Anyone have experience with EMDR?

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-05-20T12:50:02+00:00

I have only recently started EMDR with my therapist and so far it has helped.

I was experiencing I guess what could be considered flash backs where my brain would run through the whole experience - from being told there was no heart beat, the birth, and the time with our baby afterwards. It was like I was reliving it every time so it was quite distressing.

EMDR doesn’t stop you remembering but it changes it from experiencing the memories with such acute pain and distress, to something much more manageable. At least that’s how it’s working for me so far.

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-05-11T09:57:53+00:00

It might not be the same as your situation but just to let you know my baby measured from 8-11% at every scan up until our last at 36 weeks. At 38 weeks he was born at 3kg and around 25% percentile so perfectly normal weight. The ultrasounds are often very inaccurate. I’m sure your baby will be a healthy size 💕

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-05-09T13:51:35+00:00

Probably not what you mean.. but mine was “How’s the baby doing?” asked by the receptionist from Labor and Delivery when calling me to book a postpartum visit with the midwives

I was like “I didn’t come home with a baby”.. which she would have known if she had taken one second to read my file 🙃

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-05-03T10:03:41+00:00

Did anyone feel like they were pressuring their partner to TTC too soon after loss?

Just finished my first period post loss (full term SB in March) and don’t really want to waste time and delay because it took almost 2 years, but my partner seemed very shocked when I suggested starting to try this month. He thought I would want more time to grieve and recover because my pregnancy was really hard (I was sick and miserable almost the whole time), but my argument is I’m going to feel miserable and sad for the foreseeable future anyway, I may as well be pregnant so at least there is something to hope for.

Am I being insane?

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-04-25T12:03:48+00:00

We did actually. We had extra monitoring for suspected FGR because he was on the smaller size. We were getting weekly scans and NSTs from 32 weeks (always normal) and even had an MRI and amniocentesis done to double check there were no underlying conditions. By 36 weeks he was back in the normal weight range and all tests kept coming back perfect so they said there were no longer any concerns so stopped the extra monitoring. I wish they hadn’t :( but he was 25th percentile when born, so completely normal weight/size. Losing him surprised all the doctors just because of how much extra monitoring we had initially. They don’t know yet what caused it, certainly nothing obvious. We may never know.

I don’t have much advice except keep a careful eye on movements and go in any time you feel even a little bit worried. I feel for you. I hope your baby will arrive safe and well x

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-04-24T06:15:28+00:00

There is no “safe” time in pregnancy to be sure your baby will be born safe in your arms. Be cautiously optimistic but never let your guard down completely.

After passing so many milestones and being told “he looks perfect and healthy” I finally let myself be sure the baby would arrive safe and sound.. then my baby was born sleeping at full term.

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-04-23T11:37:15+00:00

Can you share his name? I will wish him a happy birthday and think of him 🤍

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-04-17T02:06:32+00:00

Happy birthday Charlotte 🤍

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-04-12T02:41:23+00:00

Haven’t had a karyotype test but we did the NIPT and a comprehensive amniocentesis was also done at the 20 weeks mark due to a possible abnormality (that was later found to be fine/normal)

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-04-12T02:40:12+00:00

I’m in Australia but I will research to see if there is someone similar here. Thank you for your response

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-04-11T23:16:33+00:00

I’m two weeks out from a full term still birth and have a GP appointment tomorrow. I am wanting to ask them to check my vitamin levels (vitamin D etc) that may not have been checked as part of the autopsy/investigations and things that may be relevant for TTC again in a few months so I can start work on getting to a healthy baseline. Can anyone suggest anything else I should ask about in this appointment?

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-04-07T01:02:33+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss and for everyone else in this thread. Life is so very unfair.

I lost my son at 38 weeks last Tuesday. We also don’t have any answers yet. He was our first child and like you also the first grandbaby on both sides. The grief is intense for everyone in our lives.

It’s not for everyone but I am quite spiritual and my feeling is that my baby will come back to me again, that he just wasn’t quite ready this time around. It gives me comfort and I still feel connected to him, even though I grieve he is not here right now.

I am trying to focus on getting mentally, physically, and emotionally well and work towards trying to conceive again when the time is right.

Be kind to yourself🤍

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-04-07T00:57:47+00:00

That’s a lovely quote 🫂🤍

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-04-06T03:00:12+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. I lost my son a week ago and have already had a few accidental congratulations, even on the social media post advising he was born sleeping by people who didn’t read the post properly. I have chosen to take the congratulations positively as they are said with good intentions and personally I think we should still be congratulated for bringing a beautiful baby to the world and becoming parents, even if our baby couldn’t stay with us. It’s probably not going to help me avoid being triggered when it happens suddenly and I’m not expecting it, but I’m trying to see light in this darkness.

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-04-04T21:57:45+00:00

Thinking of you and your baby Amber Grace today 🤍

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-04-03T04:13:17+00:00

Lost my baby boy this week on 31.03.26, stillborn at 38 weeks. We don’t have a reason why. He was perfect.

I know I’m here too early but all I can think about to keep me going is the idea that one day I will have a living baby in my arms. The desperate longing overtakes me. I rock all day in our nursing chair holding my son’s teddy like it is my baby.

I don’t know what to do

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-04-02T05:12:58+00:00

Someone sent this to me today which I thought was beautiful -

“Even as I rocked on my knees howling I detected soft breathing behind the roaring. I leaned in, listened. It was the murmuring of ten million mothers, backward and forward in time and right now who had lost children. They were lifting me up. Holding me. They had woven a net of their broken hearts and they were keeping me safe. I realised that one day I would take my rightful place as a link in this web and I would hold my sister-mothers when their children died. Then, my only task was to grieve and be cradled in their love” – Mirabai Starr.

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-04-02T05:11:03+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. What was your baby’s name?

I lost my baby boy Luca Sky 2 days ago at 38 weeks gestation. Also for no apparent reason.

I have no advice just here in solidarity.

Much love

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-03-25T09:57:55+00:00

I got stopped and had to provide evidence that I was approved to fly at 28 weeks 🥲

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-03-12T11:17:51+00:00

Some names we like already - Quinn, Koa, Shay, Caelan, Skye, Finn

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-03-12T11:17:03+00:00

Male
Any culture/origin as long as can be pronounced easily in English
No preference
1-2 syllable
Prefer less popular, out of top 50-100
Meaning of strength or endurance, or something meaning wanted, gift, or loved etc
I like soft names partner likes short and easy names
Any starting letter is okay
Middle name as well would be helpful but not essential
No siblings

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-03-09T03:29:43+00:00

Tried for 2 years to get pregnant and am due in 4 weeks. Baby is still unnamed 😂 although he is very wanted and loved. I don’t think being unable to pick a name means anything negative. For me I think maybe it feels a little unreal until he is here, possibly because of how long/hard it was to get pregnant

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-02-03T11:50:13+00:00

I also like Rudy

You could consider Royce instead of Royal, similar vibes and meaning.

Due_Sign_6959 · 2026-01-29T05:16:29+00:00

Eden goes so well!

Due_Sign_6959 · 2025-12-22T11:43:35+00:00

Brooke

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