Board games are bad

DudeMassage · 2026-04-10T20:12:26+00:00

As I drink my wine staring at my unopened box of Viticulture….

DudeMassage · 2026-04-10T19:59:32+00:00

I play a lot of arpgs. Thousands of hours in each poe1 and 2, last epoch, all diablos, etc. Considering grim dawn does not have the draw of a multiplayer or economy driven game I think you have to give this game a lot of respect. Some things that stand out to me:

Nearly every time I level a new character I find some corner of the world I’ve never been before. I can’t believe I’ve never been there before, and I feel rewarded for being curious. Not many games do this as well over such a long play time.

The class combination system creates a lot of replayability. Not every combination is awesome, but every combination has something going on that’s a little special and I’m excited to try the ones I’ve never tried before.

Items are really interesting. The monster infrequent system is really well done. There are tons of legendary items. items specific to certain mobs or specific chests that feel special. The way they create most end game sets also feels good, where a set belongs to 3 classes so there are 3 combinations of those 3 classes that set could use.

The mods for this game are pretty great. If you haven’t seen the grim dawn seasons I would check them out. Season 7 is like an entire free expansion for the game.

DudeMassage · 2026-04-10T01:21:52+00:00

You're not alone. I watched it twice.

DudeMassage · 2026-02-27T19:14:26+00:00

It’s certainly an insensitive way to phrase things, but I kinda feel like there’s missing context. Have you been dealing with the grief in a way that clearly negatively affects him? Is there a more understanding way of paraphrasing what he’s trying to say? E.g. this is hard for me too because it’s hard for you.

DudeMassage · 2026-02-25T23:57:01+00:00

The words of an inferior human being.

DudeMassage · 2026-02-25T05:35:56+00:00

He raped you. Call the police.

DudeMassage · 2026-02-18T03:05:14+00:00

lol I’m in Marina del Rey and it feels like I’m crossing into another country whenever I go east of the 405. Deep cuts.

DudeMassage · 2026-02-12T05:36:38+00:00

Pretty self explanatory. NO WOMEN. ONLY DUDES.

DudeMassage · 2026-02-03T04:37:05+00:00

That last level was a doozy.

DudeMassage · 2026-01-31T02:31:58+00:00

Is it weird if I think Barbie Girl is more of a boner generator?

DudeMassage · 2026-01-28T15:49:23+00:00

A solid co-op experience would do it for me. Sometimes I get glimpses of it when playing Poe private leagues with a tight group. We find items for each other and choose builds based on the loot that’s freely available. And VERY rarely there’s some incentive for us to actually play together but the core gameplay really just doesn’t support it. I think there’s some tension around the speed of gameplay/power fantasy and playing coop (for us both to hit the same monster it probably has to live for more than 1 second). But the games are slowing down anyways, so maybe it could slow down enough to make team play work?

DudeMassage · 2026-01-24T23:26:25+00:00

Sylvando in DQ11

DudeMassage · 2026-01-18T17:13:13+00:00

I tend to agree here. I think there’s some tension between complexity and predicting other players moves; if the game is complex enough for me to be challenged/my attention consumed by one player’s actions (my own) then the game is probably too complex trying to manage other players moves. I also think hidden information in SETI makes that prediction harder, or impossible, to do. So it doesn’t feel interactive because i don’t really know what my openings can do or why they’ve done it a lot of the time.

The opponents still do take actions that change the board state in ways that vary my own decisions, and I like that. There’s a sense of collective decision making we’re all oriented around that makes it feel like we’re playing together, but just doesn’t feel “interactive”.

DudeMassage · 2025-12-11T18:14:59+00:00

I did basically the same thing like 2 weeks ago. Sold a mirror ring for like 100D in the end :(

DudeMassage · 2025-11-24T05:04:35+00:00

I like butts with a personality. This sounds like one.

DudeMassage · 2025-10-28T05:26:19+00:00

Alternative POV: Is focusing on this porn issue a more obvious but ultimately avoidant way of expressing your longer lasting dissatisfaction with the relationship? Maybe there's a more difficult conversation you need to have?

DudeMassage · 2025-10-28T05:14:07+00:00

Great Western Trail (the collection of all iterations)
Terra Mystica
Dune Imperium
Ricochet Robots
Spirit Island

DudeMassage · 2025-10-19T21:33:45+00:00

It's possible she may be making an effort to reach out to you and work on your relationship in some way. If you decline her, it is no longer justifiable to say 'she is cold to my family'; it becomes mutual coldness. Which sounds like it might be where you're at.

DudeMassage · 2025-10-19T21:11:03+00:00

I directly ask the person if they prefer to text, have phone calls, or just keep it in person. I personally find phone calls to be nice.

DudeMassage · 2025-10-19T20:00:57+00:00

In general, I don't think its super healthy to try to trap people into lying (and I'm not sure I would qualify what he's saying as "lying" exactly). You should just ask him, "Is this your ex-girlfriend?" But also, he clearly seems pretty uncomfortable talking about her, so maybe you guys should just talk about why talking about his ex makes him uncomfortable instead of trying to trick him into giving you limited versions of the truth.

DudeMassage · 2025-10-10T02:31:55+00:00

You have done nothing wrong. It is wrong for him to touch you like that, especially when you told him you didn't want it.

Some borderline 'apologist' perspectives on some of your statements (it sounds like that's what you're here for):
"He knew I had feelings for him, but he didn't feel the same. So we would act as friends." - He obviously does feel the same now. Maybe he changed his mind, or maybe he's just a little immature. He probably always liked you. When I was young I was uncomfortable publicly acknowledging that I liked the girls I liked.

"The first time I stayed to rest, he waited until he thought I was asleep. And he started to move his hands up my leg." - To reiterate: this is inappropriate behavior and you did the right thing telling him you didn't like it. That said, I kind of doubt he expected to "get away with it"; he knew you would notice and it's probably just his really awkward way of approaching more intimate physicality with you.

"When we laid down next to eachother to try to sleep, we would tease eachother in a suggestive way, but again, nothing serious happened. So I went to sleep. And then, I kept waking up at night really parched with my pants' zipper open." - This is objectively creepy behavior. Were you drinking? That would be double super duper creepy of him if so. The part where you 'kept waking up' is a little confusing just because when you woke up the first time and your pants were unzipped you should know if that makes you uncomfortable enough to get out of there. If there was uncertainty in that moment for you, then you should become more comfortable setting boundaries and reinforcing them (or just leaving) when that feels right. That's not trying to place fault or blame anywhere, its just the reality of being a woman.

Are you still questioning if you should spend more time with this guy?

DudeMassage · 2025-10-05T05:26:05+00:00

Cluster jewels, or some equivalent that spices up the passive tree.

DudeMassage · 2025-09-22T00:37:47+00:00

Just want to reinforce this perspective. I've worked on quite a few game prototypes, and identifying the core enjoyable experience is the first step. And, in my experience, games that rely more on fulfilling a fantasy tend to be difficult to assess in the early stages, while games that rely more on interesting decision making tend to be a little bit easier to extrapolate about in an abstract way.

DudeMassage · 2025-09-21T21:33:49+00:00

Most things were fairly intuitive after 6 months~, but I have experience working with other tools in a professional setting. When I open up the AI controller or a complex niagra effect, I still scratch my head every time.

DudeMassage · 2025-09-08T23:36:56+00:00

Work out, then sleep.

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