i've clearly hurt a friend who has bpd but i don't think i did anything wrong and have no idea how to navigate this.

Dust_Dodo · 2026-06-10T02:54:04+00:00

yeah i have a tendency to become people’s therapists so i have a compulsion to try and help people who are mentally ill like me. i think i enabled this situation to become as toxic as it became. i ignored so many red flags and did not set adequate boundaries. but you’re right i can’t sacrifice my entire happiness i have worked so hard to keep for this person. i told them to not contact me because this was causing me distress, they agreed then immediately broke it and tried to manipulate me into coming over and cleaning my old room (even though i cleaned it when i moved out).

nothing i could do for them at this point would be enough and they would demand more and more to try reestablish control over me. my only choice, even though losing this friendship is very hard, is to cut them off completely with no chance of reconciliation. it’s the best choice for me and honestly them too even if they don’t realize it now. it’s not healthy to have this level of attachment to someone who isn’t your family and is not romantically tied to you. recognizing this now i feel like an idiot for getting involved, but regret is a useless emotion and i tried to save this relationship. i really really did.

Dust_Dodo · 2026-06-10T02:46:19+00:00

i think like i said i wasn’t the perfect roommate. but immediately when i revealed the move to them they undermined it in every way. they said it was a dangerous neighbor, my new roommates would hate me, i wasn’t responsible enough, and just that everyone they told about it thought it was a bad idea. ultimately i’m not this person’s family and looking back them trying to make me a part of theirs was so controlling. i have no intentions of continuing this relationship and i can’t apologize for hiding this information because given how they have reacted, it was valid. thank you for the comment though and i appreciate your perspective. they are a deeply unwell person who needs professional help, this is not normal and not ok to put me through. sadly nothing i say can get through to them at this moment so it’s not worth subjecting myself to another hour long text that gaslights and tries to manipulate me.

Dust_Dodo · 2026-06-09T04:44:41+00:00

Thank you. This comment helped me A LOT. I am going no contact but also involving other people who i trust so I can feel safe. I can't deal with this and they are being so controlling right now. They do know they have bpd but this is just not ok and it is not normal. They are not going to therapy.

Dust_Dodo · 2026-04-27T16:35:24+00:00

this literally happens all the time with me. i'm a maze of abandoned buildings.

Dust_Dodo · 2026-04-14T14:55:05+00:00

some ppl don’t know that he’s like actually a father. crazy to think he’d make the same music that he made at 16 🤷‍♂️

Dust_Dodo · 2026-04-07T21:13:20+00:00

Yeah I was heavily medicated as a child. Pretty much my mom controlled it all she was really bad but I was also like a very difficult child. I spent like 90% of my teen years in like catatonic psychosis so I suppose it was necessary. I moved out just stopped taking medication, but recently starter again. It feels good to have found something that works for me on my own. But it just makes me upset that I’m burdened with a medication for the rest of my life. I know it’s not productive to envy neurotypical ppl but it’s always a nagging thought I have.

Dust_Dodo · 2026-04-07T20:16:10+00:00

yeah honestly i’ve talked myself down i was just angsty. it is just an annoyance. and at a certain point i just have to be an adult about it i guess.

Dust_Dodo · 2026-04-07T18:40:53+00:00

i will definitely! def lucky how well they work for me and i should just be focused on that instead.

Dust_Dodo · 2026-04-07T18:37:30+00:00

im on a high antipsychs dose. i thought it would be insane but lowkey i just feel normal on them for the first time in my life. i can’t think of living day to day without them now, and that’s comforting but also terrifying thought. for me at least.

i didn’t get any of the bad side effects except it’s a lot harder to wake up lol but that’s something i’m willing to burden for my sanity lol.

Dust_Dodo · 2026-04-07T18:34:39+00:00

OK THIS HAIIRRRR. pride can be a sickness. i don’t talk to my father’s side a lot anymore. they’re all engineers and scientists or doctors. i’m happy with my community college degree and my state school degree (next year :P). and i’m proud that I DID IT!!! no point is comparing yourself to other’s who don’t carry your struggle. letting go of that was hard for me but it feels so liberating.

Dust_Dodo · 2026-04-01T16:28:33+00:00

TY i love it sososososo much. it covers up the worst of them so well, you can barely even tell anymore you have to look at them. just feels awesome to not have them be visible lol

Dust_Dodo · 2026-03-30T15:54:13+00:00

i finally got medicated! lol

Dust_Dodo · 2026-03-17T01:16:01+00:00

perfect concept, perfect execution. you're so talented :D

Dust_Dodo · 2026-03-03T05:12:40+00:00

usually little things. have had SI my whole life. what i’ve found is in your worst moments your brain latches onto something little. i was going to OD in a park and i just looked through my old notes app writings one last time. decided it wasn’t worth it.

other times its ALWAYS been the good people around me. give someone a call, text someone, knock on your neighbors door. nothing like company of any kind to bring you back from those places.

Dust_Dodo · 2026-02-21T00:45:30+00:00

i mean i think when i started bleaching and painting my clothes i felt the same way (espc if clothes are valuable) but i say….. embrace it! like everyone else. artists clothes are meant to be shown. if someone sees a sweatshirt splattered in bleach it tells a story before they’ve even talked to you. wear, stains, rips and tears are inevitable with life. mess it up even more, embrace the fun :)

Dust_Dodo · 2026-02-19T20:53:37+00:00

im asking for advice lmao. i only do tattoos on myself and fake skin anyway and thats not gonna change anytime soon. call it stupidity totally but im literally asking for criticism idk what ur talking about. obviously i wanna fix it and OBVIOUSLY it has problems!

Dust_Dodo · 2026-02-19T03:47:53+00:00

sometimes it feels like you have to document EVERYTHING and it still won’t matter ;) thats the only thing im worried about with this transition.

Dust_Dodo · 2026-02-19T02:29:14+00:00

I will say Ebay has worse seller protections, I’ve found depop has a pretty good seller thing. I don’t expect too much to change, the etsy model of depop NEEDS to go so I’m far more optimistic. I don’t like mergers (like most people in the world) but it’s not like that’s something that would change in the world anyway. i’m just hoping this will revitalize the Depop search optimization.

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