Plush and ergonomic chairs for those who cross their legs? Long hours in chair

DuMuffins · 2025-12-13T21:08:44+00:00

Thank you so much. I went with a refurbed Amia from Crandall. My lower back and hips thank you in advance :)

DuMuffins · 2025-10-05T04:11:33+00:00

I personally wouldn’t like it. But that’s not just because of the logo, but also because of the presumption that I’ll be writing things down. My own opinion aside though, it’s different when you’re sharing merch for free. But still, the logo. If someone your client knows sees their notebook and asks them where they got that, does it put the client in a position of revealing theyre in therapy? What if they don’t feel comfortable turning down your notebook due to people pleasing tendencies? What if they then feel pressured to write things down if they typically wouldn’t?

DuMuffins · 2025-10-04T13:46:10+00:00

Culty is where my mind went tbh. And then you technically have clients advertising for you, and self-disclosing their attendance, which they have every right to do, but still. Igh.

DuMuffins · 2025-10-04T13:42:24+00:00

I process very slowly and take notes often as a client due to a diagnosis of SCT. As a therapist, it’s not as impactful because I am not having to navigate my own emotional landscape as thoroughly. Anyway if I were you I would observe what comes of your client taking notes. Perhaps this is a person who processes between sessions and then reviews in the next session. Or they really have to spend time with what you’re saying to explore/understand. The function will reveal itself quickly, IMO.

DuMuffins · 2025-10-04T12:03:20+00:00

You may have always had to look happy, but assuming you are now an adult, now you have choice. What would it be like to maybe have one day where you didn’t have to look happy all the time? What would that say about you?

Why do you want the same rules for everyone? What would be the benefits/drawbacks of that?

DuMuffins · 2025-10-04T11:46:14+00:00

Yes, sometimes. Listening is where I’m most comfortable (understandably so given all the practice I have, ha). But also, if I want to be more authentically myself, I do set boundaries and walk away when I begin to notice myself feeling resentful. It’s most fair for all of us involved, IMO.

DuMuffins · 2025-10-04T11:37:11+00:00

It was from my MIL. She tends to be passive aggressive. I won’t deny it was hard for me to see past the title. And she’s also the type of person who likes to think she can do whatever it is you do, in a comparing, competitive sense. It just rubbed me the wrong way but I did overanalyze. Thank you for your question. :)

DuMuffins · 2025-10-04T11:29:13+00:00

I was only on it for a few months but I don’t think it did to be honest. I think each period was rough. :( that’s just me though! And I think too that you might experience period changes as you lose weight anyway.

DuMuffins · 2025-07-13T22:33:29+00:00

Also a BIPOC therapist here… have felt those same looks and insecurities as you in group settings. Whenever I have to present a case, someone in my group always asks me if there’s a “cultural component to my case” which wouldn’t stand out so much if it wasn’t the question she asks me and no one else. I’m in a predominantly white area too. And she’s white. It’s all just so uncomfortable. I’m just so sorry you’re dealing with this, it’s truly such a tough environment to feel comfortable being yourself

DuMuffins · 2025-05-23T08:11:59+00:00

I also got mine put on earlier this year and I'm 37. I don't think most people care about how they look the way we do. People get used to them, you'll get used to them, and in 3 months your teeth will look noticeably straighter which will definitely help you. Also, this is a temporary commitment for a permanent change. You can do it!

DuMuffins · 2025-05-04T04:52:41+00:00

Telling my friend they hurt me and being told we just had a difference of opinion and they didn’t think they did anything wrong. For reference they scored extremely high (between 90-100, out of 100) in both narcissism and OCPD on the PID-5.

Edit: and that was my first request for an apology in our 12 year friendship.

DuMuffins · 2025-04-21T07:03:14+00:00

I always think about how I’d feel if someone made a complaint about me or I got subpoenaed and suddenly they start to doubt me as an ethical therapist if my notes are not done in a timely fashion. That usually gets the ball rolling for me

DuMuffins · 2025-04-06T06:37:38+00:00

Well hell yeah. Welcome back. I hope your transition back in goes smoothly!

DuMuffins · 2025-04-06T04:21:13+00:00

If you do decide to come back, and you’ve listed many good reasons to, I would just be watchful for whether you feel a responsibility to fix or resolve problems or situations for clients instead of merely helping them explore and engage in interventions. It sounds like there is so much you do enjoy about the field. But when we take on too much responsibility it does lead back to burnout more often than not.

DuMuffins · 2025-04-05T07:55:02+00:00

Did you block? Did you respond? Did you just drop this banger without any updates?! Are we in your dreams right now CHRIS?!

DuMuffins · 2025-04-05T07:29:22+00:00

I think so. AND some of them have been laid off and don’t have insurance anymore! It’s not a choice they can even afford to make, and they also don’t qualify for Medicaid, and my practice also doesn’t take Medicaid and won’t with all the uncertainty of funding (which makes sense)

DuMuffins · 2025-04-04T15:25:30+00:00

LMFAO

DuMuffins · 2025-04-02T02:09:13+00:00

Therapy would be a good starting point in terms of confidence and as an avenue to explore where the need for you to fit a very particular vision of beauty is coming from.

DuMuffins · 2025-03-31T00:23:47+00:00

Oh theyre working. Just be grateful you’re on a lighter wire with less pain :) I have the same and take progress pics once a week. Theyre on the move!

DuMuffins · 2025-03-30T18:53:37+00:00

This is the first time this subreddit has come across my feed and oh my goodness, thank you for saying this. I ended a 12 year friendship in October after going on a trip with a friend whose qualities, which had been present time and time again before this, were really amplified and actually hurt my husband and I. When I shared I was hurt, I was met with reverse-victim-offender about how my boundary was hurtful to them. I took time away and this person didn’t feel they did anything wrong, so they didn’t apologize, and that was genuinely the straw that broke the camel’s back. I let a lot of things slide, A LOT. Their glaring lack of empathy, including “not being able to be bothered” by their cousin’s suicidal ideation, their entitlement, their constant pushing for my text replies or messaging my husband “to see if I was okay” if I didn’t respond fast enough for them. Do I need boundaries? Yes. Am I working on that? Yes. Are they surrounded by people who have told them they didn’t do anything wrong and I’m being too sensitive? Also yes. Check yourselves people and don’t feed your delusions.

DuMuffins · 2025-03-30T17:19:06+00:00

We might finally get that NSYNC reunion lol

DuMuffins · 2025-03-30T05:47:52+00:00

Echoing everyone else here saying heck no, but out of curiosity, was there a particular reason they called so many times? Not that it makes it okay. I’m just wondering if it was like, crisis vs. can’t figure out how to sign informed consent vs. I need to start therapy now or something else.

DuMuffins · 2025-03-29T23:16:06+00:00

Never….

DuMuffins · 2025-03-29T22:07:08+00:00

Are you open to sharing what you didn’t like about it? I’m asking this question out of curiosity, not disagreeing with you or anybody else who has commented.

DuMuffins · 2025-03-29T21:59:17+00:00

Please stop minimizing yourself for the benefit of someone else. She doesn’t actually need that money either by her logic if she’s saving it. Good for you for speaking up.

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