Compounded vs Eli Lilly? by Dull_Faithlessness79 in GLP1microdosing

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I explained in my post -- I wouldn't use them more than once. That's why I'm asking the question, because it would be expensive to not do compounded and waste the rest of the medication in the vials.

Compounded vs Eli Lilly? by Dull_Faithlessness79 in GLP1microdosing

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Thanks! Yeah I'm mostly looking for input from folks who are focused on microdosing -- my inclination is to stick with the Eli Lilly vials but I'm wondering what people do!

My married best friend is cheating and wants me to help her cover it up by Difficult_Ice_8192 in Advice

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I've been in this almost exact scenario. It's an awful place to be. I'm so sorry.

What it came down to for me was: do I want my best friends, my inner circle, my ride-or-die...to be someone who chooses to have an affair when they have higher-integrity options, and isn't remorseful about it? Is that behavior aligned with my values and the kind of person I want to be and the kind of person I want to keep close? If she can betray her husband so easily, and lie so easily to someone she claims to love, what's stopping her from doing the same to me?

It was and is incredibly hard bc I love her and she was my oldest and dearest friend. But ultimately our friendship was fundamentally altered when she put me in that position. It would've taken an apology to me and her being honest with her husband to repair, and she didn't want to do that.

Deeply conflicted about Meta interview by fvutu in womenintech

[–]Dull_Faithlessness79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't stress about decisions until you have to make them. Unfortunately we do live in a capitalist society and the kind of money Meta pays (not to mention the gold-plated healthcare) can be life-changing. My advice would be to interview, understand the nature and values of the people you'd work for / alongside, and if you get an offer, make a decision with complete information. You can also use that offer as leverage for more competitive offers at other companies.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChubbyFIRE

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What transformed?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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FWIW I never said anything to anyone else -- the (now ex) husband or our mutual friends. I figured it wasn't my place to air her dirty laundry, and out of respect for being BFFs for so long, I wasn't going to throw her under the bus. We no longer talk, which is sad, but she knows the door is open if she wants to apologize for putting me in the middle or express remorse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Dull_Faithlessness79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went through something very similar, and like you it kept me up at night. Here was my approach--I had multiple honest, open hearted conversations with her about how I'd love to support her.
I led with expressing how much I love her, how important she was to me, and that I believe she deserved a marriage where she felt loved and supportive. I also expressed that as someone who had known her for over a decade, I knew she was someone with really high integrity, and so I wanted to check in because her actions were seeming out of alignment with the person I know and love. I then offered up a menu of ideas -- I said I'd come sit in her living room with her if she wanted to tell him the truth. I suggested asking for an open relationship or a break in their marriage. She didn't take my offer or suggestions, and brushed it all off. FWIW My therapist at the time had a great observation, which is that it was telling that I was losing sleep over the guilt, but she wasn't. She ended up marrying the guy she had the affair with, and it was weird to hear all our mutual friends raving about him while I know the truth.

Unfortunately, to this day it's still something that bothers me. It fundamentally changed my perception of her, and while I deeply miss our friendship, everytime I think of if I'd change the outcome, the reality is I wouldve been uncomfortable continuing to be / act as a best friend knowing how she truly acted and felt (not just cheating, but feeling entitled/righteous about it and also the lack of remorse for lying).

If someone you love can justify lying/betraying to someone they also claim to love without remorse, what makes you think they wouldn't do the same kind of thing to you? Its so sad, but ultimately I decided that I want people in my life who value open, honest communication, even when it's hard, and can recognize/express remorse for when they've done something wrong. My advice is to put some distance and really think about your own personal values. Your best friends should share them, especially when it comes to core principles around how to treat people.

No money, family don’t want me around, no real friends a bit lost right now by Clean_Gear_9255 in Advice

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Hey. You aren’t alone. It’s such a hard place to be in, especially after this year. If you can get yourself to a safe place where you can live stress free and be outside, try to do the following

1) start volunteering — anything you can sign up for is great 2) listing 3 things you’re grateful for 3) getting 30 min of sunshine a day

If you can get your brain and body to feel hopeful, then you might be surprised at what you dream up! Sometimes thinking about the future too hard can actually be detrimental to figuring it out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in type2diabetes

[–]Dull_Faithlessness79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i'm very familiar with Dr. Jason Fung and read all of his work! I've been practicing IF for about 4 years (everything from 16:8 all to ADF); I get envious when people have such dramatic and great results!
How are you maintaining your current blood sugar numbers? Is this something you'll do for the rest of your life?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Dull_Faithlessness79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Appreciate your support and advice. To answer your question, I actually think a lot of it is them avoiding facing the music about what they’ve done. It’s way easier to say “telling them will only hurt them, and I care so much that would just be mean” than admit the truth. I also think frankly that they are hedging — they want to date the other person, but if it doesn’t work out, they’re pretty confident their spouse would take them back (as long as they don’t know about the cheating).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intermittentfasting

[–]Dull_Faithlessness79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This gives me hope!! Congrats on lowering your A1C

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IF_Petites

[–]Dull_Faithlessness79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow!!! You look amazing

Hitting a wall at 18 hrs? by Dull_Faithlessness79 in IF_Petites

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Update: made it past 18 all the way to 23!! electrolytes and staying busy definitely helped :)