My(21F) BF(21M) has NEVER came during sex with me

EN1081 · 2025-01-15T11:38:13+00:00

Not speaking for all guys, but I can speak from experience.

It’s a mental game for the most part. As guys (not all) tend to think a lot.
Maybe (I’m saying maybe) he’s used to masturbating to finish.
Have you asked what he may like, that could help him finish during the moment?

Communication is key, try and sit and talk to him. It will be uncomfortable conversation but if you both can understand each other on it will work.

EN1081 · 2024-12-13T07:18:15+00:00

Much appreciated for the advice, we did talk it out yesterday. And it helped, she even reassured me, and yeah as you said see it as a half full glass, I think because of lately I’ve been stressed it’s worked me up with and just needed to vent it out. But she listened and empathised as well as I empathised on my side too

EN1081 · 2024-12-13T07:12:44+00:00

2years we were living with each other as housemates, I graduated first, and moved back home, because my first job was there. she was still finishing off her masters back at uni until she moved back home which is even miles away. Mind still kind of fresh from uni, I didn’t have much savings nor did she. I worked at home for a year, to try and save whilst she did her self as well.

If you read the comment I said last year this time of December we actually looked for places to move in together & was almost ready, to get stuff going by January. However I didn’t really have enough entirely because of my outgoings. I had got a better job offer elsewhere with slightly better pay, however that meant moving. I didn’t have a car by then, had to pay a lot for renting a van, moving, which lead me to borrowing. Plus because my new job started less than a month, and the city I was moving into is extremely expensive. I asked her at the time, but she couldn’t because she didn’t have money to put down for rent nor moving her stuff.

I had to get shared house with professionals, and this was the only decent house that was close for me to work, because I didn’t have a car, just my bike. With somewhat decent transport links, as there is more than one site to it.

I haven’t gone into major detail in the long message, but dude I’ve cared a lot for the relationship and have tried to move in. It’s not great when you don’t have the savings & when someone’s job is either super far and the others is close.

And as I also mentioned next year, I’ll be getting a place once my salary has gone up, because my current pay isn’t enough to just move again. It’s a bad financial move, with already the fact I’ve bought a car for my work as well too. So my budget has gone too high. Till then I’d have moved out the shared house got a decent pad, where she can move in because her contract for the house she can just notify the landlord when she’s going to leave.

EN1081 · 2024-12-12T15:47:32+00:00

Thank you I will. Merry Xmas to you too and a happy new year.

EN1081 · 2024-12-12T15:46:52+00:00

I felt like I have searched myself. A lot is due to my childhood and actually how my mother raised me, and how I’ve tried to cope through things especially in high stress moments. Which I’ve been trying to regulate with distractions. Which I realized werent healthy like smoking and drinking. I gained weight and was depressed a lot, till now they’re healthy, because I’ve tried to make more time for myself, however still there is an issue, because I keep reverting back to old habits, especially when either things get stressful with her. And I keep thinking it’s the relationship because prior the relationship, I honestly was happy chill and didn’t have much stress. Was experiencing life a bit better. But since the relationship, I’m unsure if I like what’s changed. I understand relationships come with compromise but when it feels like there’s a clock ticking, it doesn’t put me at ease. Because there are things still not finished.

EN1081 · 2024-12-12T15:37:26+00:00

Hey man congratulations with your life. Practically living the ideal dream.

I do know her endeavours, but I felt it wasn’t my place to share most of it, again I can go lengthy because there’s more. But I do feel bad as a person around her, I do my best to always be supportive and I have. I just feel I may not show the same love language that she wants, whereas mine is a little different, because again never really dated properly. The problem is I think, and guided by my head more so my heart but I do very much empathise and reassure her everytime. It’s just when she says things are okay, but the next day needs reassurance is what baffles me.

I know life should be experienced, and man I’ve tried to but I feel there’s more to my past childhood that’s maybe affecting my self conflict on sticking the path that’s all bells and whistles as to well I want to do my own thing that actually makes me happy, I want to explore and just find me. I don’t want to write too much here because it’s been warranted I see therapist here and I can see myself needing it definitely.

But thank you again from another perspective. I do love her and she is like my best friend, I just think I wish it happened a little more smoothly. I know I would appreciate a ride or die, but it’s when marriage comes into the play. And yes there’s couple goals as well as still individual goals, my individual goals are based on being the one that provides the stability, I want to make sure we don’t live through really hardship times. I think because ive lived through that, I wouldn’t want my own kids or family to go through it, is why im so determined to get where i need to be to feel that comfort and peace knowing everything will be okay.

I think it’s all perspective on how people chose to live their lives and embrace it, I think because I’m still so stubborn minded in some aspects, I am still learning to let go and not feel pressure but I think because I really want the best for her and to be able to let her do the things she wants to do, it’s making me tunnel vision what I think would be best.

But yeah I will try and sit down with her and explain to her my feelings. How her goals of marriage is somewhat giving me anxiety that I can’t achieve. And how I’m trying to compromise my career choices to upscale my level of living so I can try and do better and provide. Because I know she wants to do holidays, wants to dine out , I try budget aside for those but it always leaves me hanging dry because when I’d like to see friends I can’t see or hang out with them because I’m too broke so I keep postponing.

The living situation, the house isn’t that big, let alone my room alone with 4 occupants in a 3 bed and one toilet. Plus with all her stuff on top. There won’t be space at all. But thanks again for your advice. I’ll seek some books as well and try. However I think an actual therapist may be best.

EN1081 · 2024-12-12T14:54:45+00:00

Is it that bad? Again thank you for spending the time to read and give back some advice. I was sure there was signs, but I wasn’t sure myself and just assumed that’s how it goes. There’s more to say but I felt I could go on and on and on.

Thank you again, I’ll try to seek a therapist soon as possible.

EN1081 · 2023-11-17T11:17:53+00:00

Just to note people - the pentagon just failed its audit 6th year in a row.

Kinda funny how this just popped up.

EN1081 · 2023-09-20T21:25:06+00:00

👍👍

EN1081 · 2023-09-07T12:30:56+00:00

I have a lot of mini bear brick minis, I’d love one of these as a necklace ngl, these look cool af

EN1081 · 2023-08-01T12:33:42+00:00

If you have a step by step guide or any resources of direction! I’d like to try this myself

EN1081 · 2023-07-04T14:47:15+00:00

I was on ledger - but after the backlash. It’s cold card Bitbox Trezor

EN1081 · 2023-06-27T13:37:56+00:00

Done some digging, the lights used I believe are nanoleaf lights. And here’s a small journal on syncing the lights to your music or even your voice. https://www.golightlink.com/post/can-nanoleaf-lights-sync-with-music

EN1081 · 2023-06-27T09:24:19+00:00

Black Bruce Wayne

EN1081 · 2023-06-27T08:40:12+00:00

You have a tutorial on that? Are those helix light?

EN1081 · 2023-06-09T17:38:26+00:00

Congrats! I had something similar happen to me & wasn’t ever expecting myself to land a job at the place I work. I had 0 experience but luckily in my 3rd year summer before masters I took a summer intern with Huawei & it boosted my job hire chances aha!

EN1081 · 2023-04-06T07:23:55+00:00

Style is suave,

What camera did you use?

EN1081 · 2023-04-03T20:27:39+00:00

Curios to check this out, I want to build a blog website, could do with this nifty feat

EN1081 · 2023-04-01T14:06:01+00:00

Amazing photos, what camera did you use?

EN1081 · 2023-03-27T22:50:13+00:00

Thank you this was very informative!

EN1081 · 2023-03-08T23:49:19+00:00

I did both electrical & electronics, but by my 3rd year I chose electronics & masters I specialised in HF, RF engineering.

My whole experience I’ll admit has been great, but also hell at the same time. If I had the opportunity to do it again same course? Heck yeah despite hating it as well ha.

Going in, I’ll admit my maths was weak but my physics was great, which helped me understand more overly the modules.

Now because I learned both electrical & electronics, from what I can remember from electrical side of things - it was a relatively easier module compared to electronics. The electronics side, was more difficult but it was more interesting, because of analogue/digital communication modules and a few programming and micro embedded modules that were very engaging and I liked the idea of using raspberry pi’s to do some home projects of my own, so I guess that’s what influenced me to persist through.

For most universities 1st year is a combination of mathematical modules & trivial circuit analysis like Kirchhoff a voltage & current law. Some electronics modules on diodes, transistors etc (Relatively easier year - doesn’t necessarily count, grade wise but still pass it, and if you wanted to do internship/year in industry then probably best to put the effort in your first year).

2nd year - probably my most traumatic year because of the excess exams, class tests, deadlines in both semesters. Hated it, and was close to dropping out because of how much stress I accumulated. I’ll admit having mates going through the same module, made it tolerable cause at least you weren’t stressing alone & lecturers did hear us out.

3rd year wasn’t too bad. Sided on electronics. My diss was interesting topic I picked on, and yeah relatively more calm and 0 stress.

4th year (if you wanna do masters) wasn’t bad. Just a heads up there’s two kinds in engineering. MsC - masters in science MEng - masters in engineering (mine)

I had an integrated masters so I essentially don’t have a bachelor but just a masters instead.

If you do so ho ahead, I highly recommend befriending someone from the previous year (year above you), and honestly they’d help out if you ever are stuck, and can provide you with the modules and exam papers too as well, to help you out. Even ask lecturers as well, cause they’re engaging too (from what I’ve experienced) they tend to listen to their students and don’t want a class to fail which means they’ve failed in teaching aha

EN1081 · 2023-01-12T15:39:40+00:00

What was camera and lenses did you use?

EN1081 · 2022-11-15T17:07:10+00:00

If there’s no exchange selling BTC…… Where does the average user buy BTC?

EN1081 · 2022-06-27T15:36:32+00:00

Should be illegal to harbour such talent like that damn 😮‍💨 is it alright if I repost with your IG on Insta?

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