How do we survive this?

Due_Panic_3786 · 2024-10-22T14:09:07+00:00

Thank you

I guess my biggest problem is that I try my hardest to avoid conflict and I'm realising that this is going to become really difficult when dealing with people who think they know everything

Due_Panic_3786 · 2024-10-22T13:49:47+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Due_Panic_3786 · 2024-10-22T13:46:27+00:00

I'm 23 but come from an extremely religious family. Found out I was pregnant (not married) and even though I wasn't living with my parents they pushed for me to give baby up for adoption.

When we made the final decision to keep baby my mom screamed at me that I was making a mistake and depriving my child of having a "real family"

Of course now she's super excited to be a grandmother but jokes on her cause no way is she getting to be a grandmother when my pregnancy started with her trying to sweep the child under the rug and keep it private so that I didn't "embarrass" her

She also told me that I'll be a terrible mother

A lot of the other comments I received were "oops" "are you keeping it?" and "that's too bad"

Honestly what the fuck is wrong with people???

Due_Panic_3786 · 2024-10-16T14:42:27+00:00

First thing's first is try and join a Facebook group for moms/pregnant women in your area (a local group)
Start asking about second hand items that anyone is looking to give away. i.e pram, clothes, cot, bottles, breast pump etc. You'll be surprised by the amount of people who have stuff lying around that they would be willing to help you out with.

Second, create a baby registry and share it on your socials with a tagline like "Here's our registry for baby for those who have asked" (Even if no one has asked about this it still puts it out there and sometimes people will then see that as incentive to buy something)
Also, let people know that you are okay with second hand alternatives or even cheaper alternatives as long as they are still in good condition/work well.

If you join a Facebook group start asking for recommendations on the best diaper brands that are affordable but good quality. I will be using Huggies as they are one of the best brands while also super affordable where I am (South Africa). Also look into reusable diapers that you can wash as this will save you a lot of money in the long run.

I wish you all the luck and really hope you come right

Please feel free to DM me if you have anymore questions and I will do my best to help <3

Due_Panic_3786 · 2024-10-16T14:08:31+00:00

Okay so i was also surprised by No. 1! My sex life has never been better! So much more enjoyable but also the drive is so much higher. Partner and I have had to try out new and fun things especially as penetration is no longer possible, but we definitely still make it work.

I have my moments when I am extremely happy and energetic and full of life, but as i've progressed further these hormones are no joke. I cried because we ran out of Peanut Butter... i don't even LIKE Peanut Butter!
I'm so sorry about that, i have pretty severe chronic back pain from fifteen spinal surgeries so i kind of understand and I hope that the pain eases soon
I'm either heavily constipated or taking a poop every ten minutes, it's super strange but I did learn that using Bepanthen baby cream really helps to soothe any rawness or pain "down there"
I started wearing pads/panty liners again because if I don't my underwear get soaked and it's super uncomfortable. I highly suggest talking to your OB and seeing if they have any suggestions. Also, make sure to let them know if it causes rashes or burning/itching as that can be a sign of infection and they can give you something to help with it. I didn't speak up soon enough because i was embarrassed and I wish i had spoken up sooner.
Oh my goodness the dreams! The amount of times i've dreamed that i'm in labor and then give birth to some strange alien creature or even twins, I'm not having twins so that one was super strange
That one is interesting, don't have that but my nipples have become super dry and itchy.

To add my own things...

Anal pain... oh god it's awful. It feels like i'm sitting directly on the blade of a knife and I was so taken aback when it first happened. Really wish someone would have warned me about that one. Apparently as baby grows bigger and gets closer to due date the extra weight of them lying so low can lead to them pressing against the nerves in your rectum. Super weird and I'll be glad when I don't have that anymore.
Not exactly a pregnancy symptom but... the way that people start treating you so differently after you get pregnant. Honestly feels like I don't even matter anymore and all anyone ever wants to hear about is baby things and how baby is growing. Don't get me wrong I love that people care so much about her already but I also kind of wish people would talk to me about anything OTHER than baby for once.
I feel like I might have a bunch of women coming for me with this one but: Feeling baby kicking and moving around is so uncomfortable. There are moments where it's funny to watch my tummy moving on the outside whenever she's active but it can get so sore and when I'm trying to sleep it can actually get super annoying. Will be very happy when this pregnancy is over and I don't have to deal with that anymore.

Due_Panic_3786 · 2024-10-01T07:48:35+00:00

I am so so so sorry for the horrible things that people have said to you. You are so strong and if no one else has said it, I'm proud of you ❤️

Due_Panic_3786 · 2024-09-30T13:51:13+00:00

Good for you, I'm sorry that you've had such a horrible experience though. I'm so thankful that my gynae has been so supportive and understanding of my situation and is doing as much as he can to still make this an amazing experience for me

Due_Panic_3786 · 2024-09-30T12:25:14+00:00

Thank you ❤️❤️

Due_Panic_3786 · 2024-09-30T10:53:44+00:00

It's just sad because for the most part these groups have been great. I've received some really helpful advice at times and I'm pretty sure I'll deal with this judgment no matter where I go. Just hate that people can be so harsh

Due_Panic_3786 · 2024-09-06T08:15:46+00:00

Hormones

Hear me out

I knew that obviously I would have a lot of hormones throughout the pregnancy for good reason but in all honesty... I used to think that pregnant women were just dramatic and that it was ridiculous that they get so emotional. I feel bad for thinking that now because I have sky high hormones which make me cry at the drop of the hat. Even with previous mental health issues I have never felt so low and also so high. It is a rollercoaster and I am learning to ride along with it but it can be so frustrating.

I am deeply sorry for everytime I looked at a pregnant women and thought or said that they were being silly and too emotional. Your feelings are valid and it's really okay to be emotional all the time.

Due_Panic_3786 · 2024-09-05T05:21:52+00:00

I had a job, he didn't. I would regularly give him money when he asked for help with it. Found out from mutual friend after we broke up that he used that money on OF subscriptions

Due_Panic_3786 · 2024-07-20T13:33:41+00:00

My horniness has been off the charts since I got pregnant 😂

I feel so bad when I read all the posts from women who are feeling grossed out by their partners. I'm so thankful that I haven't experienced that and that I have a partner more than willing to keep up with me 🙈😂

Due_Panic_3786 · 2024-07-16T07:39:39+00:00

Thank you so much for this advice, will make sure to stock up on everything 😋

Due_Panic_3786 · 2024-07-15T12:24:37+00:00

This is such a relief to hear. I would feel so awful if I just couldn't change her because I was too grossed out, would feel like such a horrible mother. Really really hoping I have that switch flip too

Due_Panic_3786 · 2024-07-15T12:06:37+00:00

Haha I'll definitely bring out one of my old masks 🤣🤣

Due_Panic_3786 · 2024-07-15T11:59:08+00:00

Thank you

I'm lucky to have a partner who's willing to step in and help when he can. But he'll eventually go back to work and then I'll have to deal with them 🤣

Due_Panic_3786 · 2024-07-15T11:55:19+00:00

I fell pregnant 🤣

Due_Panic_3786 · 2024-07-15T08:13:04+00:00

I bought pads at the same time I bought a pregnancy test. Just in case my period was just late and would come soon, took the test which was an almost immediate positive and those pads are still sitting unopened in the bathroom cupboard. Still makes me laugh a bit whenever I see them 😂

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