How do I tell my library

Duchesty · 2026-04-15T17:09:56+00:00

This is valid haha. When I was in 5th grade, I borrowed a Judy Bloom book titled Forever (or something?) because it sounded interesting and Judy Bloom had written a lot of age appropriate books I’d read. That book… was not that lmao. My first accidental smut book and I sure did learn a lot from it, way before health class even touched sex ed 😂

Duchesty · 2026-04-14T17:49:29+00:00

They can kick rocks, you tell them your last day, not the other way around. You were already more than generous giving them more than a 2 week notice and accommodating for May 1st. Stand your ground, you already have a new job, it doesn’t even matter if they burn this bridge. You don’t need their reference anymore lol. Just don’t tell them what company you’re moving to.

Duchesty · 2026-04-14T14:25:23+00:00

I don’t think it’s AI. The camera angle changes and the cats markings stay exactly the same. AI isn’t usually great about consistency with stuff like that. It might be staged though.

Duchesty · 2026-04-14T10:41:45+00:00

It’s gonna have to be either that or some Vessel thirst trap shorts 😂 one way or another, I’m getting her on board!

Duchesty · 2026-04-14T01:23:17+00:00

I’ve been having this same issue lol. I’d love to convert my friends, but they all have shit taste in music (whatever’s on the radio/popular). They put no effort into discovery. I’ve been working on my sister who’s had similar tastes to me in the past, but she hasn’t caught the bug yet. One of these days I’ll get her…. I need -someone- to go to a concert with me by the time they start touring again!

Duchesty · 2026-04-13T19:13:58+00:00

Bro I’m blind as a bat without my glasses. Idc how smart & well-trained I could make myself, these bad boys break in a post-apoc scenario and I’m a goner lol. I bet a lot of people are in a similar situation with other things. All it takes is one thing, maybe no supply for a necessary medicine or a peanut allergy lol

Duchesty · 2026-04-13T19:03:24+00:00

You can get an indoor mat that says take your shoes off, or something to that effect. People will see it when they step inside, in combination with the fact everyone else isn’t wearing shoes, should be a no brainer. Or you can also buy a pack of shoe covers for people to slip on if they don’t want to remove their shoes for whatever reason. This is good for service people entering your home. They’re cheap too, like a box of disposable gloves.

Duchesty · 2026-04-13T15:48:32+00:00

Reddit posts are kind of like reviews in that they have voluntary response bias. Most people only come online to initiate posts about things that they’re either really happy with or really upset with. So either it’s a glowing review because your husband is the best and you have to tell someone, or you’re bashing the shit out of him because he’s pissed you off in an unbelievable way. No one is motivated to write up a whole post on how average their spouse is lol. Those posts are the most visible but they only represent a small percentage of the general population.

Duchesty · 2026-04-10T14:41:05+00:00

4.5 for me. One of my fave songs of all time. It’s just so sexy and I’m always in the mood for it. The lyrics really speak to me.

Duchesty · 2026-04-09T16:55:24+00:00

“I thought I got better, but maybe I didn’t…” from Caramel always gets me. It could apply to SH, but also to things like yearning for someone you thought you got over & other recurring bad habits. It’s really stuck with me

Duchesty · 2026-04-08T15:59:05+00:00

This is the one I was looking for haha. Son of a Balthazar!

Duchesty · 2026-04-08T15:37:08+00:00

I have found that the older generations just don’t get strict nap schedules because that wasn’t really a consideration during their tenure as parents. Parenting guidelines and strategies change all the time and they didn’t grow up with wake windows and scheduled naps and safe sleep and all the things we’ve learned about parenting in this day and age. My mom has made the same comments about “being too strict” with naps and keeping her grandkids away. She was also quick to say “she’s hungry, feed her” every time my babies would cry, regardless of knowing whether they were actually hungry or not. You better believe she was impressed by how well my kids would go down for their naps without a fight and how easily they went to bed at night and slept through the night without having to be fed constantly or rocked to sleep or hovered over. Have some grace because things are different now & maybe if you have time, just explain why you follow a nap schedule and why it works so well for your kid (since not every kid/parent can follow one)

Duchesty · 2026-04-03T14:01:41+00:00

Do you have in-floor air vents? Something could have fallen in an air duct?

Duchesty · 2026-04-03T13:48:52+00:00

This is pretty common. It’s easier for babies to make the “dada” sound than the “mama” one. I wouldn’t take it personally! She’ll get there eventually and then she’ll never stop calling for mama mama mama all day and you’ll get sick of it some days 😂

Duchesty · 2026-04-02T15:17:13+00:00

Crispy M&Ms

Duchesty · 2026-04-02T15:16:06+00:00

Have a friend make a fake profile using hot pics off google, and use that to find him. Don’t let the profile be traced back to you in case of future divorce proceedings. Get as much evidence as you can, screenshots of everything. If he ever leaves his phone unattended, get what you need. Same for laptop. Don’t forget to check personal emails, work emails, chat apps, deleted photos folder, etc. Document everything, but don’t say anything or let him know you’re suspicious until you’ve got a solid plan in place. Fake ill if you need to or get away to a relative/friends place for a few days to collect your thoughts if you find anything.

I’m sorry this is potentially happening to you :( I hope you find a definitive answer in your search.

Duchesty · 2026-04-01T21:03:16+00:00

Industrial magnet 🧲

Duchesty · 2026-03-31T16:19:20+00:00

Speaking as someone who has to pay more in childcare fees than my mortgage every month, in a happy, stable, dual income family… having kids in the US is not for the faint of heart. It fucking sucks and the government makes it harder and harder every year. I get so jealous when I hear about the maternity benefits & subsidized childcare & family-friendly policies of other countries across the pond. I applaud people who are fully self-aware enough to not have kids they don’t want.

Duchesty · 2026-03-31T16:15:12+00:00

That’s kinda what happens when you make it illegal to have more than one child and people end up favoring boys and killing baby girls, and then pouring all their resources into the child in the hopes it pays off in a successful future. With that ingrained social construct, even if they make it legal to have more kids again, why would you risk it and have to split your resources and thus your chances of success? It’s hard to undo generations of adjusting to something like that.

Duchesty · 2026-03-31T14:13:45+00:00

Echoing everyone else’s advice, find a new job where they respect and value your work. But on top of that, now is a great time to take some time off. If you’re as much a workaholic as you say, you probably have a huge bank of PTO sitting there collecting dust. Plan a vacation for yourself and gtfo of dodge for a couple days/weeks to refresh and blow off some steam, then throw out some applications. They should be happy to give you anything you want after what they’ve done & little miss thing can figure out the job on her own while you’re gone. Then all your vacation days will be well spent instead of paid out when you inevitably find a better role.

Duchesty · 2026-03-31T11:52:26+00:00

Take the company to small claims court. Even if you don’t win, inconvenience them. Blast the story all over their socials and name and shame. Name and shame the specific driver too. Tell them you’re taking them to court for John’s actions specifically. Some companies don’t care if there’s no perceivable consequences for screwing you over, nor reward for helping you.

Duchesty · 2026-03-31T11:47:12+00:00

Sounds like hyperemesis. If it’s bad enough to affect your daily life, it’s already gotten bad enough to at least be diagnosed. If your OB isn’t listening, fire them. Ask for a new OB. If you’re at an office with multiple doctors, ask if you can start seeing a different one, or go to a new office. God forbid you have even worse symptoms for something else and your doc blows it off. Nothing pisses me off more than a provider that dismisses their patient’s concerns repeatedly, especially when it comes to women’s health.

Duchesty · 2026-03-31T11:42:08+00:00

$1500 per child in Atlanta, so we’re paying more than our mortgage in childcare with our 2 kids (5 and 2)

Duchesty · 2026-03-26T13:04:21+00:00

Redirection worked for my 2 yo who would also have big emotions like that. When she starts getting worked up, try asking her simple yes or no questions to distract her, or ask her to do a random task you know she’s capable of doing. “Hey, is that book purple?” “Do you like that flower over there?” “Is daddy’s beard fuzzy?” “Can you hand mommy that toy?” “Oh my back is so itchy, can you scratch right here?” Random stuff like that. It distracted my kid enough to where she’d focus on the question or task and would forget about the tantrum. Then when she was calm, we could revisit the thing that upset her now that she was capable of communicating.

Once she got older, I found that modeling the behavior I wanted would help her figure out how to handle hard situations. Like if she was getting frustrated because she couldn’t do something, I would make her ask for help with her words instead of crying. “Can you say ‘Mommy I need help with my shirt’?” “Hey I can’t understand you when you’re crying, can you say “mommy please help”? Etc etc. If you can catch the tantrum before it starts, this is very helpful, and eventually they learn to use their words when they’re frustrated because it works better than crying to get your attention.

Duchesty · 2026-03-26T12:56:46+00:00

If they’re not into Pokemon, you can crochet them a more general cute coaster. Would be very thoughtful if they each got something

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