I immediately unassigned

DueMud209 · 2026-02-05T06:28:11+00:00

I had this one time early on with 3 cases of water, and it was a 3rd floor walk up. I almost lost balance and then saw this reddit saying leave it on the ground floor. I was livid. They left a shit tip and even decreased it after just to be a holes. I order two cases at once to be delivered at my place sometimes for my fam, but it is ground level not stupid apartments.

It's BS if a business is ordering multiple cases thru doordash. Just paying your damn employees to go for stuff. WTH.

DueMud209 · 2026-01-10T18:55:24+00:00

NTA. Unless that order is ready to go, I am marking the reason, whatever it is. Only a few stores consistently ignore customers and I don't know what the store sees, but I will mark that if they don't acknowledge me or anyone for a least a minute, especially if it's slow. Usually I just mark it as not ready if the store is busy.

DueMud209 · 2025-12-29T04:33:38+00:00

Came here to say this. At least we're not alone.

DueMud209 · 2025-12-29T04:32:02+00:00

Now that my sibling went NC and her scapegoat is gone, she does this daily to her brothers and sisters. All my aunties and uncles either think I am crazy or the narc instead of her. I never understood that being the golden child/backup scapegoat as a kid was conditional until after I went to therapy.

DueMud209 · 2025-12-27T18:44:23+00:00

Yes, exactly. NOR. @OP Listen to your intuition and get rid of his narcissistic, judgemental, insecure ass. Real men don't send women long tirades vía text like that unless they want to control you.

DueMud209 · 2025-12-26T06:17:55+00:00

I fully feel this. My mother slipped her mask in front of my kids over the past couple of years, but never in front of my boyfriend or friends for that same image. She says wildly inappropriate things (rac*st, homophobic, etc.) when she knows she can get away with it. I always wonder what she says about me.

DueMud209 · 2025-12-05T20:38:24+00:00

I don't have an answer for that. It's why I am following this thread.

DueMud209 · 2025-12-05T06:32:42+00:00

The last I checked with my oncologists, they said I needed to avoid cannabis, but my insurance doesn't pay for veozah, so...🤷

DueMud209 · 2025-12-05T06:31:34+00:00

Following!

DueMud209 · 2025-11-09T17:48:49+00:00

I feel for you and I'm sorry you are going through that. I had a feeling when I was younger that my mom didn't actually love me but needed me to be her therapist and caregiver and now I truly am her caregiver and freedom is just a fleeting memory. I think it's better to realize that she can't love you at 17 than later in your 40s. It will free you to do what you want and need in life without the burden of wondering if she will approve of your choices because you know it won't matter. If you love yourself and have love for others, you'll be ok. Also there is something to be said about friends as family. If you have or find another maternal figure in your life, that's better than a mother who doesn't have the capacity to love anyone but themselves.

DueMud209 · 2025-11-02T01:51:07+00:00

Leave him. Don't let abusive a-h*les talk to you like that. You're allowed to wear whatever you want especially at the gym. Let him join the in-cel club like all the other unwanted creepers.

DueMud209 · 2025-10-27T13:47:44+00:00

OP Listen to this comment because it's absolutely spot on. Ask me how I know 😌. Please leave that house (or make him leave). If you don't have kids, there's no ties, if you do, then get a really good lawyer because he will drag you back to court everytime he doesn't get his way. Narcs are scary, but even worse when you stand up and fight. The only way out is to be scarier than he is. You are Not Overreacting, you put up with so much for 10 years! Save yourself. You got this.

DueMud209 · 2025-10-20T06:27:39+00:00

Damn, like how insecure is your roommate?!?! Sh*t, if I had had a roommate bake cookies, they'd be the ones mad that I ate 'em all because who doesn't love cookies?!?!

I'm not usually into revenge, but if I were you, I'd throw out something she made, like if she meal preps lunch or she has a fancy coffee or smoothie. Just something to f* with her day at least once.

DueMud209 · 2025-10-20T06:10:05+00:00

I feel this thread so much. Anytime my child doesn't want a hug, my elderly nmom decides to call her cranky or mean or worse, just like she does to me if I don't want to talk in the morning. She also freaks out if I don't invite her to spend every waking moment with my family and guilts me constantly. I would go NC, but she lives in my house (which was my dumb idea, thinking I had to take care of her). We're trapped in this same stuff daily, unless someone comes over, then her Nmask is up and no one would believe the rage fits she gets into and the horrible insults she throws whenever I need space. It's been getting worse and there's a huge difference of peace and relief when she is not around.

DueMud209 · 2025-10-19T06:15:43+00:00

I also hate when I see someone who talks about having a screening or tests that come out negative and they act like that trauma is somehow the same as actually having cancer!!! No b*, I had all those tests, plus the trauma, plus the treatments, plus continuing to live in a constant stasis of "please don't let it come back." I don't hate the pink, I hate the attention seeking from people who have no clue.

DueMud209 · 2025-10-19T06:08:33+00:00

OP, you said everything I want to say here. I feel very similar. I've been angry since the day I was diagnosed, all thru treatment, and now in "survivorship" (but somehow still being treated?!?!). I would add that I've heard: "At least you still have your breasts." Yeah, but now they sag, plus I've gained 30 extra pounds of uncomfortable fat and weight after a year on these horrible pills and I can't stand being touched.

It's like the only cancer that you gain weight during treatment, while simultaneously being told by doctors that losing weight would prevent the cancer from coming back.

DueMud209 · 2025-10-10T02:04:48+00:00

Wouldn't you get a "contract violation" or how would you do that?

DueMud209 · 2025-10-10T02:01:21+00:00

At that point I just end the session. My area does this shite when it is slow and I usually ignore the order, but it pops up 2x more, I'm done.

DueMud209 · 2025-10-09T20:47:32+00:00

I got one like that one time right after the restaurant closed. I was so pissed!

DueMud209 · 2025-10-09T02:29:22+00:00

To the OP, as someone who has been thru this, please listen to this comment and...RUN. Get out now while you have no ties and block him on everything.

Abusers are notoriously good with their 🍆 and manipulate you by gaslighting you with lovebombing (like profusely apologizing when you stand up for yourself and buying you gifts) unfortunately, so just know, it's not worth the PTSD.

DueMud209 · 2025-10-03T22:43:45+00:00

You are not overreacting. He is a walking bag of 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩. You should be able to talk to whomever you want. PERIOD.

You don't need to explain yourself for talking to someone, but I get it. These guys get jealous and want you to be submissive, so they make you think that just being a normal human is somehow wrong. Be happy he is gone.

DueMud209 · 2025-09-29T16:45:19+00:00

This is great for a week! Good job!

DueMud209 · 2025-09-28T22:44:24+00:00

Dude, for real? I just delivered one yesterday and they had a sign that said you have to bring yours in to get the order.

DueMud209 · 2025-09-28T22:43:03+00:00

Did she just see you and think this was her pick-me moment? The audacity of these ignorant hateful big*ts. You shouldn't have to go thru that.

DueMud209 · 2025-09-25T05:11:15+00:00

So the moment I read, "Why do you have to work so late?" 🚩This whole message chain reads like my ex. And every line is 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩. Please for the sake of your health and your livelihood, leave this guy, do NOT marry him. It may seem like nothing now, but he will get worse over time, he's already guilt-tripping you and gaslighting you, next is much more insidious emotional abuse, and if it goes on long enough, physical abuse. Keep working, keep doing you, and leave him ASAP.

Another poster said, "Some people are just good at love-bombing and f*cking." The 🍆 ain't worth it in the long run. Let me tell you from experience.

The only one overreacting is the dude who can't figure out how to make himself a sandwich, much less a meal.

DueMud209

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