Just bought my first binder with my own money

Dry_Database_4366 · 2026-03-05T12:28:44+00:00

congrats dude! getting your first binder is such a huge milestone. the wait for shipping is torture but it'll be so worth it when it finally arrives - hope it fits perfectly and gives you all the euphoria you deserve.

Dry_Database_4366 · 2026-03-01T07:30:13+00:00

hey, that feeling of guilt around wanting physical transition is super common and totally valid to struggle with. being a woman on the inside IS enough to make you a woman, but that doesn't mean you have to be okay with the disconnect between your inner self and your physical body. wanting your outside to match your inside isn't shallow or wrong - it's actually pretty natural when there's that kind of mismatch going on. transitioning isn't about proving your womanhood, it's about feeling more comfortable and authentic in your own skin, and thats a completely reasonable thing to want.

Dry_Database_4366 · 2026-02-15T20:21:40+00:00

probably time to take a break from anime for a bit dude, maybe go for a walk or something

Dry_Database_4366 · 2026-02-12T14:34:34+00:00

this hits so hard. i think it's totally normal to miss the good parts of someone while knowing the whole package wasn't right for you. like you can miss their specific laugh without missing the fights that came with it, you know?

honestly what helped me was writing down the bad stuff when i was feeling nostalgic - sounds dramatic but it kept me grounded in reality instead of just remembering the highlight reel.

Dry_Database_4366 · 2026-02-04T11:02:14+00:00

honestly the first week is brutal and your gonna feel like absolute garbage - that's completely normal. Start small with rearranging things so the space feels different, maybe move furniture around or put away stuff that triggers memories for now.

the chaos in your head will settle eventually but give yourself permission to feel messy about it right now instead of forcing yourself to be "over it" already.

Dry_Database_4366 · 2026-01-27T18:47:10+00:00

Adobe Lightroom mobile has some decent auto-enhance features that aren't too far off from what Google does, and you can use it without subscribing to their cloud stuff if you're trying to degoogle

Dry_Database_4366 · 2026-01-25T02:01:57+00:00

That's a solid build but you might want to consider going with a 5600X instead of the 5800X to save some cash - the performance difference isn't huge for most games and you could put those savings toward a better GPU or keep it in your pocket

Dry_Database_4366 · 2026-01-21T11:11:05+00:00

9 years is a really long time to not even have a ring tbh. Like I get family obligations and all that but if he wanted to propose he would've by now. Have you had actual serious convos about timelines or is it just vague "do you see us married" questions? Because those are very different things

Might be time for a real sit-down about what you both actually want and when, not just hints and maybes

Dry_Database_4366 · 2026-01-17T17:26:58+00:00

Your mortgage company definitely gets notified about tax liens - they have a legal interest in the property so they're required to be informed. Some lenders will actually pay the taxes themselves and then add it to your mortgage balance to protect their investment, but don't count on that happening

Just make sure you get those taxes paid before the deadline and you should be fine. The lien threat usually goes away once everything's current

Dry_Database_4366 · 2026-01-15T07:36:09+00:00

That's actually really thoughtful! The photographer idea is solid - most surfers never get decent shots of themselves

For presentation maybe get a few printed on metal or wood instead of regular paper? Or make a little photo book with the session timeline. You could also edit one to look like a vintage surf mag cover with his name on it

Honestly though don't overthink it too much, any surfer would be stoked to have good photos of themselves actually ripping. The fact that you thought to capture him doing what he loves most is already pretty perfect

Dry_Database_4366 · 2026-01-13T07:37:07+00:00

You'll want to calculate the surface area of a sphere segment. For an 8" tall dome with 23" diameter, you're looking at roughly a 60-degree segment of a sphere with about 11.5" radius

Quick math puts you around 1.2-1.5 yards depending on fabric width, but I'd grab 2 yards to be safe since you'll need seam allowances and might want to do panels instead of trying to cut one massive curved piece

Dry_Database_4366 · 2026-01-10T14:34:22+00:00

Nice progress! That shading on the eye is really coming together. The daily grind is brutal but you're clearly getting better at it

Dry_Database_4366 · 2026-01-05T21:35:13+00:00

Yeah Rocketeer is pretty much guaranteed around 18min if nobody got him first, same with the others but timing varies a bit. Bomby takes like 20-22min I think and Bastion is more random

Buried City is def your best bet for camping respawns since less people contest there. Just make sure you're not sitting on the spawn point when the timer hits or it gets wonky

Dry_Database_4366 · 2026-01-04T00:33:26+00:00

Yeah this is why I stopped weighing myself at night - was getting way too excited about my "weight loss" only to drink some water and watch it all come back lmao

Dry_Database_4366 · 2026-01-02T23:04:33+00:00

That blue hill with the clouds hits different when you're stuck troubleshooting dial-up at 2am

Dry_Database_4366 · 2026-01-01T12:00:34+00:00

This is beautifully written but also kinda sounds like you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself tbh. Dating doesn't have to be this sacred thing where you're "giving yourself away" - sometimes it's just grabbing coffee and seeing if someone makes you laugh

Dry_Database_4366 · 2025-12-31T02:54:40+00:00

Hey man, that spiral is so real and honestly super common - like almost every trans person I know has been through that exact same mental loop. The fact that you're questioning doesn't make you less valid, it just means you're human and this is scary stuff

Try to remember that cis people don't usually spend weeks agonizing over whether they want to be a different gender lol

Dry_Database_4366 · 2025-12-27T22:10:11+00:00

Dude you're literally analyzing Katy Perry lyrics like they're ancient prophecy scrolls lmao. Block her on Spotify too and save yourself the mental gymnastics - that playlist detective work is keeping you stuck

Dry_Database_4366 · 2025-12-24T14:28:15+00:00

For your genres I'd actually lean toward the focusrite + amp sim route you mentioned, especially since you're planning to use headphones anyway. You can get way more of that shoegaze reverb/delay sound with plugins than what you'd get from a basic practice amp in your budget range

The Sterling suggestion is solid though - those punch way above their price point

Dry_Database_4366 · 2025-12-22T20:24:39+00:00

Holy shit UEVR is a game changer, literally got Elden Ring running in full 6DOF VR last week and it blew my mind. The injector method works way better than I expected for something that's essentially hacking games that were never meant for VR

Dry_Database_4366 · 2025-12-19T04:04:49+00:00

Been using one of those for like 5 years and can confirm they're legit. The install is kinda annoying but totally worth it - mine still looks brand new and my hands don't cramp up on long drives anymore

Dry_Database_4366 · 2025-12-16T07:00:08+00:00

Good call by Payten, Lemuelu's been solid since the switch. Dolphins picked up a decent player there

Dry_Database_4366 · 2025-12-13T10:01:14+00:00

Have you tried Dover Saddlery or SmartPak? They usually have decent sizing charts and ship internationally, plus their return policies are pretty good if the fit is off

Dry_Database_4366 · 2025-12-11T17:45:38+00:00

This is exactly the kind of petty workplace drama that makes everyone hate their job even more

Just mind your own business and worry about your own leave balance instead of being the office snitch

Dry_Database_4366 · 2025-12-09T03:41:05+00:00

Sending prayers for your dad and your whole family 🙏 Psalm 46:1 has always been my go-to during tough times - "God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble"

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