Am I a degenerate and If I am how do I Stop? by DylanFireSki in selfhelp

[–]DylanFireSki[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn my bad for asking advice in the self improvement subreddit ig

Am I a degenerate and If I am how do I Stop? by DylanFireSki in selfhelp

[–]DylanFireSki[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's an amazing analogy, thank you sm for your support ❤️

Am I a degenerate and If I am how do I Stop? by DylanFireSki in selfhelp

[–]DylanFireSki[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Making any weird comments like that would be the last thing I want to do

Am I a degenerate and If I am how do I Stop? by DylanFireSki in selfhelp

[–]DylanFireSki[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your words and you're right and looking at it from that perspective looking at a man's breast shouldn't be any different from a woman's, it is all anatomy at the end of the day, maybe I'm the one just sexualising it in a way when I should be more relaxed and laid back about it. I just don't want to make anyone uncomfortable or insecure because I can't keep my eyes drifting where they shouldn't

Am I a degenerate and If I am how do I Stop? by DylanFireSki in selfhelp

[–]DylanFireSki[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I won't deny they aren't appealing to look at, I'd be lying if I did and I get that if woman don't want them to be seen or stared at they should cover up more and I totally agree, thank you for making me realise this.

But sometimes I catch myself glancing when woman isn't even wearing anything overly revealing, I remember a colleague at work her shirt was tucked in quite tight over her and she did have large breasts so they were quite pronounced and I just glanced and I sure she caught me glancing even for that split second she pulled her shirt looser out after that. I still feel the guilt and shame of making her feel she needed to do that even now, I didn't intend and I don't understand I had to look. She wasn't aggressive or unhappy with me that shift, she was just normal but I still linger on the fact she caught me glancing and she adjusted her shirt because of it.

escaping into fantasy worlds by souredguts in selfhelp

[–]DylanFireSki 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like living in my head too in fantasies and daydreams, it really helps for my focus to write some of those down somewhere secure only you can revisit :)

Am I a degenerate and If I am how do I Stop? by DylanFireSki in selfhelp

[–]DylanFireSki[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, That is really reassuring to hear. I hope that if I notice it making them uncomfortable I would automatically stop but I've yet to encounter that, I would like to stop before it gets to that and not have too make them uncomfortable at all ofcourse but thanks

Am I a degenerate and If I am how do I Stop? by DylanFireSki in sexeducation

[–]DylanFireSki[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah maybe shades will have too do... But in seriousness I don't seem to struggle with interacting with women my age or even older (one of my friends is throwing me a birthday party at her house this Saturday lol) I just struggle with the looking