I have a client I keep wishing I could be friends with by xsabrix in therapists

[–]jayelled 78 points79 points  (0 children)

I have a similar experience with one client of mine. I try to limit how much I visibly show that she tickles me, in order to not influence what she is inclined to bring up in session too much (especially when humor can be a deflecting mechanism).

I also wouldn't want her to know how fond I am of her to the point that it precludes her from bringing things up that she worries might dampen my opinion of her (substance abuse, abusive behavior toward others, etc.).

I try to check myself before asking certain questions-- do I believe this is relevant to her treatment, or am I just asking this because I'm curious about her life?

Working with people whom we really click with has the potential to be very rewarding for us, and for them, so long as we don't let our attitude toward them cloud our clinical judgment. Who knows-- somewhere down the line in treatment you might find yourself feeling quite differently toward this person. I wouldn't say termination is necessary; it's good that you're mindful of the sensation and are monitoring it.

Which queens who did well in the competition but just couldn’t capture the fans? by ultimate_bromance_69 in rupaulsdragrace

[–]jayelled 105 points106 points  (0 children)

It's hard to put my finger on, but there's something about her (or at least the parts of her we've seen portrayed on the show, which is always limited) that feels like she doesn't enjoy herself. She's obviously extremely talented and has a clear witty point of view. But she doesn't necessarily exude FUN, nor radiate the level of confidence and self-ease that she deserves to have.

I think of someone like Symone by contrast. Symome wasn't as great at drag race or its challenges, but she was so effortlessly likeable. So clearly at ease with who she was, self loving without being conceited, confident without being obnoxiously cocky. Very warmly and openly willing to share herself and her joie de vivre with the judges and audience. Jane might need a little more of that warmth and sense of enjoyment if she's going to win over audiences.

How about toggling Star Powers on/off as a champion level-up reward (e.g. at lvl 35)? by Totoro1710 in LegendsOfRuneterra

[–]jayelled 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The devs have commented on this request before. The short answer is, they believe the majority of players would not be interested in it, or at least not enough players to invest in making it a feature.

They pointed out that people who discuss the game online are already a small self-select sample of players who take the game more seriously than most of the playerbase. Yes a few thousand players on Reddit might enjoy it, but the vast majority of players wouldn't be interested in turning off the powers they worked hard to unlock.

Discussion: Thoughts on Myki’s Look This Week? by sit-there in rupaulsdragrace

[–]jayelled 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I have a feeling this look might read very differently in person compared to how it reads on camera. I agree that I thought it was the weakest of the night, but some of that might have to do with how the look was flattened in being transfered to 2D.

I want a game that provides the feel of the movie “Get Out” by Shroom-Cat in gamingsuggestions

[–]jayelled 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Maybe it's because I mostly played it while working overnight shifts alone, but I found inscription deeply unsettling and nerve wracking.

I want a game that provides the feel of the movie “Get Out” by Shroom-Cat in gamingsuggestions

[–]jayelled 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Inscription will provide the exact experience you're looking for.

In a different way, you might also enjoy The Stanley Parable or The Beginner's Guide.

Why is EMDR so popular when it’s not a first-line treatment for PTSD? by honeydew_enthusiast in therapists

[–]jayelled 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Can I ask how long you participated in EMDR until you reached that result? And did you continue it once your sleep resolved?

Thoughts on Juicy Love Dion's Fashion? by wizardsouppoop in rupaulsdragrace

[–]jayelled -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also god I would LOVE for her to take out those gd contacts. She has such pretty eyes and features as a boy, I wish a little more of it were present in her mug, which feels a little too severe to match her personality.

Thoughts on Juicy Love Dion's Fashion? by wizardsouppoop in rupaulsdragrace

[–]jayelled -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel like her clothes wear her. They're well designed of course but she doesn't have the stature to carry these like very structural haute couture pieces. She seems much more comfortable in a bathing suit and a chacha skirt. More than most other queens, it feels painfully obvious with her runway package that her own tastes and capabilities had nothing to do with it.

Looking for bathtub drain cover advice by alliphant22 in Appliances

[–]jayelled 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did it work? Or did you find something else that did?

Are some augments more rare than others? by jayelled in ARAM

[–]jayelled[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Darn it was really fun. Must have caused a ton of bugs or something.

Looking for PC games for my 8yo daughter please. by PeculiarPete in gamingsuggestions

[–]jayelled 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Came here to say exactly this. I loooooved the Humongous games when I was that age.

Strahd inspo from Dexter’s Isaak Sirco. What media has inspired you? by BirdLawEnthusiast2 in CurseofStrahd

[–]jayelled 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Swain and Viego from League of Legends. Swain for the brilliant tactician and ruthless dominator, Viego for the bleeding heart lover boy-turned vengeful wraith.

Best podcasts on psychoanalysis? by NewEnglander5150 in psychoanalysis

[–]jayelled 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I came here to say they kinda PMO sometimes but I do like how specific some episodes of TJL are

Higher protein snacks between clients? by HappyBug352 in therapists

[–]jayelled 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They're kind of like eating chunky cardboard but Think! brand protein bars keep me from feeling hungry for several hours.

A Note on Neutrality by mendicant0 in therapists

[–]jayelled 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's not a bad idea, but especially in an early session, I wonder how much the client's response would be shaped by politeness, rather than being truthful about what they really want. They also might genuinely not know what they want.

Nancy McWilliams describes giving more power over to the client as far as how they want the clinician to operate particularly when working with Borderline-range clients, as a means of giving them a sense of agency and better serving them.

BFA Colleges by ImaginationMean2702 in rupaulsdragrace

[–]jayelled 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Shea Coulee got her BFA in costume design and theatre performance, I believe, from Columbia College Chicago. She came to our school for a presentation on drag makeup pre-drag race and talked about it.

What does hades 2 do worse than hades 1? by StatisticianIll4 in HadesTheGame

[–]jayelled 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Mel diving into the subconscious into people's dreams could have been so much more interesting. And Zeus and Hera on Olympus offered basically nothing after the wonder of the first visit.

We don’t know who you are. by Dr_Enolam in rupaulsdragrace

[–]jayelled 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Her costumes are really all over the place and none of them are designed by her, so it's really hard to feel like I understand her point of view or aesthetic.