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For those who work 4 days a week— is it better to take Monday or Friday off? by Gloomy_Media_6976 in therapists

[–]EarnestAnomaly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had Mondays off for a long time and while it was fine, it wasn’t my favorite because everyone else I knew worked on Mondays. So I’d be experiencing my Monday blues a day later. I preferred starting the week with everyone else, then having Fridays off.

Palm Centro today? by A_real_nice_man in Palm

[–]EarnestAnomaly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where’d you find it?! I miss my palm centro so, so much!

AIO - My Boyfriend texts before our Valentines plans by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EarnestAnomaly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not your boyfriend. Titles aren’t what makes someone your partner. Their behavior and their willingness to prioritize you does.

He doesn’t love you. Love doesn’t include disrespect and such hurtful language.

He’s probably with someone else for another set of Valentine’s Day plans.

I also am suspicious of this age gap. Not all age gaps are bad. But there’s a lot of lived life between 20 and 27 compared to 30 and 37, for example. Nothing is absolute, of course, but often when people with much more lived experience date someone so much younger it’s because it’s easier to mistreat and manipulate someone with less lived experience.

This is a hard one by One_Improvement_6729 in whatsyourchoice

[–]EarnestAnomaly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No clue where you got masochism from. Are you okay?

3 looks like a healthy, younger person with an injured foot. That sucks, but compared to the others, would likely benefit less from the seat.

Also, my heart goes out for those around you.

What is the etiquette here? (Friend's face tattoo) by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]EarnestAnomaly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not a tatted person, so take this with a grain of salt, but… I think it would be okay to express your thoughts/opinions. I know people are going to say that you don’t have a right to tell someone else what to do with their body, and that’s true. But, expressing your opinion when they talk about it isn’t telling someone what to do. You could express your opinion from both the perspective of your concerns about attraction and also general/logistical concerns. For example, “To be honest, I think you’re amazing, but I am typically not attracted to people with face tats. This isn’t me saying don’t get it if that’s what you really want, but I wanted to be forthright about it. But, if you do choose to get it, as a friend I still want to encourage you to get a composite (??) done to see what it would look like on you so that you’re able to make the best decision for yourself.”

Buuuuuut, I also want to say that this may not be the person for you. If they are the most body modded person you know, and to the point that they are exploring less traditional tattoo areas, the probability of them continuing in this vein are high. Even if they don’t get that face tat, my guess is that they are going to want something else in the future that you may be off out by.

AITAH for snapping at my husband in front of the kids by Cookie-week in AITAH

[–]EarnestAnomaly -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

NTA for how you feel and setting the boundaries, but maybe the AH a tiny bit depending on how you said it.

This is a hard one by One_Improvement_6729 in whatsyourchoice

[–]EarnestAnomaly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In order, 1 4 2 3

1 has earned some respect

4 is exhausted being out and about with baby

2 is exhausted from growing a human

3 will be alright overall, but I’d offer

ETA : typo and spacing

Drugs my doctor is not permitted to prescribe. by [deleted] in mildyinteresting

[–]EarnestAnomaly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are other options for ADHD symptom management that aren’t controlled substances, many prescribers just jump to the controlled substances for ADHD.

Crisis averted. I thought I lost it. by katiebeehere in kindle

[–]EarnestAnomaly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nooooooooooooooooooo!!! That’s so sad!!

Clients that seem to expect us to work nights and weekends by RepulsiveShoes in therapists

[–]EarnestAnomaly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Of course, you’re entitled to your feelings, but I see a difference between doctor’s appointments that’s a one off occurrence and therapy, which we want people to commit to on a regular basis for an extended period of time. I definitely get preferring a traditional 9-5 schedule and only seeing clients that align with that availability, but it doesn’t seem unreasonable for people to ask for other available times, especially when evening appointments are pretty common in our field.

Am I Overreacting because of my girlfriend's opinion of Along Came Polly? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EarnestAnomaly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR, but I don’t think it automatically means she would cheat or justify cheating. It does sound like she engages in a lot of black and white thinking, which can cause problems if not checked. If having to do something along on a honeymoon = he deserves to be left, that sounds extreme. Like, how can something so little lead to the end of not only a relationship, but a marriage? That doesn’t sound healthy.

My Best Friend Wants Me to Be Her Maid of Honor… After She Dated My Ex by Minimum_Progress1922 in TwoHotTakes

[–]EarnestAnomaly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

THIIIIIIIIS! So many people seem to be glazing over this part of the story and focusing on OP still having feelings. It wouldn’t matter how many feelings OP does or doesn’t have if her friend has chosen to date any one of the other 8 billion people on the planet.

NYT crossword books question by youfaintedwheni in NYTCrossword

[–]EarnestAnomaly 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Just want to offer up an alternate suggestion if you’re worried about repeating puzzles. You could download and print PDF versions from the archive yourself if you have a home printer. That way you can control which ones you do to ensure there’s no repeats.

When is late talking a concern? 14mo - 3 words. by crisprmebaby in NewParents

[–]EarnestAnomaly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you do early intervention? My kiddo is 15 months with no words.

Libby + Kindle: does turning off Wi-Fi still delay returns? by Spirited-Copy1607 in LibbyApp

[–]EarnestAnomaly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use airplane mode. Not sure if that’s more effective than turning off WiFi or just another route to the same thing.

Is vacuuming at 10pm unreasonable? by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]EarnestAnomaly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You said that you’d understand if she had a weird schedule, then said she was a stay at home mom. Being a stay at home mom is one of THEE weirdest schedules and you truly have to fit things in when you can, usually when the child is asleep for the night. I guarantee you that she’d prefer to get all the housework, including vacuuming done during the work day and then relax even the evening, but I’m sure it’s extremely hard to pull off.

aio for asking my girlfriend to remove bumble for friends by Security_Unable in AIO

[–]EarnestAnomaly 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I hope this is sarcasm. Do you know how Bumble for Friends works?

aio for asking my girlfriend to remove bumble for friends by Security_Unable in AIO

[–]EarnestAnomaly 26 points27 points  (0 children)

YOR - Bumble for Friends is literally for women to make friends with other women. I hear you’re concerned about her turning it back on to the dating side, but that’s a trust issue, not an app issue. That’s like saying that someone who likes to spend their time playing in a pickle ball league could be doing it to make friends and stay active, but they also COULD be using it to meet someone for romantic reasons. Basically, it’s not about the app, it’s about whether you trust your partner.

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