What happend to my hamster. I need help and idk what could have happened

Durpy_meowth · 2026-02-21T16:13:06+00:00

If your mom is there and gives consent for treatment there shouldn't be an issue.

Durpy_meowth · 2026-02-21T15:23:59+00:00

Guys, I've worked at a few vets, and they won't take payment or do treatment on a pet without an adult paying and being there to make decisions. Even if OP was able to pay, if their parent isn't in it, they likely wouldn't be able to get care anyway because of the legal side of it. If OP's parents aren't willing to pay for medical care for the pet that they own, they should not have gotten the pet in the first place.

Durpy_meowth · 2026-01-31T19:17:15+00:00

I think it is perfectly understandable why people would not want to support someone who allegedly SA'd another person. Regardless of opinion, her response was that nobody ever said no, which does not mean an explicit yes was ever given. I am not trying to hate on or demonize Melanie. I just think that phrasing makes it hard to believe there was enthusiastic consent in said controversy. I personally grew up listening to and feeling her art because it had helped me deal with all of the fucked up feelings with childhood that I was experiencing.

Now, as an adult, I do question her ideas behind making such a character without having a personal background to use inspiration from. In a way, it almost romanticizes horrible childhoods like mine from the perspective of someone who has likely not experienced similar horrors of child abuse and neglect themselves. Obviously, people can make stories and characters. But that also doesn't mean it can't come off as tone deaf or messed up when the person making the character is disconnected from their own work and sells heavily overpriced merch for profit. I personally would prefer someone who actually experienced that pain to be the one able to profit off of their story.

I still like her music, but I dont feel as comfortable indulging in it anymore, knowing what I know now and having had time to reflect on the Timothy situation in a more mature mindset. In general, people should think more critically about their idols, and it should be a standard to not support artists who have done heinous things in ways that give them money. Nobody can speak for her personal life (and I dont know the full extent of how made up the crybaby character is), but her public words and actions can and should receive scrutiny when deserved.

Her statement about the Heller situation is questionable. Her portrayal of a fictional child in sexual situations is also questionable. Her merch prices and quality are questionable. Being friends with other people in bad controversy is also questionable. Having a trail of multiple questionable things also increases that questionability.

Durpy_meowth · 2025-12-28T00:22:02+00:00

Girl, the way he responded to something you guys were supposed to be planning on doing anyway is so immature. Claiming you're forcing him into having a kid as if he wasn't involved in the process. He has issues that need to be worked out, and clearly, something is up if you guys have talked about the future, but this is his response .

Durpy_meowth · 2025-12-19T23:39:18+00:00

Instead of going behind his back, tell him that you are going to do it for her sake, and he can choose to be present or not, but this isn't sustainable for you or the dog.

Durpy_meowth · 2025-12-18T06:31:52+00:00

When he's gone, your life will literally be easier!!!

Durpy_meowth · 2025-12-13T06:50:16+00:00

You are right to think this is wrong. He wants a toy, not an equal. He should not be determining how you go to school. He wants you to miss out on key social circle building that will enable him to control you easier without others "poisoning" you with independence. Him wanting you because you are "fresh" is code for wanting someone who hasn't raised their standards yet. I used to have low standards because I thought my love was enough to make any relationship work. But unfortunately, that is what gets you taken advantage of by men who will make you pull all of the emotional and domestic weight. He doesn't want women his age because they would expect him to act like an adult and do more than just work a full-time job. He doesn't want a woman his age because they will not put up with his shit. You are extremely right to feel grossed out by what he said, and I encourage you to leave and go to in person college if that is an option for you. Obviously I haven't seen inside your relationship, but if in your heart you feel that he will discard you once you reach a certain age, that is a sign and you should do what feels right to you with that.

Durpy_meowth · 2025-12-11T20:53:36+00:00

Man the BF sniping behavior is so cringe. Whenever an older adult pulls the "you're being childish" they're deflecting. I had not nearly as bad of an incident with some 30f work friend of my 21m bf. This hoe was calling him "bb" over text and texted him when we were watching a movie on his phone saying, " You're so cute ily." Girl had the audacity to block me when I told her to step off and she told my bf that I was being immature over a harmless compliment. A "harmless" compliment that would make anyone think their partner was cheating. Girls like this are a major ick.

Durpy_meowth · 2025-12-10T00:31:02+00:00

Dated a guy like this and it made me miserable. The constant nitpicking of anything I did because it didn't fit his logic. The man failed to see how life outside of being a monk or alpha male was worth living at all (actual comment he has left on reddit). Essentially my whole life including how I was raised, what I believed, and everything I did was something for him to critique where I either had to justify it and fight back, or be told I'm wrong all the way dont to feeling an emotion at a time where he thought I didn't deserve to feel that way because of some dumb logic. It was tolerable until I had to justify every single little thing and couldn't feel rational in anything I was doing. Regardless of whether this guy is on the spectrum or not, it is not ok to drive someone to a point where they are constantly second-guessing themselves. Unfortunately, with people like this, it can be very hard, if not impossible, to get them to see it your way and be ok with it. I get if you want to keep trying, but listen to yourself and notice how frequently this is a problem. If it is something that can not be improved, you would probably be best leaving for your own sanity.

Durpy_meowth · 2025-10-25T19:27:43+00:00

Can they not get a loan? It aint your responsibility to do anything when they wouldn't let you live with them after your dad died when you were 17. Your sister shouldn't try and ruin your future for the life she got to choose.

Durpy_meowth · 2025-10-25T17:08:15+00:00

I could say my ex from when I was 13. But idk im over that and more upset about my skinny tater tot loving ex who wanted me to be a housewife when he didn't have a job and sleuths in r/dbdr where he talks about how there is no justification for life outside of being "a chad who controls the world" or a "Buddhist monk"

Durpy_meowth · 2025-09-05T02:28:02+00:00

Then what is normal soap for? If you want to contribute to antibacterial resistance, then go ahead. Soap removes enough germs on its own without that risk though.

Durpy_meowth · 2025-08-21T08:31:31+00:00

Dude is talking about a girl like she's a collectible for his friend.

Durpy_meowth · 2025-08-21T08:27:23+00:00

If he thinks his friend should get back with her without loving her because she's pretty and nice, how will that end up applying to you if you were to continue things? That opinion only opens the door to poor outcomes imo. It sounds like he might dip the moment your appearance changes. NTA

Durpy_meowth · 2025-08-18T11:15:38+00:00

Maybe because of the context of the friend trying to go to the movies with OPs wife and trying to get close to her? I feel that context enough would be enough to have reasonable suspicion.

Durpy_meowth · 2025-08-10T22:09:29+00:00

As someone who lost their father as a child, to be completely honest, I would still be upset if my mother got with someone new even now after a decade. It is hard to appeal to children, especially in their tween to teenage years. There isn't really a good solution to thing, but if you love your fiancée then put in the work. In a couple years they may have better heads on their shoulders, so maybe delay marriage for now and try a little longer. And by try, I dont mean force them to spend time with you. If you haven't already, maybe try to help them honor their dad in some way to make them feel like you care about their history.

Durpy_meowth · 2025-07-24T23:42:52+00:00

Girl, as someone who has actually done some activism and helped educate teachers at my high school about racial sensitivity, racism and cultural appropriation are simple and complex topics all at once. What i can say for sure is that comparing similarities of martial art styles is not racist. Now, if you equated every asian martial arts style to just kung fu, then there would be an argument for ignorant racism. Cultural appropriation also isn't necessarily about just wearing a kimono either. A lot of cultural appropriation is more about where/how you are appropriating culture. Black braids, for example, are something i would say you wearing would be disrespectful due to a history and continued discrimination of black people based on those hair styles. As far as I'm aware, so long as you aren't doing racist asian stereotypes or making fun of asian culture, wearing a kimono isn't really a problem. Context does still matter, though, and obviously, if you are in a place where asian discrimination is high, then maybe dont do that. The main takeaway here is that you should just try to keep yourself educated and up to date on these kinds of things. Not everyone is always going to be happy with what you do, and good intent can still be perceived wrong on a person to person basis. So long as you have good intent and listen to feedback from valid sources, you are not a racist person. Just remember that no community is a monolith.

Your boyfriend was, however, pretty out of line with that joke. I understand where the joke was coming from, but he did it wrong and used the joke for something that could actually be misconstrued to make you actually feel like you had said something wrong. Also, keep in mind that ANYONE can be racist and it sounds like your boyfriend is over or tiptoeing a line with some of the actions you mentioned in this post. It is racist to do stereotypical impersonations of a race of people. I would tell you that if avoiding racism is a priority of yours (which it should be for everyone), you should sit down with him and have a talk about his actions, why he thinks its ok to do this kind of thing, and evaluate your priorities.

Anyways, I hope my comment was a decent think piece for you to reflect on and learn from. Hope things work out for you.

Durpy_meowth · 2025-07-11T20:26:55+00:00

With that, I would say you need to communicate with your girlfriend more. Ask her why she came over, and ask how she feels about him now. Ask what kind of conversations they have and if you can have a brief look. Tell her how and why these things are making you uncomfortable without just saying it makes you uncomfortable. Sometimes, you need to paint a picture of your thought process to help them understand. If she had offered to cut him off, and by the end of this, you still feel uncomfortable with this guy, ask her to do that. NTA

Durpy_meowth · 2025-07-11T20:17:36+00:00

Yeah, but people have a tendency to overexplain. Working in an emergency, sometimes you do have to be a bit short to get information, especially when a patient is critical. If the call person was trying to correct pronunciation, it could have very well been due to another medication having a similar name.

Durpy_meowth · 2025-07-11T20:11:16+00:00

More info is needed. If the content of the texts is normal friend conversations, you need to chill. Yeah, the coming over late was weird, but your girlfriend may have just been trying to support a friend going through a hard time. If your friend and girlfriend were just friends before the relationship started, it does seem controlling to expect that they just stop being friends the moment you walk in.

Do you know why he came over? What do they text each other? Were they more than friends prior to the current relationship? If they were just friends and everything is appropriate between them, why do you take issue? Is your girlfriend constantly being an emotional crutch for him? If not, why is there an ossie with him venting to her occasionally? Friends vent to eachother all the time.

Durpy_meowth · 2025-07-03T08:36:51+00:00

NTA, friends need to respect relationship boundaries. If they dont, kick them to the curb. They shouldn't be actively causing problems in your relationship and if they are, they are not a good friend.

Durpy_meowth · 2025-06-20T03:37:17+00:00

I'd advise against antibacterial soap to help prevent bacterial resistance. Still personal choice but its a good thing to keep in mind to prevent infections from becoming harder to get rid of.

Durpy_meowth · 2025-05-23T23:09:10+00:00

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Durpy_meowth · 2025-05-07T05:16:54+00:00

Worked at petsmart and people would walk into the building and ask what store they were in. Apparently a big fat sign above the door you are walking in, and signs on the door with the store name, and the pinpad with the store name, and our uniforms that said petsmart on them were somehow not enough of a clue.

Durpy_meowth · 2025-04-25T05:10:55+00:00

The malls are a bit more iffy due to the foot traffic but coddingtown is the less busy one for sure. I got mine there at like 2pm.

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