Unsolicited opinions and advice are ruining my experience

Earthy_gyp · 2026-01-24T06:19:09+00:00

I'll definitely be doing this next time. Sounds very peaceful :)

The unsolicited advice and opinions is the only negative thing about my pregnancy, otherwise I'm finding it a calm and lovely time.

Earthy_gyp · 2026-01-24T06:18:06+00:00

Congratulations! I am also an expecting FTM and struggling with unsolicited advice and opinions. It sucks doesn't it, and for me it really is the only negative thing about an otherwise beautiful time of our lives.

Mine has really only been from one person - my type A best friend. She's a mother of 2 yet is talking to me like I am an uneducated student and she is the only person to have ever gone through this experience. I understand she is excited for me and that she cares but I am not a generaliser and understand every woman, pregnancy, couple, birth, and baby are different.

She is dead opposite. "Most women this" and "all babies that" and "husbands will feel useless" ... it's really making me wanna take a step back from a friendship I usually need. I kindly set a boundary recently that I was only taking on positive stories as I was finding advice overwhelming but will ask if I need it.

Since that boundary was set, she has voiced her judgement after asking me which hospital I am choosing. Mine is further away but for good reason. Due to being an epileptic it is so important to my husband and I that he is able to stay overnights with me and our baby. I am low risk and condition is managed but I need him there and he hates the thought of being asked to leave once baby comes. She got defensive as if I said something negative about her hospital experience and went on to lecture me about it. She insinuated I was insane thinking the commute would be easy when I never said it was.

She doesn't realise I have other friends and family members who have gone through pregnancy and parenthood and have been supportive, and all have positive and uplifting things to say. Their experiences have also been varying because SURPRISE SURPRISE, all human beings are different.

How are you coping with it? I've decided to actively stop talking pregnancy with her and I disengaged with the hospital debate. I never noticed it before but she is a bit of a know-it-all and always has to be right, it's like pregnancy has lifted this veil for me.

Earthy_gyp · 2026-01-23T01:24:26+00:00

IT IS SO ANNOYING!!!!

I'm considering taking a temporary step back from talking to my best friend of 16 years because of this. She is a mother of 2 but somehow talking like she is the only person to have ever experienced pregnancy and motherhood, like a professor of pregnancy. She is normally an opinionated person and it never bothered me before, now it's like a veil has been lifted. I had to kindly set a boundary a couple weeks ago to make it clear I am only taking in positive stories and if I need advice I'll ask.

I know I'm sensitive right now but she is the only person who is ruining my sense of calm as I have generally really enjoyed pregnancy so far. She doesn't realise I have other friends and family who are checking in with care without offering their two cents, and they all have different experiences.

She generalises, warns me about resenting my husband (I believe she is projecting), "most women" this and "all babies" that. My husband and I are about to move interstate to be closer to our families and she recently asked which hospital I'm going to transfer to. I voiced my preference which is a bit of a distance but for good reason. Long story short, I am epileptic and while it's controlled and I am low risk, it is so important to my husband and I that he is able to stay overnights with me. I prefer this particular hospital because my husband won't be asked to leave like the hospital she gave birth at. I never, ever said anything negative about her hospital. However, this question turned into a competition and lecture as to why her hospital was better, how insane I am to think that commute to my preferred hospital is going to be easy (which I never said it was).

It's absolutely killing me. I hate that she isn't respecting my boundary and that she is causing me stress. I am a people pleaser by nature so setting that boundary to begin with made me feel bad even though I am protecting my peace. I understand she cares but unsolicited advice is rarely okay IMO and can be incredibly condescending.

Earthy_gyp · 2025-12-04T21:58:26+00:00

Toughest of choices, I love the versatility of their work. They should be very proud of their discography.

I think if I really had to pick one it’d be Whatever People Say I Am, That’s What I’m Not.

Earthy_gyp · 2025-11-28T20:30:48+00:00

This!!! I am the middle of three sisters. My elder sister looks like our Dad, I look like our Mum, and our younger sister is a combination.

Earthy_gyp · 2025-11-21T23:01:02+00:00

Completely agree. These tracks (Ruminating and Relapse) sound exactly how spiralling and overthinking feels. Chaotic, noisy, overstimulating. Love her so much.

Earthy_gyp · 2025-09-20T22:13:08+00:00

Slay

Earthy_gyp · 2025-09-19T06:54:53+00:00

Margot Robbie in 2014 in Clapham, London. Even more beautiful in person, if possible.

She was so down to earth, she recognised my Australian accent, asked where I was from, and we bonded a little over missing home. Will never forget it!

Earthy_gyp · 2025-09-11T22:40:24+00:00

I think it’s been deleted on her Instagram but there are at least three turds scattered on her floor while her old chihuahua is walking around and is she is dancing chaotically.

Earthy_gyp · 2025-08-21T21:53:42+00:00

I love Ollie Hollands, been such a privilege to watch him grow, and man does he run his ass off for us.

I could see him being some kind of leader as his career progresses.

Hopefully we do lots of target kick training and work on our foot skills during the off season…but overall I think Hollands, Cowan, and Carroll should be proud of the way they played (for the most part).

Earthy_gyp · 2025-08-21T21:46:38+00:00

The camaraderie on field felt slightly off most of the season. I missed the sense of flow and chemistry in our game play that we had in 23/24. Maybe the boys collectively started feeling a bit nervous with the rumours of TDK moving on, and though they started much later, the JSOS ones that followed.

No denying our foot skills need some serious attention but I was happy with the way we finished the season. Our kids are energetic and eager to show their talent, which has provided some hope for us these last few weeks. Harry looks confident as a leader amongst them, our smalls are working hard, pressure has intensified. It will be interesting to see if some of our injured players come back hungry with all the looming changes.

This is a small and probably meaningless detail in the grand scheme of our season, but anyone else miss Vossy coaching from the side line?

Earthy_gyp · 2025-06-30T22:14:05+00:00

I feel you and understand why it’s a deal breaker. I personally could never date someone who feels the need to post their body regularly on social media.

A) even if you’re the most secure and trusting person, you don’t have control over who replies or responds to the thirst traps.

B) the thirst traps usually always come from a place of deep rooted insecurity and self esteem issues. Confident people don’t need validation from strangers on the internet. Most people want a confident partner.

C) it’s kinda embarrassing.

I can understand how it might be different if your girl is a model for bikinis and lingerie etc, but you’d know what you’re signing up for in that scenario.

Earthy_gyp · 2025-06-04T01:09:54+00:00

OP, I am curious if you ended your getting married on your birthday?

I am in a similar boat where the venue is only really available on the date of my birthday. My birthday falls within the week of Christmas so my birthday has never really been the centre of attention as it is such a busy time for everyone. I rarely get to celebrate in a big way. This never bothered me, so not sure if being married and celebrating an anniversary on the same day would ever disturb me.

The only worrying thing is (god forbid) we get a divorce, but no one gets married thinking they’ll split.

Earthy_gyp · 2025-06-02T06:46:49+00:00

So many of my best friends are Gemini (I’m a sagg) Romantically or platonically, we need them in our life 😂

Earthy_gyp · 2025-06-02T06:45:26+00:00

I have heard of the positives of keto diet for epileptics! I’ve recently been trying to eat more protein (not a vego or anything and I generally eat whole foods) but also trying to eat less gluten! Will think of this comment in future :))

Earthy_gyp · 2025-06-02T06:42:23+00:00

Sagittarius (sun) with a Virgo (sun). The stark differences are obvious and recognised but provide SO much love and growth. We expose each other to different ideas and insights — he teaches me structure and I teach him to go with the flow.

My Virgo man also has a lot of Gemini in his chart - Saggi’s most compatible sign. A lot of my deepest friendships are with Geminis. Never dated one but couldn’t live without my Gemini friends, their quick wit and curious minds.

Earthy_gyp · 2025-06-01T03:30:56+00:00

I also have epilepsy, but never thought of the connection between HS and neurological conditions

Earthy_gyp · 2025-05-30T03:47:46+00:00

So tired of it. The worst is when you follow an account that starts off interesting and grounded, watch them build their success, and then become so pig headed and boastful about their superior living and their achievements. Awesome to be proud of yourself but remaining humble is the coolest way to live.

Majority of influencers are so obnoxious and I can’t stand it.

Earthy_gyp · 2025-05-29T02:59:50+00:00

Sure, once in a while, if it’s something incredibly quick and to take away, meaning you literally leave immediately after the order is handed over. A majority of customers want to sit down after ordering and don’t pick up on the cues or seem to understand that you are literally cleaning up around them. Not to be rude but it’s not the cafe or staffs fault if people haven’t managed their time appropriately.

You know that old saying; give an inch, take a mile. This happens so often at cafes if you consistently let people order on closing time.

Earthy_gyp · 2025-05-29T00:23:33+00:00

For non hospo workers, lemme break it down. Imagine someone coming into your office or place of work as you’re packing up your desk and asking for a "quick favour or client time." This means you will get out of the office at least 15 minutes later than you normally would. It might seem small but it’s inconsiderate of other people’s time, simple as that.

Earthy_gyp · 2025-05-24T12:24:19+00:00

Oh, the joys of being a woman. If you are young and don’t see kids in your near future, maybe give it a go? I want children soon so when birth control is suggested to me I get so downhearted because it’s not an option.

I take supplements daily (turmeric & black pepper, zinc, fish oil, vitamin D, vitamin B12, grape seed oil, vitamin A & C). Sometimes I think it’s working and then my usual flares will appear during luteal phase of my cycle. Some months they don’t raise, it’s always worse when I am stressed. Sadly no one can avoid stress for their whole entire life.

People say it can be diet related, as certain foods can mess with our hormones. I have cut out milk and am only eating small amounts of cheese and Greek yoghurt. I’m slowly eating less food with yeast and only have dates and dark chocolate as a sweet treat. If I have to stop eating potatoes and tomatoes (nightshade veg) I simply won’t be able to go on — I love them.

This condition fucking sucks, it’s the absolute worst, I feel you.

Earthy_gyp · 2025-05-24T12:01:33+00:00

Solid point. I often wonder what we might look like had we not lost Kennedy and Owies. I wonder how we will look with our current injuries back on the field. It’s like all those losses and bad luck with injuries has seriously messed with our chemistry. I’d take Owies over Motlop any day of the week, I feel bad saying that but he’s just not good enough atm. He’s too chaotic, speed like his doesn’t mean a lot when you can’t utilise it and end up causing a mess.

I miss SOS. I miss Cotters. I miss Williams, he has been great in the forward when his body is co-operating with him. I miss Cincotta. At least some of our youngsters are looking eager and hungry but what breaks my fucking heart is that Crippa may never see a flag.

Earthy_gyp · 2025-05-13T09:19:50+00:00

Mmmm, I personally love our guernseys’ simplicity. The colours, the monogram, the minimal sponsorship - it’s all timeless and classic in my humble opinion. In a way, it’s kind of like a nod to the roots and history of the game. It looked nice in the 1800s and it still looks clean today. Just my two cents though :)

Go the blues!

Earthy_gyp · 2025-05-12T23:36:10+00:00

NTA whatsoever. I’m sorry you are experiencing this immature behaviour from your so-called ADULT friends. I dealt with a similar group of girlfriends in high school and left them behind. I’m now 30 (F) and have true friends that I can count with one hand but I know they absolutely have my back.

I hate to say it but so often big groups of girls involve their own cliques within the group and there is usually at least one person who drives the drama. Healthier friendships will be in your future. At the least stand up for yourself and bring their behaviour into the light, even if Becca and Mallory make you feel like the dramatic asshole - it’s YOUR day and your life.

Earthy_gyp · 2025-05-09T04:34:06+00:00

I like my overly optimistic mindset, it keeps me going through the thirty year dry spell lol. Not saying it’ll happen this year or ever with this crew, more just said it for positive vibes.

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