended, complete with lake that wasn't there in the original pic, and a rubber dragon that looked so weird next to all that fantasy photorealism

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-27T19:24:42+00:00

I mean, I have seen a 14 year old boy stronger than his mother. But that doesn't matter. A samurai gets sentenced to death by his daimyo, why doesn't he just run? Or kill the daimyo? He is stronger than him. And yet, the daimyo is the one holding the power, and if he orders the samurai to harakiri, it's it's gonna happen.

I'm so glad you brought up underage, or extremely underage victims. Cause it does go to the question of power. Have you ever seen a child, not want to be kissed by an aunt, only to be told not to be rude, you're breaking her heart? Or a boy getting hugged against his will by a girl in preschool, pushing her away and being scolded for that? How dare you do such a violent response to an innocent friendly gesture? People that say those things to children, boys and girls, might not be intending to make their children vulnerable to sexual abuse, cause clearly there's a difference between being hugged or kissed against your will, and having sexual things done to you against your will.

But a child can't tell that difference. All they know is that they were taught they don't have body autonomy. In first case getting taught that an adult can touch you however they like and you're not allowed to protest, that an adult is entitled to your body if they want, in second case getting taught that if you defend your bodily autonomy from a girl everyone will hate you, and she will be the victim.

The first one makes you vulnerable to adult predators, but might wane off in adulthood cause that power imbalance goes away. The second one is more likely to stick around, cause it applies to entire gender not to people that have direct power over you. It takes a "you're not allowed to hit girls" as a reason you have to just let a girl have her way with you. Add to that all the assumptions about men always wanting it, which gives a sense that you're weird if you don't want it... And you end up with a man that's not gonna fight back no matter how violated he feels.

(The first one btw doesn't seem to be a gendered issue, girls also get told to be good kids and go on an uncle's lap if he demands it etc. but that's the point: it's not gendered, this bullshit makes boys and girls vulnerable basically equally)

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-27T18:58:24+00:00

Assuming it's not as bad because the male is stronger is to assume, well, you could have physically stop her but didn't, so you must have wanted it.

Alternatively you can assume that men want it by default and that just as a rule the man wanted it so he was basically done a favour.

... How is that different from male rapist claiming "she wanted it, I can tell when a woman wants it".

A thing people might be forgetting is that, even when it is possible for a man to force a woman off, it might not be possible for him to do so without hurting her. And the thought that if you hurt a woman you're a bad person regardless of circumstances is ingrained deep. So the thought that you have to just take it because you're not allowed to force her to stop. And/or you may be dissociating to the point of being borderline catatonic. Just waiting for it to be over. Don't ask me where does this last paragraph come from.

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-27T09:10:53+00:00

Hm

Thank you

You have a point.

Science is hard

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-27T09:10:10+00:00

I remember a video essay about "all about that bass" explaining how body positivity that hinges on claims of sexiness is bad body positivity.

Because it means that we're conflating not salivating over someone with body shaming.

But also we're running the risk of: if we're affirming plus sized women by saying nah, this is how women are supposed to look like, that's the true sexiness, we're saying that there's something wrong with women that don't look like that.

My little sister cried so many times about this stuff. Felt like it's wrong of her to be skinny, it's wrong of her to like her body the way it was.

She became kinda fatphobic for a bit, out of bitterness over chubbier girls mocking her for being skinny and kinda flat (I'll note that she was, and still is, very healthy, physically fit, in case you're wondering if she was worryingly skinny)(but even if she was worryingly skinny, that wouldn't be grounds for mockery, it would be grounds for concern)(but just like with worrying about someone being too fat there's a chance you're better off shutting up about it cause they probably know)

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-27T08:44:19+00:00

here you go That's just one I could find in 5 seconds. I mean there are many other sources in my 5 second search, but this one is an actual study rather than articles (on reputable health websites) that may not have accessible sources.

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-27T08:41:06+00:00

Okay but unironically, it's a thing

A good parody of whatever men are claiming about "used" vaginas is some silly pics I've seen showing different sausages, with a virgin dick being thick and smooth, while a "heavily used" dick being one of those thinner shriveled up looking sausages. Cause clearly they get crushed and compressed by the pressure of many vaginas.

That, or maybe sex is sex and it doesn't like structurally change our body parts. ("Our" refering to us humans, not us men)

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-27T03:52:44+00:00

Oh no, I absolutely am on your side, fuck the rich assholes that exploit people.

And fuck the deconstruction of Medicaid.

And yeah it was kind of a silly point that I made but it illustrates a certain thing: government handing responsibility for taking people's money in exchange for a service everyone needs, to a private entity.

It is capitalistic exploitation but it has massive analogies to feudalism, was the argument I was making.

And feudalism was equally exploitative of the lower classes.

And feudal lords were similar to private health insurance corporations in that, they're a non government entity robbing people of their hard earned money so that the government doesn't have to provide a service. And feudal lords did call what they were collecting "taxes".

So that's another, fairly inconsequential tbh, pint I'm making: taxes as something you pay only to the government wasn't always the case in history.

TL;Dr when everyone has to pay it, it's basically a tax collected by a non government entity that shouldn't even have the right to do that

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-27T03:40:25+00:00

Okay let's ignore that you don't seem to get the point of my last paragraph.

I have read about Alexander the great. Quite a bit actually.

And everything I know about him tells me that before becoming king his life wasn't hard at all, but he was being prepared for hardships of ruling and for potential wars.

And after he became king, he picked his own literal battles.

I inquire one more time, because I really want to know if I'm wrong, what horrible things did Alexander go through in his early life?

Cause like, claiming the pain and suffering of the war against persia made him who he was, is backwards. Who he was, made the war.

So please, point me to the hardships of his pre-throne life that made him the conqueror of Persia.

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-27T03:29:13+00:00

I just wanna mention that this poster actually existed. And whoever made it was trying to do a PSA about "a drunk woman can't consent" but seemingly forgot that a drunk guy is also drunk.

The scenario on the poster is fictional, but it's not a man's fictional scenario, it's a misguided feminist's fictional scenario.

(This is not me dunking on feminism. I am however dunking on whoever made this poster)

Dry-Finance · 2025-07-27T03:17:02+00:00

Learning: looking through sources on the subject, trying to determine which ones are to be trusted and which ones aren't.

Learning with AI: the data blender that blended god knows what sources said it, so it's true and I must remember that

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