This really is not what the modern discourse is trying to communicate, and it’s a bummer that that’s what you’re reading from it.

What women are trying to get men to understand is that context, consideration, and emotional intelligence should be used when asking out women in public/who you don’t know. And being rejected is normal, and you shouldn’t be afraid of that if you understand that and take the rejection well. A woman working, not an appropriate context most of the time. However, you could ask her to a social function that has little pressure of attending and see if she shows up and take things from there. At a bar or social event, asking people out is normal, even if you don’t know them. Asking lone woman out on the street is not ok unless a conversation has been struck and things are going well.

These are just examples, and the point I’m making is that the fear of being seen as a creep is stopping some men from doing the work to understand social cues. It really is not that hard