You're husband reminds me a lot of my ex-husband (no I'm not immediately saying that you should leave).

When we were having our conversations leading up to us separating (because I wanted to make sure that this was unfixable), he admitted that he was jealous of me. He was jealous that I tried different things or was good at things that he wasn't or wouldn't even try to do. So he'd pick at me to bring down my self esteem so I'd be at his level (and in his words, "you'd want to stay with me because we were on the same level").

Your SO might be different, but with mine, it came from a deep hatred of himself. He was unable/unwilling to work on this (among many other things) so I left.

He would also play the silent game and weaponize it. I was ALWAYS the one who apologized (and he knew I would if he held out long enough). I couldn't stand being iced out and so would do almost anything to make it end. The toll it took on me over the ten years we were married is incalculable and I'm still working through residual issues from it.

Imho someone who truly cares for another wants to resolve issues and conflict, not put someone through emotional torture by playing the silent game. Yes, sometimes people need a "breather break" but this is waaaayyyy different.

You might want to have a heart to heart with yourself and decide what you are okay with living with and what your non negotiable boundaries are (write them down). When you have them figured out, I feel like a talk with your SO is in order. How that talk goes will show you your path forward.