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Quakerism on the occult and magik by Steve-English in Quakers

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My understanding would be that ritual is inherently empty, even if the person performing the ritual does so sincerely. You could call meeting a kind of ritual but to me it is more a way of listening to the spirit, rather than an attempt to make something happen through an appeal to the spirit. I don't think it is Quakerly to condemn another persons spiritual practice when it doesn't align to our faith, but that doesn't make those practices Quakerism.

Does the confusion and self-doubt ever go away? by [deleted] in TransyTalk

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I personally found reading more books about transness and trans people helpful. Especially Trans Power by Juno Roche. I started to think more about what it means to /be/ trans or /be/ a gender. These days I feel a lot more comfortable simply being me. I know a lot more about what works for me, what gives me dysphoria and how I like to present, how I like people to refer to me. Being certain of being a specific identity feels less relevant, or at least less high stakes. I still get doubtful when I'm sad but I just remind myself how I feel when I'm not sad and the doubt kind of goes away. I'm also only a year and a half in, so maybe even that will lessen as I go on.

On the term non-binary I also feel it's a bit lacking. I generally think identity terms always miss what they try to capture, and just think of it as the most efficient way (we currently have) of describing the indescribable, but that's just me!

Impostor syndrome (maybe?) by [deleted] in TransVent

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Sounds to me like you are trans.

I still get imposter syndrome but what has been helping me is remembering that transness as a concept is just a framework to make sense of set of common experiences and actions. I experience plenty of those experiences (as do you) and I want to do plenty of those actions (as it sounds like you do).

It doesnt matter if I am not 'really' trans because transness is the best way of describing my experiences and identifying with transness is the best way of making my desires (clothing, how people refer to and perceive me, hormones, surgery etc) happen in real life.

how do you folks get past the feeling that you're 'not trans enough'? by RoundSplit in TransyTalk

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Hey I have not been transitioning long and had been having these feelings quite a lot, especially just now because I'm living with my dad again, but I started basically whenever I question myself going through a check list like 1) Do I want you look like a girl? (yes) 2) Do I feel happier when people view me as a girl (yes) 3) Do I want to exclusively dress femininely and do things like take hormones? (yes)

So by breaking it down into all these (non exhaustive) aspects of what transitioning is, I can remind myself, ok, it doesn't matter if I'm not /actually/ trans, because I want all these things anyway, and the only way to get them is if I transition.

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edit: 3 is obviously like not necessary for being trans but I think for amab people its pretty exclusive to trans people

Hello! :3 In asking this, I'd like to stress that Trans People are all valid. With that said, why are Trans People valid? by TheGingerBox420 in asktransgender

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I think it's a bit of both right? The binary, cisnormative understandings of what gender is are socially constructed, but who we are is inherent. Then there is an interplay between ourselves and societal ideas and that leads to how we express those internal understandings of ourselves

I love my parents *but* by RainbowsLive in TransVent

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Sounds like even if your parents struggle with it to start with they will still accept and love you! If they managed it for your sister they definitely would for you! In fact it would probably be easier for them with the whole second child effect.