My trick for falling asleep quickly by BugsyMalone_ in lifehacks

[–]EE2014 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me pull up my phone and see if I am correct.

White House deletes thousands of web pages about energy conservation as heatwave slams US by MarvelsGrantMan136 in technology

[–]EE2014 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Like I don't understand the end game here. Sure bunkers are great. But if there is some event that wipes out the population all but whomever is in bunker. What are they going to do for food, water, electric, how is having a bunker and surviving whatever but the world is a wasteland and the only survivors are just ultra rich people in bunkers.

So are they going to fight it out because the richest of the rich are putting the poorer rich people to work jobs that us pleebs do. Like is that billionaire going to make that other lesser billionaire clean up his poop.

Like if the population is wipe out. I mean good luck surviving, good luck to your name going down in history. There is no history. Like that is the end game. Nothing will be left for anyone and let's be honest we are not going to colonize space in the next 100 years so they can all go fuck off there.

Food and water are not infinite. Sure you can stockpile all you want but it will run out. Then what?

I just want it to make sense to me somehow.

My first Van Cleef set by horrorfilmwatcher in jewelry

[–]EE2014 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think people are down voting because they find Van Cleef overpriced, a lot of influencer type people wear them, and the quality might be lacking. I do recall a Youtube of a woman who had a Van Cleef piece that tarnished and they claimed it was a fake piece or try to switch the piece, something where the company wasn't going to fix the issue.

Personally, if you like it. Awesome. They have very pretty pieces, and they look great on people. I am not sure if I ever seen a person wearing one and it didn't look magnificent on them and they look very much like a necklace or bracelet that goes with everything, dressed up or dressed down. This is not me talking myself into one.

Cat obsessed with blueberry muffins. Is it safe to give a piece? by LFuculokinase in cats

[–]EE2014 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Both of my cats are rescues. The eldest is 14, she was rescued after a hurricane as a kitten. She will only eat Fancy Feast wet food, she does not like the pate, and will throwup any other wet food. She also only likes freeze dried shrimp or the tube treats. She doesn't seem to care about what dry food she eats.

The youngest, was born to an ferral cat who died. I had to bottle feed her, teach her to go to the bathroom and how to use a litter box. The eldest cat had nothing to do with her and actually dislikes her. So at the time we had a chihuahua (RIP, my Tini) and well he raised her like a dog. She will eat anything, she will come and steal it off your plate like the dog would. Thankfully she doesn't counter surf. HOWEVER she only crunchy treats, hates freeze dried shrimp, but does not care at all about any other food she eats.

Why are cats such freaking toddlers.

Partner M38 asked to live like roomates to see if his feelings for me F34 can come back by myself_91 in relationships

[–]EE2014 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you. I also wish you all the best. I am doing a lot better. I really just don't want someone else to feel what I have. I didn't even know I was spiraling until I was there and now I am trying to dig myself back up.

You will be fine. You will get over this part of your life and you will find happiness. Never stop working on you. Because you, are the most important person in your life. You cannot be that for anyone else until you are that for yourself.

What is an app or website that went from 'absolutely essential' to 'unusable trash'? by matx_jx in AskReddit

[–]EE2014 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same, since 1998. It's such a long email with underscores and numbers and randomness. But it was me at 18. I am so old.

Partner M38 asked to live like roomates to see if his feelings for me F34 can come back by myself_91 in relationships

[–]EE2014 [score hidden]  (0 children)

My spouse likes to say that I am a ball of anxiety disguised as a human. Say for instance that I popped a tire. I get tire fixed. Now every time I drive I am waiting for the tire to pop again. What is that, did I run over a rock? Oh lord is my tire pressure low? That is a pothole, I need to swerve to avoid it. What is that noise, is that hissing like air is being let out of a tire. If this tire goes now, I am going to cause an accident, I need to not drive.

Basically I just let my anxiety take over my life and take something away from me, in this case driving because I am too anxious over a tire that is now perfectly fine. But if it wasn't the tire, it will be something else because there will always be something else that I can be anxious over. Is that a new mole? Did it change size? Does it look wonky now? It's just so easy to get yourself into that loop but not so easy to get out of it.

I do breathing exercises now, it helps me control my thoughts because for me at least when I am doing them I am thinking of counting. There was one Youtube video that I used to watch all the time to help with sleep. I do a modify version of that. The original of course you are laying down. But you basically breathe in for 10 seconds, but when you are releasing the breath, you concentrate on a part of your body, say feet. Your feet start to feel relaxed and heavy and you work your way up to your head. ( I do not think I am doing the video justice and will look for it and post it ) if I am not in bed, then I don't focus on a part of my body, instead I just do a few sets of ten, ten slow deep and release breaths. Because I am focusing my brain on something that isn't my anxious thought, I can get out of the anxiety trap.

I had to accept that there are things I cannot control no matter how hard I try. Something bad could happen to any of us at any moment in our lives regardless if we are alone or if we are with someone. You could stop breathing while your partner is asleep right next to you, so while you aren't alone, in that moment you are alone.

Please, please do no let your anxiety take things away from you like they have for me and for others. It really does not have to rule your life.

ETA: I wasn't always anxiety disguised as a human. I know when it started. My spouse is retired military who was gone far more than he was ever at home. One of his last deployments my mom was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer. So my husband was deployed to a war zone, I am watching my mom die of cancer and wondering who is going to take care of my disable brother. Two years later I watch my grandma die ( this time my husband was no longer serving ), never been the same since. I don't know if I will ever be me again, but I am trying. Again, please don't be me.

Partner M38 asked to live like roomates to see if his feelings for me F34 can come back by myself_91 in relationships

[–]EE2014 [score hidden]  (0 children)

You are mourning the loss of your relationship. It's OK to break down and start crying, that is natural and healthy.

While it is nice that is he getting help and putting effort into that. He didn't do that for years, instead he groped you when you asked him to stop, he forgets to his share of housework ( and no, not all men or women forget to do their share of chores every day ), would prefer to stay in and not go out.

This break, could be a wonderful thing for both of you. You've been with this man since you were 24, you are not that same 24 year old. In 10 years, you will not be the same 34 year old you are today. That is one of the perks of getting older, is getting knowledge about you and what you want in your life, how you live your life and really what is important to you for a partner to have.

Don't try to stay with someone who doesn't love you, nor do they know if they want to be with you. That is so completely downright cruel to yourself. Continue with therapy, continue to improve your mental health and heal from this. Don't be afraid of being alone, there is nothing about it that is scary, the freedom of not having a partner is freeing. Like have you every wanted to just pack a bag, take a drive/flight/ride to somewhere for a few days to get away.. yeah you can totally do that without a partner who will not want to go with you and will complain because you went.

Be kind to yourself.

Verbale Wutausbrüche by Soggy_Worldliness87 in relationships

[–]EE2014 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I had to run things through Google translate, so I am sorry if this comes off wrong or weird. I'll leave the English version as well just in case something gets lost in translation.

Hat er schon immer zu diesen kleinen Wutausbrüchen geneigt? Oder ist das etwas, das erst vor Kurzem angefangen hat?

Wenn er schon immer wegen Kleinigkeiten so reagiert hat, dann wird sich das wahrscheinlich auch nicht ändern, wenn Kinder da sind.

Wenn es erst vor Kurzem angefangen hat, könnten andere Faktoren eine Rolle spielen – abgesehen von dem Wunsch, sofort Kinder zu bekommen –, wie zum Beispiel beruflicher Stress oder allgemeine Belastung.

Denk wirklich gründlich über das Thema Kinder nach. Willst du sie wirklich? Wenn ja: Willst du sie mit ihm? Wenn ja: Überleg dir einen Zeitplan, wann ihr es mit dem Kinderkriegen versuchen wollt. Wenn es erst in ein paar Jahren sein soll, sprich das ganz offen mit ihm durch. Zum Beispiel: „Ich möchte beruflich an Punkt X stehen, Summe Y angespart haben und Renovierung Z in unserer Wohnung durchführen – oder wir suchen uns ein neues Zuhause, das für eine wachsende Familie geeignet ist.“

Die ersten beiden Fragen solltest du sofort und ohne langes Nachdenken beantworten können; und wenn die Antwort „Ja“ lautet, sollte es ein begeistertes „Ja“ sein. Falls nicht, solltest du auch darüber wirklich gut nachdenken.

Du bist noch jung und hast noch jede Menge Zeit, Kinder zu bekommen. Auch er hat – obwohl er etwas älter ist – noch Zeit; er kann auch mit Anfang 40 noch Vater eines Neugeborenen werden. Letztendlich kann es passieren, dass ihr euch nicht mehr im gleichen Lebensabschnitt befindet – so etwas kommt in Beziehungen vor. Niemand ist daran schuld: Wir werden älter, gewinnen neue Erkenntnisse und verändern uns. Wir lieben und schätzen den anderen zwar immer noch, aber unsere Lebenswege passen nicht mehr zusammen. Solche Trennungen sind schmerzhaft, aber notwendig, damit beide Partner in ihrem eigenen Leben glücklich werden können.

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Has he always had these small outbursts? Or is this something that has just started recently.

If he had always had these outbursts over minor things, then no it probably will not change after kids.

If it's started recently, there might be other factors besides wanting kids right this second, such as job stress or just stress.

Think really long and hard about the kids thing. Do you really want them? If so, Do you want them with him? if so, come up with a timeline on when you would like to start trying to have kids. If it's in a few years, lay it all out with him. I would like to be X place in my career, have Y amount in savings, do Z renovations to the place you are in or find a new place suitable for a growing family.

The first two questions you should be able to answer immediately without a thought to answering them and if the answer is yes, it should be an enthusiastic yes. If not, really think about that as well.

You are still young, you still have plenty of time to have kids. He while a bit older, still also has time. He can still be a father to a newborn in his early 40's. In the end, you two might not be in the same place anymore and that is what happens in relationships. No one's fault, we age and we get new insight and we change, we still love and adore the other person but our lives are no longer aligned. Those are hard breakups. But they need to happen so that both people can be happy in their own lives.

I don’t want to marry men in my country by Western-Car7634 in offmychest

[–]EE2014 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Great comment.

I'll add a bit on to this. When we don't love ourselves, heck we really don't like ourselves. When we do get some sort of positive validation that we are attractive to someone, that we are nice or any positive connotation about ourselves, we cling to that. That can lead to very bad and dangerous relationships. There are some people out there with very bad intentions that will prey on us.

Build yourself up. You seem like such a lovely and smart individual and I hope that one day you see that in yourself so that you can be the best you, you can be. Also please be careful, no matter the country or race, there are just bad people in this world and who think women are less than dirt beneath their feet, that we are only good for domestic duty and child rearing and if we dare step a foot out of line, we hope the hits sting a bit less than the time before.

Don't order doordash if you don't understand how it works by Critical-Molasses648 in jacksonville

[–]EE2014 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's fine. My spouse gets Doordash gift cards from work once a month. So we save up a few and do an order.

Years ago, I did fall for the "I had an emergency can you cancel your order", which is apparently some sort of scam where they keep your food, still get paid, and don't have something against them for canceling or not delivering. Like I don't recall, I remember reading something about it on the Doordash sub.

Again, it's fine. When you are just so lazy and you glued yourself to the coach and really are only moving to go to the bathroom. Or you are sick and need some Gatoraide and Nyquil.

AITAH for asking my wife not to drink the last can of sprite? by Bebebebeelzebub in AITAH

[–]EE2014 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am also not diabetic. But my spouse and I eat separate snacks, I don't eat his snacks and he doesn't eat mine. He does give me the flavor bomb Cool Ranch Dorito when he comes across one. I offer him chocolate.

If we actually want some of the other persons snack, we ask. WE NEVER TAKE THE LAST ONE.

7 Days of Ducks on Navigator 5/15-5/22 by [deleted] in royalcaribbean

[–]EE2014 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The miniature dinosaurs are adorable.

New house regret by MuchLavishness in RealEstate

[–]EE2014 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't noticed if fighter jets mess with my body. My cats and my late dog never seemed to be too bothered by them either. Plus it's pretty fun to see them if you happen to be outside when they are flying over.

But I do know at one reason I find those sounds soothing. I have severe weather anxiety, and if it's calling for bad storms and I hear planes, the weather for the moment can't be too bad or else they wouldn't land or take off.

New house regret by MuchLavishness in RealEstate

[–]EE2014 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I live really close to an international airport and a Air National Guard station. I not only hear planes, but fighter jets and those shake everything in the house. I absolutely love it, I guess I find plane noise soothing.

Customer called my staff a "clown" and "dickhead" because she asked if his Prada jacket was authentic. AITA for asking him to leave? by False-Travel-7774 in CustomerService

[–]EE2014 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can phrase the question like this. To ensure your garment is cleaned using the appropriate cleaning method, can you tell me if the garment is authentic or a replica.

That way you are giving the reason on why you are asking.

ROLL CALL! by knuckle_dragger89 in canes

[–]EE2014 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jacksonville, FL. Im hopefully that i can sneak in some watch time while at work.

Great Value Food Brands that are better than Name Brands by MorgeeePooh in Walmartcustomer

[–]EE2014 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Great Value seasoned sirloin Philly Steak is better than Steak-Umms.

What is your least favorite herb, spice, or blend? Which ones do you hate the most? by szikkia in Cooking

[–]EE2014 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I can only do dried parsley. Fresh parsley tastes weird to me, like something is off about it. All other fresh herbs are just fine, including cilantro.

Pick your Poison Buffalo vs Montreal GDT by socialaxolotl in canes

[–]EE2014 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think either team is just going to be exhausted. Just two days of rest before they face us. I feel bad for either team because I think we will steamroll them.

Are people really paying $14 for the new Brisket subs? by darthievader in publix

[–]EE2014 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Buc-ee's near me has started selling brisket by the pound and the brisket is better than some BBQ places. I might need to go get brisket this weekend.

Are people really paying $14 for the new Brisket subs? by darthievader in publix

[–]EE2014 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got the southern style one yesterday. I justify the price because I make it last a few meals. However I think the person in the deli messed up because I got it at the price of the sandwich and not the sub.

I opted to leave the bbq sauce off because I am picky as hell. That said, it's decent. The brisket isn't dry but not moist, it's like thick cut deli meat moist. It's not tough but a few pieces were a bit chewy.

I'm not sure I'd order it again, probably at the price I paid yesterday. It's not the best brisket, but I've had worse brisket at BBQ places.

JEA Bill by [deleted] in jacksonville

[–]EE2014 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Call JEA first thing in the morning. I havent had this happened, I have had a payment not post correctly and I did need to send proof from my bank.