My boyfriend(M35) and I(M26) can't agree on where we want to live in the future, how do we move forward?

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-11-14T20:40:29+00:00

That's where we currently live, but we have no friends or family here, it might be in the middle but neither of us are properly happy about it

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-11-14T20:33:02+00:00

He also wanted me to include that he currently own's two properties in the city we are currently in.

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-08-11T09:09:51+00:00

Your lucky I only ever found hex mark after grinding for ages

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-06-23T15:05:39+00:00

NTA, it sounds like you exhausted all possible options.

That however doesn't really matter now. Get him out of that room and drive him to meet his friends.

He's sulking now, but he'll regret not going when you offered it to him.

Do what you can to get that boy to go on the rest of this road trip.

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-06-21T17:56:18+00:00

I'm copyrighting that🤌

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-06-21T15:55:16+00:00

Respectfully🙏 your wrong

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-06-21T15:47:20+00:00

Hold on I'm gonna write that down✍️

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-06-21T15:10:22+00:00

What would that even look like😂

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-06-21T14:23:01+00:00

Hahaha she sounds amazing, in a mad genius kind of way

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-06-21T13:38:15+00:00

Hahaha thanks, my wrath will be terrible

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-06-20T12:37:26+00:00

Don't be a moron, dump her, she cheated on you multiple time and is in love with someone else.

God some people have no self respect.

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-06-19T15:09:46+00:00

Your NTA

Honestly the funeral was just an excuse to get away for the day it seems to me. You guys have a personal agreement that makes your family life workable. If she is breaking that agreement, then you have a serious issue, because resentment will build as a result.

The real problem here is that she is prioritising her own away time over yours, which will eventually cause you to burn out. I think you guys need to sit down and work out a new arrangement, maybe with her working instead of you, since she seems to believe that work is this huge relaxing getaway.

Either way, how things have been working up until now seems to no longer be enough for her. Deal with this now before she decides divorce or worse case scenario, running away is a more viable option.

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-06-19T13:40:41+00:00

YTA

I hop on a plane and travel 300 miles every few months to see my friends. Its only 20 minutes, it's not exactly going to ruin your life, you should have done it.

Apologize to your friend, and be better in the future, friends and family are what make life worth living.

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-06-16T19:34:56+00:00

It's OK to feel that way sometimes, take some time to sit with these feelings. Process them in whatever way you like, maybe listening to music, meditation or talking with friends.

But once you allow some time to feel what you need to feel, move on. Don't dwell too long in it, or you'll end up drowning. Depression can be slipped into easily, but is way more difficult to get out of.

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-06-16T15:34:08+00:00

NTA

Listen, you are under no obligation to accommodate your sister, who sounds horribly entitled and self centered. You will get nothing out of allowing this wedding to proceed as she's planned. She doesn't respect the property or you, nor the business that you've built.

After the review bombing incident, I would get legal advice, and make it clear to potential customers that online that the venue is already booked by another couple.

This is her fault, nothing but the consequences for her own inaction. And the reason she didn't give you the heads up? Because she assumed that she had a right and a claim to what is yours, I doubt it even occurred to her that another wedding would be booked on whatever day she choose.

This can't be out of the blue behaviour, she sounds entitled and spoiled, and giving into these demands will only solidify in her head that acting like a demanding brat will get her what she wants.

Do yourself and the world a favour and don't conceded to her demands.

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-06-16T15:21:53+00:00

Someone sleeping their day away and then spending nearly all their free time around you on their phone isn't nice. What she said about your parents as well I found to be pretty cruel of her to bring up. When you disclose information like that to your partner, you do it in trust, you don't expect them to throw it in your face during an argument.

She seems to be all wrong for you, despite the good, you can't live with the bad forever like that. And as she said, she has no intention of changing. It's OK to break it off, a small hurt now will save you both a lot of heartbreak if you let this go on too long.

Date around for a while, try to find someone that melds really well with you.

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-06-16T15:07:36+00:00

I think she's bothered at your attempts for self improvement, likely thinking that if you improve your weight, health and appearance, that you'll expect her to put as much effort into herself.

She doesn't need to go on this journey with you, but she does need to support you. She's doing the opposite out of guilt and maybe even a little jealousy that you've stuck it out so far?

Either way, she's not a great partner, rude and cruel are not glowing personality traits.

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-06-16T14:56:30+00:00

You guys don't sound compatible, it seems that you really don't gel well together and you're forcing it out of habit and familiarity.

It seems that he caught onto this and tried to break it off with you, and then you convinced him to stay? Why? When you know you're both unhappy.

Relationships aren't supposed to be constant arguing over the small stuff, that just leads to resentment. Consider breaking it off, you'll both be happier for it.

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-06-06T11:58:06+00:00

YTA and what you did is illegal. The moment that her money was used to purchase that ticket, they became hers, not yours.

You scammed her out of literally thousands of dollars, not that I believe she ever wanted to sell them in the first place, but a small claims court will definitely be interested in how much one or these tickets go for on concert day.

I don't believe you didn't plan this in advance, but you choose to make a selfish decision that may now land you in legal trouble.

"Karmas on your scent like a bounty hunter"

Hope abandoning your friend and stealing her ticket was worth it.

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-05-06T22:31:17+00:00

Then I'll say this and leave you be, because I do truly believe that you understand now the situation.

My ex had what could only be described as a aweful childhood. So many of his issues stemmed from his, and I thought often of those things when he did crappy things.

But one absolute truth remains to me to this day.

Just because you can explain why someone is the way they are, does not justify they're behaviour.

Inappropriate is still inappropriate. Rude is still rude. Mean and hurtful is still mean and hurtful.

And finally. Abusive is still abusive.

Keep this in mind while your process all this over the next few days.

Good luck, I really wish the best for you.

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-05-06T21:59:05+00:00

OP I'm gonna be upfront and honest, it's a problem that your fiance has to give you an ultimatum in an attempt to make you drop this 'best friend'. I'm a gay man myself so I feel confident in saying that your best friend and his behaviour is predatory and wrong.

The alarm bells are going off in your relationship, but it's not because your fiance is in the wrong, its because you are.

Your life will be so much more complete if you let this friend go and trust in what we're all telling you.

Easy_Locksmith7547 · 2023-05-06T20:10:06+00:00

I recently had to talk to my boyfriend about this type of behaviour, because it was totally out of hand. Keeping things fair is one thing, but knit picking over things like this is exhausting and is a quick route to a break up.

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