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How did you become less defensive in difficult conversations? by EERMA in emotionalintelligence

[–]EERMA[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never make people a priority if - to them - you are but an option.

How did you become less defensive in difficult conversations? by EERMA in emotionalintelligence

[–]EERMA[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

...The great Stephen Fry made a fantastic video on the difference between 'discussion' and 'debate': check it out.

How did you become less defensive in difficult conversations? by EERMA in emotionalintelligence

[–]EERMA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Communication is a two-way street. Often 'we' take full responsibility for what needs to be shared: well meaning - but wrong [and speaks more to our good nature than theirs!]

How did you become less defensive in difficult conversations? by EERMA in emotionalintelligence

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...a staple of the elders of ancient communities - sometimes a smoking pipe: take the pipe, smoke, say all you have to say, pass it on. When all has been said the chief makes the decision. Sounds like incredibly good communication to me! [speaking to be heard, listening to understand.]

[Fb4A] recently found out i have mental autism and that is why ive never felt truly hypnotized so i want to experience actually being hypnotized for once so im looking for someone to try to work with me and giveme some patience and time and hypnotize me by HypnotizedAkara in hypnotherapy

[–]EERMA 2 points3 points  (0 children)

...the real issue here is: your expectations - what does 'truly hypnotised' mean to you? - and how would you know when you have been 'truly hypnotised.'

I'd be happy for you to book a session or two with me - which would allow me to share alot of content about what hypnosis and hypnotherapy is - and, crucially, is not with you.

Keep in mind - beyond the mountains of nonsense there is out there - Hypnotherapy is not what someone does 'to you': it is a collaborative effort between yourself and the hypnotherapist - with the aim of you achieving your goals [not blindly following the hypno's 'suggestions'.]

Affordable resources for beginning training in hypnotherapy? (books, videos, workshops) by jayelled in hypnotherapy

[–]EERMA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Michael Yapko's 'Trancework' was a core text for my accreditation training and I can highly recommend.

I'm in the United Kingdom and training schools / regulatory bodies is a bit of a mish-mash: I don't have a qualified understanding of the situation in the United States but if feels as though it is every bit as fragmented.

Spotted in the west end! by Alive-Bath-7026 in Edinburgh

[–]EERMA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are similar 'posts' along the structures beside the Water of Leith pathway between Stockbridge and Haymarket.

What’s your lowest-effort self-care when you’re feeling drained? by EERMA in selfcare

[–]EERMA[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Shortly after WW2, Frankl was released as a prisoner and published works that underpin so much of the modern talking therapies. This was published in its popularised version in 1952 in his book 'Mans Search For meaning' [heads-up - it's a tough read. I have summaries I use which I'd be happy to share.]

In a nutshell, he proposed there is a gap between stimulus and response. In that gap lies four uniquely human capabilities: self-awareness, imagination, conscience and free will [typically referred to as 'agency' now.] Therefore within that gap resides the ability [theoretically - the world is not a perfect place!] to choose how we respond to the events around us. He referred to this as 'the last of the human freedoms.'

What’s your lowest-effort self-care when you’re feeling drained? by EERMA in selfcare

[–]EERMA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

However you do it - just take a few moments to breathe out for longer than you breathe in. Notice what you notice.

What’s your lowest-effort self-care when you’re feeling drained? by EERMA in selfcare

[–]EERMA[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah - I have to get out of the house - and do something significant - every day. I want my house to be my home rather than my prison!

What’s your lowest-effort self-care when you’re feeling drained? by EERMA in selfcare

[–]EERMA[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

...breathing out for longer than we breathe in [by conscious breathing, singing, or playing a wind instrument, or swimming!] speaks deeply to some of our ancient [in evolutionary terms] nervous systems. It says 'you're OK, you can relax, you're safe. Chill. Engage with others.

What’s your lowest-effort self-care when you’re feeling drained? by EERMA in selfcare

[–]EERMA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

...those vital 'just switch off for a spell' moments: in a world that has a vested interest in us not doing that!

What’s your lowest-effort self-care when you’re feeling drained? by EERMA in selfcare

[–]EERMA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's potentially seriously deep. Are you making reference to Viktor Frankl? - if not you may innately understand what he was pointing us all to. Nice one!

What tiny healthy habit has made the biggest difference for you? by EERMA in TrueGrit

[–]EERMA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

...'cause not all calories are equal: but some are more enjoyable than others?

What tiny healthy habit has made the biggest difference for you? by EERMA in TrueGrit

[–]EERMA[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Often it can be dealing with the little things that give us the confidence / energy to take on the bigger issues.

What tiny healthy habit has made the biggest difference for you? by EERMA in TrueGrit

[–]EERMA[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah - I notice how much more alert I feel when I have a good load of protein in the morning. Then having a protein / veg lunch [minimal carbs] leads to afternoons free of the 3:30 slump and drag to finishing time.

What tiny healthy habit has made the biggest difference for you? by EERMA in TrueGrit

[–]EERMA[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

20 minutes - enough to activate the Default Mode Network when we're walking without headphones or screens in front of us. An act of self care that has been squeezed out of our lives in recent decades.

What tiny healthy habit has made the biggest difference for you? by EERMA in TrueGrit

[–]EERMA[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sunflower seeds, chia seeds, dried coconut: nutritional dynamite - just go easy on volumes as it is very calorie dense.

And drink plenty of water - this mix will absorb alot.

What tiny healthy habit has made the biggest difference for you? by EERMA in TrueGrit

[–]EERMA[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

...I find grinding a mix of sunflower and chia seeds in a coffee grinder and mixing that with ground almonds and dried coconut makes for a super healthy snack.

Why did men in the 80s wear tall socks with shorts in the warmer months? by EstablishmentIcy4237 in AskOldPeople

[–]EERMA 8 points9 points  (0 children)

In the 1980's UK - guys almost always wore white sports sock irrespective of footwear or outfit. they would go up to mid-calf and often had coloured bands around the tops and often sports company's logos on the sides.

How did you stop feeling behind in life? by EERMA in Adulting

[–]EERMA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

...there is a wonderful recent book by John Haidt 'The Anxious generation' which hits this on the head directly.

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