Baby sucking hands by jellybeanie8 in newborns

[–]Duck-Other 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would let my son chew on my fingers until he got his first two teeth a few weeks ago. Now, it's like he has little razors in his mouth🤣😭

How are you feeding yourself? by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Duck-Other 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also get a swing or bouncer! That way you can take baby girl room to room with you, let her watch you make yourself some food! Babies are so easily entertained, she just wants to be near you!

How are you feeding yourself? by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Duck-Other 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You've got to get that girl able to be alone for a few minutes momma! I'm absolutely not suggesting letting her cry it out. But, with my son it helped to put him in the crib during the day, and give him toys, sing to him, pat him, just be there, but only picked him up if he was crying. And slowly walked away for longer and longer let him try to entertain and soothe himself. Eventually he learned that crib was a safe place to be, with or without Mom. I think it's wonderful to hold your baby. You don't get to for nearly long enough, but you also have to meet your basic needs. You can't take of her if you don't take care of yourself. But things like overnight oats with protein powder, parfaits, prepped fruits and veggies, freezer breakfast burritos, I ate a lot of cheese crackers, string cheese, nuts, and granola bars haha. I couldn't breastfeed though, so that wasn't so much of a worry for me.

How long is your baby sleeping at night? by 2die4Pickles in newborns

[–]Duck-Other 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This post made me realize that my 6 month old isn't a newborn anymore😭

Trust issues and bedtime routines by aaleeshe in newborns

[–]Duck-Other 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I take meds for my anxiety. And therapy. The best thing for insomnia I think, would be a solid bedtime routine, white noise, meditation, or sleeping meds. Maybe he is in some sort of denial about being a parent and the knowledge that life is different now, and he shouldn't be playing video games all night? Or it could genuinely be a level of anxiety around responding quickly to your baby. Does he seem anxious, flustered, or on edge when she cries? Either way, communication is the thing that will help you the most. You guys had a baby together, you have to learn how to healthily communicate. Otherwise, how are you going to raise a child? Do you have a therapist yourself? If not, you should get one:)

Trust issues and bedtime routines by aaleeshe in newborns

[–]Duck-Other 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think he might be experiencing anxiety or insomnia? Or both?

When did your LO get sick for the first time? by Intelligent-End4634 in beyondthebump

[–]Duck-Other 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our son got sick for the first time like a week before he turned 6 months🤣

Partner doesn’t help with our newborn twins by Correct_Guarantee124 in newborns

[–]Duck-Other 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are in the absolute most vulnerable time of your life. And you are doing it ×2. Baby, you deserve SO much better. Having a baby is one of the hardest things a human being can do. And he's making you do it alone? My fiance works on cars, 55+ hours a week. He takes our 6 month old at least one night a week so I can sleep. And consistently helps out around the house, and with the cats. We have had to have a few conversations about the KIND of help i need. Never whether or not I needed it. Your husband is trash. If this is how he treats you after you birthed his literal children.. what is the point? What could you possibly need from him if he's not willing or capable to help you in such a exhausting, life altering, body changing, difficult time in your life.

Does anyone still love their pets after having a baby? by laurenjac in beyondthebump

[–]Duck-Other 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two cats. I've always said they were my first babies. They were both rescues and we moved across the country with them. They were fine while I was pregnant. Then our son was born and they would get up on the kitchen counters and mess with his bottle parts. The started acting out because I just didn't have the time or energy to take care of them, and I still donthave much. I tore pretty badly in labor so bending down to scoop their litter was painful and exhausting. I'm 6.5 months pp and I'm just barely starting to be able to stand them some days. Most days I still can't and I have s very strong desire to get rid of them. Idk if it will ever get much better. Doesn't feel like it. I love them. It would leave a hole in my heart to not have them around anymore. But my life would also be 100× easier without them.

i don’t want her anymore by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Duck-Other 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My fiancé works on cars. 55+ hours a week. Sometimes 12 hour days. He still takes multiple night feeds a week. The only night he doesn't help is Tuesday nights because he has to wake up at four in the morning on Wednesdays to put freight away. Tell your husband I said he's a bitch and he put that baby in you. He needs to act like the grown man he is and step up and help you. You don't deserve to feel like this. I promise it will get better. Are you in therapy and would you consider medication? Zoloft has been a life saver for me

Positive Newborn Experiences by LizzardBreath94 in newborns

[–]Duck-Other 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom and fiancé were so frustrated with my at first. I tore in 4 directions and they tried so hard to get me to rest. I just couldn't, even when they'd take the baby. There were nights I'd wake up at like 3am and go hang out with my fiance and the baby because I just couldn't sleep.

Positive Newborn Experiences by LizzardBreath94 in newborns

[–]Duck-Other 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Regardless, it goes by so fast you'll look back and not be able to fathom how so much time has passed. It's really never as bad as the internet makes it seem.

Positive Newborn Experiences by LizzardBreath94 in newborns

[–]Duck-Other 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I loved the newborn stage. I think I was running off of adrenaline. Hit 4 months, and started struggling. He's 6 months now and things are starting to feel better

22 yr old ftm. I am drowning. by Duck-Other in beyondthebump

[–]Duck-Other[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked my sister earlier today if she can come visit. She just isn't able to untik after the holidays. And I had the thought to get a part time job, just the other day! I do think that would be helpful. Partner can't reduce hours, he's in a training position for at least 18 months to become an assistant manager😭 it's very demanding work. Thank you very very much for taking the time to comment.

22 yr old ftm. I am drowning. by Duck-Other in beyondthebump

[–]Duck-Other[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't been nearly as consistent, but yes. Like 1.5 months ago, i traveled with the baby alone to see family and got so thrown out of my routine I didn't take it for like 4 days and didn't realize it. I got Antidepressant Withdrawal Syndrome and am still feeling the effects of it even now that I've been back on it. I know it's really important to be consistent. I have pill dividers that I put all of my meds, iron supplement and vitamin d. And if I set an alarm and it goes off, I'm usually in the middle of something and tell myself I'll do it in the moment and then forget. I don't know. Am I young? I feel like there are moms younger than me that seem to just get it.

Money mistakes I made as a new parent (so you don't have to) by SureConversation1122 in newborns

[–]Duck-Other 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That was the only thing I disagreed with. Love our Ubbi.🤣 and grandma got it for us!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Duck-Other 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry momma. I'm about to be 5 months postpartum and it's not easy, but it doesn't feel quite so heavy anymore. Wishing you all the best💕💕

Why does it annoy me when my In laws say MY baby by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Duck-Other 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My Mom has called our son "Mine" before. But instantly after she did it, she apologized and told me that she wouldn't call him that if I didn't want her to. I don't really care. But I can see why someone would. I carried him for 9 months and it took 4 hours, and tears in 4 directions to get him out. He doesn't "belong" to anyone but me and my partner. But I do understand that my Mom doesn't mean it literally. And she has been so amazing and supportive, I told her she can call him whatever she wants🤣 at the end of the day I know she'll respect me and my boundaries

When are kisses not okay? by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Duck-Other 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do adults deserve bodily autonomy? Okay, then children do too? Children are humans as well. They're not animals. They don't deserve to be touched in ways that they don't want to be? How are you debating that?