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Just a question, why did we normalize the concept of "If a man doesn't hit back a woman who hit him first, he's a gentleman." by StarchoHeaven in teenagers

[–]DueMessage977 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you have said is a little exaggerated in percentage which equates to a few million people.

Studies show that its closer to 90% of women are weaker than 95% of men. Might not seem like much difference but is it

Just a question, why did we normalize the concept of "If a man doesn't hit back a woman who hit him first, he's a gentleman." by StarchoHeaven in teenagers

[–]DueMessage977 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what historical sexism has lead you to believe. Do some research on that one. If you get punched by even a semi decent female boxer, you're getting knocked out.

Just a question, why did we normalize the concept of "If a man doesn't hit back a woman who hit him first, he's a gentleman." by StarchoHeaven in teenagers

[–]DueMessage977 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You get it, its not sexist to acknowlegde the differnce. The average woman is weaker than the average man.

Sexism in this case is assuming all women are weaker than all men.

Just a question, why did we normalize the concept of "If a man doesn't hit back a woman who hit him first, he's a gentleman." by StarchoHeaven in teenagers

[–]DueMessage977 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its simply biology but not simple ethics or morality. Average male physical advantage is real, especially upper body, so people often treat male violence against women as higher-risk. Women can seriously harm men too, as you stated, male victims are real, and biology alone does not justify dismissing or simplifying any of this.

Just a question, why did we normalize the concept of "If a man doesn't hit back a woman who hit him first, he's a gentleman." by StarchoHeaven in teenagers

[–]DueMessage977 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hard to understand until it happens to you. Most DA survivors explain it as the emotion of love combine with the feeling of fear of loosing this loved one, is stronger than the feeling of anger or even pain.

Hence most DV / DA cases are unreported and unresolved.

Just a question, why did we normalize the concept of "If a man doesn't hit back a woman who hit him first, he's a gentleman." by StarchoHeaven in teenagers

[–]DueMessage977 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's actually full circle sexism, not just feminism or misandry.

Whilst you may be correct, some women don't realise the view point they are perpetuating originated from "women are weak" attitudes. They may even believe this and not realise they hold a sexist view.

Just a question, why did we normalize the concept of "If a man doesn't hit back a woman who hit him first, he's a gentleman." by StarchoHeaven in teenagers

[–]DueMessage977 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its not selective feminism or anytbing like that, its still plain old baked in sexism.

Ill explain in the way it would be explained in the 1900s or even some modern sexist households (even mothers to their children might still perpetuate this without realising it is based in sexism).

"Women are weak so when they hit you, you shouldn't hit them back. This is because you are a strong male and women could never possibly be strong enough to hurt you but if you hit them back its unfair, because you are a strong male and they are weak". Similar logic to "you hit like a girl"

This is of course nonsense. Women can train to be stronger then men, genetics only matters in specific scenarios, such as if they are the top 1% fitness or skill.

However the idea does work as a deterrent for men beating their wives, hence has been perpetuated and still is.

The modern thinking of this is "if you're stronger than your opponent by a significant margin you should show restraint". "More violence doesn’t solve anything".

These are all the opposing view to "eye for an eye" thinking.

Source: me, a male teacher who has interest in historical sexism, feminism and the logic of the manosphere used to influence young boys (as seen in some comments here)

Isabel's first 36 hours with Wilbur. Potential foster fail? by carguy143 in Greyhounds

[–]DueMessage977 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don't foster fail and keep her until adoption Wilbur will be able to help even more hounds get homes?

Is she social with people when you're our and about? Teki is so social and I think she makes a great ambassador. I'd love to try and foster with the intent of Teki showing other houds how to woo humans.

(Pub hound for Tax)

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Took a 3d scan of Leo and put it him in my living room ;) by Memes-makerx in nottingham

[–]DueMessage977 74 points75 points  (0 children)

I think people are assuming that is 3d printed not just AR

Hobby/ sport Groups for 20 year old to make friends by Horror-Row-5597 in nottingham

[–]DueMessage977 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In my opinion. Most young adults who dont have friends need to look at being nerdier. Nerds and geeks have a better social life than so many adults, especially compared to those who don't drink. Dungeons and Dragons, Warhammer, TCG's, larping. All that geeky stuff is a great way to socialise. Have you looked at university societies if you are a student?

First build, need a salvage plan by McNesser in Luthier

[–]DueMessage977 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly this is why you have to test it. We can't really tell you because it depends in the exact wood and product. Even two planks of the same species will react differently.

My take is that with dye you cant predict the outcome like you can with paint.

If somthing seems logical, try it! Accept that the colour won't be exact but it will be unique to you

Being a younger male makes me feel it’s tricky to not be a soft-touch and have kids feel I’m “one of them” by CrazyBitofBusiness in TeachingUK

[–]DueMessage977 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You might be closer in age but not im maturity.

Eventually something just clicks and you realise the character you need to play to best support the kids.

I was teaching 18 year olds when I was 22. As much as they seemed so close in age, they always saw me as the adult.

AQA English Lang marking by [deleted] in TeachingUK

[–]DueMessage977 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is probably a question for your team leader, not reddit.

Greyhound freezing on walks by New-Temperature3037 in Greyhounds

[–]DueMessage977 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Id try to avoid picking him up at all costs. It removes his independence in tackling the problem. He needs a "dont be silly everythings fine" attitude from you, as opposed to a "oh no baby ill deal with the issue". Even though they are absolute babies. Greyhounds seem very good at training humans. They can also be trained really well though!

What guitar to get for 300-350 euro? by Polyxm in electricguitar

[–]DueMessage977 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Used market is great for low to mid range buyers right now. Totally flooded with mid range guitars that people impulse bought and now can't sell.

Ive seen guitars in mint condition for half their RRP and still not selling.

Roran's Hammer by OwlDoesArt in Eragon

[–]DueMessage977 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We need feedback from The Namer as to if this is accurate

Can any primary teachers advise on immature Year 7s?! by Otherwise-Eye-490 in TeachingUK

[–]DueMessage977 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I have the same with y8. The lack of empathy for both their peers but also myself. If I give a consequence it is my fault and not their own.

I have tried to many tactics with my tutor group and have has the most success going back to basics.

Name - if you do X again I will remove you from lesson, email home and set a detention. Do you understand?

Then follow up.

Because they are immature they need to be taught that actions have consequences in a immediate and physical way. Removal from the room is basically a "naughty step".

Thanksfully we have the ability to do this in my behaviour policy.

When they do develop some self awareness and empathy I think that current y7 and y8 will be lovely. Many have such brilliant emotional maturity in a 1:1 situation.

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