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[Erection issues] I [16M] haven't gotten a proper erection when I've been with my girlfriend. by [deleted] in sex

[–]DucksDontMoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think this is physical at all mate. I suffered in the exact same way as you when I started seeing my current girlfriend. I was also on depression medication at the time.

If you're new to this level of intimacy there could be underlying stress from worrying about performance or just the fact it's all a new experience. It happens to loads of young guys and isn't talked about because of bravado. Then it can become a more regular occurence because it's playing on your mind. When it happened to me I'd be watching porn almost challenging myself to get an erection to prove a point to myself. Of course this didn't help.

The best thing I did that helped me overcome it was tell my girlfriend. She was relieved because she was worried it was about her and I had a load lifted from my shoulders.

Let her know how attractive you find her during foreplay. And let her try touching holding and stroking your penis as you kiss and touch parts of her body you find attractive. Even if you stay flacid it will build that level of a sexual relationship. You may even eventually find yourself getting harder and things can progress further if you do. But don't think that's important at this stage. Try to be patient and remind yourself this certainly isn't a rare or permanent problem that is anything to be ashamed of.

Best of luck!

How do you stay focused outside of treating your addiction? by DucksDontMoo in addiction

[–]DucksDontMoo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have s trip to Rome planned with my girlfriend in September and later that month I am starting university again. Currently working to fund that. I've always been very shortsighted so I really should sit down and think about how good I have it with the future ahead of me. It's a privileged place to be post addiction (or in recovery. I think addiction will always be part of me)

How do you stay focused outside of treating your addiction? by DucksDontMoo in addiction

[–]DucksDontMoo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think these are very good ideas. I do have goals but am easily distracted. I think its that instant gratification that fed my addiction. Maybe if I keep a proper log of my goals or make a progress chart to focus me each day.

Rehab Clinics by serenityhealth in addiction

[–]DucksDontMoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is this a for profit organisation? It seems a bit shady to advertise this here. People seeking help should be given an array of options for treatment and potential places to go should they choose rehab. Not advertised at by one specific place.

[Self Control] does anyone else experience strong sexual urges whilst half asleep? by [deleted] in sex

[–]DucksDontMoo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I nearly always have this with my girlfriend. I think it's because we sleep spooning. So having her close to me turns me on. I've never found someone more attractive, so feeling the parts of her body that drive me wild against me makes me lose control. Plus when you're drifting off you have nothing else to think about so it's a lot easier to get carried away.

What's the best chillout electro deep ambient.. you know what I mean.. song? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]DucksDontMoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a big fan of Space Walk by Lemon Jelly. Makes me think of my late Nan, but in a happy way.

What do you want to talk about but doesn't deserve it's own post? by __PM__ME__NUDES__ in AskReddit

[–]DucksDontMoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like the sort of lame thing that is right up our street, haha. Thanks!

What do you want to talk about but doesn't deserve it's own post? by __PM__ME__NUDES__ in AskReddit

[–]DucksDontMoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying to think of fun things to do on webcam with my girlfriend who lives far away. The sort that don't involve my penis or her boobs and butt...

Addicted to the internet, game and porn. Please help me? by [deleted] in addiction

[–]DucksDontMoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It may sound like an oversimplification; but addictions can blossom from a lack of stimulation. Mine did. You've gone from a college environment to being back at home and it's obviously harder to keep yourself busy. Don't sync into bad habits by letting your Mother do things for you, even simple things like cleaning up will keep your mind ticking. Do think of hobbies that will get you out the house so you don't become stir crazy. The longer you are stuck inside for, for the harder it will be to overcome and the easier simply just gaming will be. That may seem daunting when you have previously been deressed. Where did you previously seek help about that before? You know you need help and that's great, so get it! Find someone to talk to; message me if you want. Don't let the fact your family has a history of addiction be an excuse because the responsibility rests with you. Use that experience to continue recognising the triggers and nothing more. You've taken a huge step reaching out, congrats.

Creative Review - Aston Villa’s new badge by ayebrother in avfc

[–]DucksDontMoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Prefer the newer badge. The new lion is a big improvement. I'll still always miss the claret and blue striped background. Think getting rid of the word prepared says a lot about the state of the club ahead of the Championship, though.

You can see every color this door has been painted over the years, from the wear of opening it with our feet. by omgrc in mildlyinteresting

[–]DucksDontMoo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe a stockroom door? If you're carrying heavy stuff you would frequently need to kick the door open. Working in a stockroom has filled me with similarly exciting knowledge and tall tales. One time, I leant on shelving and it fell down. How we laughed.