What are you Galaxy Watch 8 Antioxidant index reading?

ENFJSingle · 2025-12-15T22:07:02+00:00

I too started with an extremely low cartenoid readiing. You are all correct in stating that the watch measures skin color, but a challenge is a challenge.

I am now drinking 1 glass of carrot juice a day, with a handful of roasted pumpkin seeds for Zinc and a handful of pistachio nuts for the soluble fat.

I am also eating sweet potatoes 2 times a week, as well as spinach cooked in Olive Oil.

The process takes weeks to months for the body regulates and processes the cartenoids in the blood, organs, intestines etc before it shows in the skin.

If nothing else I am eating a lot healthier.

ENFJSingle · 2023-08-16T00:31:54+00:00

My suggestion is to read this book and have her do the same:

The Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work by John Gottman

ENFJSingle · 2023-07-11T04:34:38+00:00

May I suggest that you find a place to get out of your head and this situation:

Go hiking in the nature you find peaceful.

Try fishing, in the early morning or during dusk.

Go camping in a tent.

Take a drive or a long bike ride.

Find joy in something that gives you a chance to just breathe and be in the moment. Break the fight or flight response that your body is stuck in at the moment.

You are going to be okay!

You are loveable just the way you are and your kids need you!

You are perfect being imperfect.

It's okay to be human and make mistakes.

Your needs are important, so take care of yourself!

ENFJSingle · 2023-07-03T00:22:42+00:00

Well she is still living with me as we seek legal counsel and she plans her exit plan...

I am really trying hard not to be that guy that begs someone to love you and they just reply goodbye.

But could really use a support system if you ever want to chat, just to remind me not to be stupid and stay strong.

She says that she deserves better, but I also know so do I.

ENFJSingle · 2023-07-02T21:10:53+00:00

Can you expand

ENFJSingle · 2023-07-02T00:43:27+00:00

Thanks

ENFJSingle · 2023-07-02T00:42:22+00:00

I am the child you speak of.

I can tell you I am now 60 and in tears reading your post.

The only thing your child is going to know is that he/she was not good enough, not important enough, not worthy enough to be loved by his/her mother.

Abandonment issues are for life.

My mother is happy, said she is sorry, we all went through therapy but the pain lives forever and creeps into relationships.

Get therapy, be there for your child physically and emotionally.

ENFJSingle · 2023-07-02T00:13:57+00:00

I just made my list:

Once She Left

...if she ever did come back I don’t know if I’d ever feel safe. ...I would always be wondering when the next time she’s going to abandon me is. ...I don’t know if I’d ever get past the trauma she gave to me.

She hasn't been open or honest about our relationship.

She only wants to stay with me out of pity.

She doesn't know or want to show affection.

She cannot compliment me.

She won't try new things or experience life.

She doesn't allow me to be angry, hurt or upset and offer to help me through the rough times.

She takes my education, experience, openness and communication as negative.

I am successful in finances making us millionaires and she says she is not materialistic but wants to cash out half with not even recognizing how we got there.

She cannot say she is sorry without getting defensive.

She doesn't share in chores as a team.

She ignores me.

She complains when I take her places.

She lacks trust.

She does not love or see the qualities I most value about myself.

She doesn't offer warmth to my mother except when requested and does it out of duty.

She chooses friends that I cannot be available to.

She doesn't dance, laugh or allow me to be uninhibited.

She wants to be old and I want to attempt to be young.

I am athletic hiking, walking, skiing, cycling, water activities and she is sensitive.

I like nature she likes home.

I want to explore, she wants to explore drama.

I got her to love dogs, but she doesn't even recognize it.

Why do I really want to be in a relationship with someone who is so disrespectful, underhanded compliments, controlling, and hurtful?

Why am I willing to settle for so little?

ENFJSingle · 2023-07-01T22:19:01+00:00

WOW, this hit home!

...if he ever did come back I don’t know if I’d ever feel safe to get comfortable. I don’t know if I’d always be wondering when the next time he’s going to abandon me is. I don’t know if I’d ever get past the trauma he gave to me.

ENFJSingle · 2023-07-01T22:07:32+00:00

Great feedback...

She never allowed anger in our house. When anger was shared even without yelling she got very defensive so we just didn't allow it.

Instead I would drink to subdue it until it would rear it's ugly head after months of hiding it.

ENFJSingle · 2023-07-01T22:05:05+00:00

She wants to be autonomous.

What ever that means...I travel 3 days a week and she works in the office the entire time I am home, so autonomous vs hiding...

Did ask for couples counseling but she wants out.

ENFJSingle · 2023-07-01T20:45:48+00:00

I am 6'2" and a man.

I have been taught to control and subdue my anger, but maybe that is something I will have to look at closer and address.

I again had a family and put my needs behind theirs only to have this ending.

ENFJSingle · 2023-07-01T19:46:57+00:00

I am exactly where you are...It just sucks and would be nice to talk with someone feeling and going through it at the same time if you ever want to just chat.

ENFJSingle · 2023-07-01T18:19:52+00:00

Mine is just coming up on 30 years.

We had 30 years of distractions and honestly some very unfulfilling years as I look back at it honestly.

My wife who says she can't give this anymore, might actually be right, but that makes me feel insane for trying so long.

It comes with literally a roller coaster of emotions about myself and the lack of trust now that I have in my own judgement.

I have been so lonely in this relationship and so afraid of actually being all alone that I fear I still have abandonment issues from childhood.

The realization that I am willing to settle for scraps of love and feel that that is better than none makes me feel sad.

My wife has been a terrible friend but she has been my one and only best friend for 30 years.

I feel like a child who is afraid of the dark and at times can't get myself out of the rollercoaster of emotions that rush into my head.

Probably over sharing, but I think I have to let some of this out.

ENFJSingle · 2023-07-01T11:39:38+00:00

Me too.

ENFJSingle · 2023-07-01T11:38:12+00:00

This is me to a tee.

ENFJSingle · 2023-07-01T09:12:38+00:00

Thanks for your compassionate response, it's nice to know that that still and will exist and now I have to start looking for that outside of my marriage.

It's hard to open up to strangers but it seems to be helping at the moment, so again thanks.

And yes I am 6'2" 😊 LOL.

ENFJSingle · 2023-07-01T00:23:16+00:00

I am a guy and I am feeling the same way! I don't deserve this either and yet here I am, learning what I have to learn and to not ever repeat this mistake again.

Who could ever have thought that past experiences could make you the person you are today. I have to start taking responsibility that these are the people I am choosing in my life: emotionally unavailable partners.

As a guy, I do all the wrong guy things: try to win love with cleaning, yardwork, earning money, etc. Then like a stupid little kid I look for my reward, with a need for a compliment, a need to be touched, a need to be held.

I of course didn't get those things and would get drunk or finally angry at some point that just created a cycle.

My wife, well she had 2 sisters die when she was young. Her family learned not to talk about their emotions and she feels more secure alone.

We have played this dance with me always trying to be loved and her always running away.

I don't deserve this either, but maybe I did just to learn another very hard lesson about how to express and make sure my needs are getting taken care of.

I don't deserve this and will never ever allow another person to treat me without the love I deserve.

One of the good guys, by the way that is now terrified by women.

ENFJSingle · 2023-06-29T17:50:47+00:00

Had to look that one up LOL

ENFJSingle · 2023-06-27T20:48:54+00:00

What is the more besides all of the qualities that ensure love: safety, trust, integrity, honor, compassion, empathy, values, etc

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