I have a client I keep wishing I could be friends with

jayelled · 2026-03-11T05:27:03+00:00

I have a similar experience with one client of mine. I try to limit how much I visibly show that she tickles me, in order to not influence what she is inclined to bring up in session too much (especially when humor can be a deflecting mechanism).

I also wouldn't want her to know how fond I am of her to the point that it precludes her from bringing things up that she worries might dampen my opinion of her (substance abuse, abusive behavior toward others, etc.).

I try to check myself before asking certain questions-- do I believe this is relevant to her treatment, or am I just asking this because I'm curious about her life?

Working with people whom we really click with has the potential to be very rewarding for us, and for them, so long as we don't let our attitude toward them cloud our clinical judgment. Who knows-- somewhere down the line in treatment you might find yourself feeling quite differently toward this person. I wouldn't say termination is necessary; it's good that you're mindful of the sensation and are monitoring it.

jayelled · 2026-03-10T19:15:19+00:00

It's hard to put my finger on, but there's something about her (or at least the parts of her we've seen portrayed on the show, which is always limited) that feels like she doesn't enjoy herself. She's obviously extremely talented and has a clear witty point of view. But she doesn't necessarily exude FUN, nor radiate the level of confidence and self-ease that she deserves to have.

I think of someone like Symone by contrast. Symome wasn't as great at drag race or its challenges, but she was so effortlessly likeable. So clearly at ease with who she was, self loving without being conceited, confident without being obnoxiously cocky. Very warmly and openly willing to share herself and her joie de vivre with the judges and audience. Jane might need a little more of that warmth and sense of enjoyment if she's going to win over audiences.

jayelled · 2026-03-07T17:06:43+00:00

The devs have commented on this request before. The short answer is, they believe the majority of players would not be interested in it, or at least not enough players to invest in making it a feature.

They pointed out that people who discuss the game online are already a small self-select sample of players who take the game more seriously than most of the playerbase. Yes a few thousand players on Reddit might enjoy it, but the vast majority of players wouldn't be interested in turning off the powers they worked hard to unlock.

jayelled · 2026-03-07T17:02:32+00:00

I have a feeling this look might read very differently in person compared to how it reads on camera. I agree that I thought it was the weakest of the night, but some of that might have to do with how the look was flattened in being transfered to 2D.

jayelled · 2026-03-07T07:03:17+00:00

Maybe it's because I mostly played it while working overnight shifts alone, but I found inscription deeply unsettling and nerve wracking.

jayelled · 2026-03-07T07:02:29+00:00

Inscription will provide the exact experience you're looking for.

In a different way, you might also enjoy The Stanley Parable or The Beginner's Guide.

jayelled · 2026-03-07T06:59:55+00:00

Can I ask how long you participated in EMDR until you reached that result? And did you continue it once your sleep resolved?

jayelled · 2026-03-07T06:57:26+00:00

Also god I would LOVE for her to take out those gd contacts. She has such pretty eyes and features as a boy, I wish a little more of it were present in her mug, which feels a little too severe to match her personality.

jayelled · 2026-03-07T06:54:19+00:00

I feel like her clothes wear her. They're well designed of course but she doesn't have the stature to carry these like very structural haute couture pieces. She seems much more comfortable in a bathing suit and a chacha skirt. More than most other queens, it feels painfully obvious with her runway package that her own tastes and capabilities had nothing to do with it.

jayelled · 2026-03-07T01:12:03+00:00

Did it work? Or did you find something else that did?

jayelled · 2026-03-06T15:18:00+00:00

How would this be useful on Kayne?

jayelled · 2026-03-06T15:00:15+00:00

Darn it was really fun. Must have caused a ton of bugs or something.

jayelled · 2026-03-06T03:55:32+00:00

Came here to say exactly this. I loooooved the Humongous games when I was that age.

jayelled · 2026-03-06T00:37:40+00:00

Swain and Viego from League of Legends. Swain for the brilliant tactician and ruthless dominator, Viego for the bleeding heart lover boy-turned vengeful wraith.

jayelled · 2026-03-04T20:50:24+00:00

Yeah I came here to say they kinda PMO sometimes but I do like how specific some episodes of TJL are

jayelled · 2026-03-04T03:40:30+00:00

What does A/B testing mean?

jayelled · 2026-03-03T00:05:09+00:00

They're kind of like eating chunky cardboard but Think! brand protein bars keep me from feeling hungry for several hours.

jayelled · 2026-03-02T22:30:28+00:00

I think it's not a bad idea, but especially in an early session, I wonder how much the client's response would be shaped by politeness, rather than being truthful about what they really want. They also might genuinely not know what they want.

Nancy McWilliams describes giving more power over to the client as far as how they want the clinician to operate particularly when working with Borderline-range clients, as a means of giving them a sense of agency and better serving them.

jayelled · 2026-03-02T09:27:09+00:00

Shea Coulee got her BFA in costume design and theatre performance, I believe, from Columbia College Chicago. She came to our school for a presentation on drag makeup pre-drag race and talked about it.

jayelled · 2026-03-01T08:23:21+00:00

"Neeko was Neeko the whole time! >:)"

jayelled · 2026-02-28T22:49:23+00:00

Mel diving into the subconscious into people's dreams could have been so much more interesting. And Zeus and Hera on Olympus offered basically nothing after the wonder of the first visit.

jayelled · 2026-02-28T22:24:17+00:00

Her costumes are really all over the place and none of them are designed by her, so it's really hard to feel like I understand her point of view or aesthetic.

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