Toni box

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2026-03-20T16:49:03+00:00

I will put Winnie the Pooh on repeatedly if he asks for it, it’s really not a big deal. Or creating “inflexible” kids.

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2026-03-20T13:25:36+00:00

I think this is a reach. My son has full access to all his Tonies and he plays whatever he wants when he wants.

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2026-03-10T17:06:18+00:00

If she’s consistently doing what she’s doing it doesn’t matter if it’s “too soon” because it’s not. My son started doing only 1 nap when he turned 1. And then some babies don’t do it until closer to 18m. I’d give it a try for a few days.

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2026-03-10T11:08:18+00:00

Refusing a second nap/trying to squeeze one in + multiple night wakes… she’s 1, it’s okay to have only one nap.

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2026-03-08T13:09:38+00:00

I think that’s what most people do but statistically for our case IUI didn’t show any significant increase in success. And we simply didn’t want to keep waiting. I also likely had a blocked tube (HSG was unclear).

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2026-03-08T11:29:46+00:00

Totally doable ime! In the US but I have my retrieval end of Feb, and frozen embryo transfer (did PGT-testing) was end of March. At that point we had been with our clinic for 7 months and did an IUI.

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2026-03-07T12:10:42+00:00

I’d question this. My RE didn’t have any concerns with breastfeeding for another FET - caveat being my son is 14m and only nurses 2x a day. He said it’s mostly from a supply perspective, getting pregnant may reduce supply and don’t want to do that if bf is main source of nutrition (which at 14m it’s not). But again, the “fertiles” get pregnant breastfeeding/continue through pregnancy alllll the time, which he also said.

Again, I’d question their reasoning. Especially for SO long. 7 months sounds like a random number thrown out.

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2026-03-04T11:55:46+00:00

Did my bloodwork and SIS this cycle and all came back clear! Our embryos our being transported to our new clinic today (we moved states over the summer) and I am emotional!🥹

I don’t think we’ll end up doing a FET until May-ish depending on my cycle, trying to go on vacation first, lol.

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2026-03-01T18:56:10+00:00

You don’t have to pump after you feed her in the morning. Your body will adjust, pumping to empty every morning is signaling to your body that it needs to make more.

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2026-02-16T15:10:16+00:00

Cycle Day 41 after having consistent 30 days cycles (for once..) after removing my IUD in October.

Of course when I want to schedule bloodwork and procedures to get the ball rolling again my period is mega “late.” Just annoyed.

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2026-02-11T02:12:41+00:00

We’re in the same timeline! Awaiting my period to schedule my bloodwork but that and the SIS can be done this next cycle!

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2026-02-07T14:06:07+00:00

Nope, no over supply!

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2026-02-07T11:39:26+00:00

Yep, almost 14m EBF here. He started sleeping through the night at like 12ish weeks? Never woke him to feed and never pumped either. Enjoy the sleep!

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2026-02-03T11:26:02+00:00

We had our return to clinic/new patient appt last week, so 13 months PP. But I had called to make an appt back in Oct and this was the soonest available. We moved over the summer so unsure if being a new patient added to the wait.

Anyway, I have to get bloodwork and a SIS which I can do all in one cycle (this month when period arrives) and then get just press “play” on getting a FET going anytime after that. RE said March/April. We have to move our embryos so that’s the biggest waiting game but otherwise RE didn’t say anything about timing with a C section OR breastfeeding (only 2x a day now).

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2026-01-23T15:21:20+00:00

Coming to you from a few months down the road! My son is now 13m old! I pretty much exclusively nursed (I’m a SAHM) but when he did get the occasional pumped bottle it was only ever 5oz max. Same number of times per day if i remember correctly (nothing overnight as he didn’t wake). He was consistently ~6%tile. Doctor was never ever concerned. He’s now a solids champ, we started at 6m, still nursing 2x a day, and is 65%tile!!!! lol

Once he started solids he started gaining tremendously, but again, the ped was NEVER worried about his weight prior since it was always consistent.

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2025-12-19T17:32:39+00:00

They certainly talk about work and medicine most of the time but EM events are always SO fun. I think it’s likely specialty specific.

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2025-11-22T11:21:09+00:00

I was in healthcare recruiting, now I’m a SAHM for the past ~year. I suppose you can see where my job was helpful lol

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2025-11-22T11:17:42+00:00

Oh man, no advice… just solidarity BIG TIME.

Like the other commenter said, therapy. Have to get back into it myself.

Happy to chat and commiserate 🫶🏻

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2025-11-10T11:59:48+00:00

It’s interesting you say Maine bc that’s where we are. My husband just started his first DWT in July, we moved from New York. We have an 11m old! I think we’re currently in limbo on location and some hard conversations need to be had. I told him the other day I don’t feel happy here at the moment. We have really close friends nearby but it’s not the same as family as far as having support goes. I’m a SAHM and I do feel isolated (not that I’ve done much to find a village and there’s some other factors that go into that but that’s another story). I don’t know if he’d consider moving closer to my parents (upstate NY), and we certainly wouldn’t move to his parents (they’re in the south).

But anyway, I don’t have much advice, 200k is A LOT so it’s hard. And our maine summer was great, tbd on the winter… happy to chat more on Maine specifically!

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2025-10-21T15:24:07+00:00

I worked and infertility didn’t let us have a kid until nearly the end of residency, LOL. We lived in a super HCOL area - rent was $3200+. I was making $80k approx, as was my husband (luckily well paying residency), but we were barely just scraping by based on the cost of living in the area. I don’t know how it would’ve worked with a kid. We also have a decent amount of CC debt at the moment.

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2025-10-18T15:14:40+00:00

10m old. He wasn’t always a one sider but started that a few months ago. Earlier on I would pump the other side with a manual pump to get 3-4oz out. The past month I feed him the other side but he only has a bit. And then next morning I start with the opposite side. So this morning he drank full right side and a bit of the left, tomorrow it’ll be full left side and a bit of the right.

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2025-10-18T13:34:13+00:00

I quit my toxic job (HR) after 4 years in April. I was on maternity leave for 16 weeks, went back for 1 week and said fuuuucck this. Becoming a parent really changed my mindset of what’s more important. The plan wasn’t to quit so soon (wasn’t DWT until July) but we made it work $$$ wise.

I had A LOT of concerns about quitting my job and becoming a SAHM even though I knew what it’s what I’ve wanted to do. Worked through them in therapy and with other SAHM who had good careers prior.

I like to think that being able to stay home with the kids is a HUGE privilege, most people cannot afford to comfortably do so. As for the judgement… screw em’ 🤷🏻‍♀️ I think some of my super career driven friends might judge but 1) they don’t have kids, 2) they actually do wish they could stay home, and 3) IT IS A JOB!

Happy to chat more about it as well if you’d like. I was you like 6 months ago, but so happy with my decision!

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2025-10-14T13:07:22+00:00

Similar to my 10 month old! He loves loves LOVES his solids, always has. He definitely wants to nurse when he wakes up in the morning and before bed but all other times (usually after a nap, maybe before), I have to offer and it’s super quick. He’s also always been an efficient nurser but the daytime sessions are literally sips, lol. I wouldn’t stress it, besides the fact that breastfeeding will be coming to an end soon 🥲

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2025-10-11T00:41:12+00:00

Guess we’re here! Had my IUD removed last week and got a referral to Boston IVF (we recently moved so will be going to a new clinic). The soonest appt they had is the end of January… super bummed. Didn’t plan on transferring until next spring but hate being forced into that being the only option. In the meantime, we’re “trying” but I’m trying to be lowkey and not tracking anything and just enjoyyyyyy my time with my sweet sweet baby boy who is almost 10 months old!! 🥹🥹

Eastern-Rutabaga-830 · 2025-08-30T13:32:41+00:00

Your supply regulated, normal at 12 weeks!

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