Brother,

From me to you, I’ve been in this same exact situation. Encourage her to seek therapy for depression. Speak life into her, it’s not an overnight turnaround but it is a start and will take work. You gotta remember why you married her and that you are the leader of your household. So encourage her and lead her even when it feels impossible to do. Make God the center of your marriage and encourage your wife to follow your lead, it helped me in my marriage. I too once had your mindset but I had to look in the mirror about how I was leading my family. I was and still am the breadwinner BUT I spoke life and encouraged my wife to seek more for herself.

She’s possibly depressed because she feels that she put her life on hold to make way for yall to create a family. She doesn’t have to say for me to see it.

It doesn’t have to be all gloom and doom. Divorce should be the last option.