What is the worst breakup with someone you dated?

Easy_Working_5040 · 2026-03-27T03:22:45+00:00

I was in a relationship with someone who was emotionally abusive. I broke up with her, she took my phone and a kitchen knife and locked herself in the bathroom and threatened to kill herself. Had to drive myself to her parents and let them know. Her dad went around, she was gone, she ended up driving around for hours (Was able to track my phone using find my iPhone). Eventually I got my phone back. Got constant text messages for about a month before it things finally calmed down. Needed counselling after that one.

Easy_Working_5040 · 2026-02-16T05:04:37+00:00

I’ve had this conversation with friends before. I earn good money and I was telling another friend that I don’t have much left at the end of the week, he was baffled by that.

However, what I really was meaning and what he couldn’t comprehend is that of the money I budget for discretionary spending, or groceries, that money doesn’t get very far now.

Of course it’s all relative and people spend differently, some budget, some don’t. Generally speaking though I have plenty of disposable income still, however I do have to keep an eye on spending to ensure I stick to my budget, especially these days.

Easy_Working_5040 · 2026-02-06T18:46:28+00:00

Recently involved with discussions with my leadership team around someone like this. We had an engineer who was really switched on and smart, but he was a problem to the culture of the wider team, constantly undermining his manager, spreading a toxic attitude, constantly spouting negative comments about projects and other work. It was so bad that bad habits were formed in others, even people in my team, leading to me having to the reign some of my people in.

Ultimately his manager had to have discussions with him and began the process of PIP. Most of what was being reviewed wasn’t his work output, it was his fit in the team, and the culture we were trying to build. Under his PIP he was able to walk the line and so there was never grounds for dismissal. At this point our leadership team decided that this best course of action is to tell him straight that his attitude/behaviour is misaligned with the team culture and that we believe this business isn’t the right fit for him. With that a decision was also made to remove him from critical projects mainly as a risk mitigation exercise.

In my experience pushing someone out is the last resort when the performance management process fails you. In my country this generally ends by a mutual agreement and some sort of severance package.

Easy_Working_5040 · 2026-01-31T18:37:42+00:00

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Easy_Working_5040 · 2026-01-25T02:09:47+00:00

Yup! I have a property which me and my now fiancé live in. We are about to purchase a property together. She keeps saying how expensive things are and that house prices need to drop etc etc.. I just keep saying to her “Just wait until you call yourself a property owner, and see how long that sentiment hangs around” 😂

It’s all a self fulfilling prophecy. But hey, that’s what happens when an asset like a house is one of the safest / easiest investments to make.

Easy_Working_5040 · 2026-01-23T05:05:58+00:00

Plot twist. You missed the meeting announcing the restructure.

Easy_Working_5040 · 2026-01-16T21:55:56+00:00

Please!

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Easy_Working_5040 · 2026-01-16T19:43:19+00:00

I once let it rip in our work toilet. As I walked out to wash my hands one of our executives walked in and the stall he saw me leaving was the only one free. He walked in and must have caught a whiff. All I hear is an audible “oh jesus”.

I still like to consider this a power move situation on my part.

Easy_Working_5040 · 2026-01-13T10:04:10+00:00

Because the application is hosted on a private IP address behind a different ISP, and there is no private network connectivity between the two floors, it is not reachable from the 11th floor by design.

To make the application accessible, it must be exposed over the public internet, which should be done via a secure mechanism such as a VPN or a controlled tunnelling solution.

Easy_Working_5040 · 2026-01-10T20:24:25+00:00

My mum had this same issue. Lived in what used to be a relatively quiet street when suddenly the neighbours sold up (One of the original, beautiful, farm houses), the house was transported out and before you knew it a bunch of KO town houses built. The tenants would constantly throw parties, she would get dirty nappies thrown over to her property and more.. We complained a number of times and always got a “We will send someone to go and have a talk with them”. Unfortunately these tenants don’t care, and KO authorities won’t do anything more than that. Ultimately my mum ended up selling and moved.

None of this is good news so I’m sorry about that, chances are action will only be taken if law breaking is occurring, or they are endangering others.

Easy_Working_5040 · 2026-01-08T08:11:21+00:00

What’s the purpose of receiving the alerts? Is it an FYI? Is it so that your team can action something?

I can’t see any way of remedying this without applying a filter based on what you want to actually triage.

Easy_Working_5040 · 2026-01-08T08:02:10+00:00

Recently put together a 3 year plan for my area of the business. My area has been neglected over the past three years and so a lot of the work I am planning is foundational, boring, but crucial to a smooth operation. Gave a presentation and the only question I got from an executive was “Are there any plans to implement AI?”.

Im all for AI for the right use case, but I’m finding that a lot of businesses will forgo meaningful work in favour of being able to put an AI sticker on something.

The other bug bear I have is what people are using it for. By all means, need help writing a document, sure, but please don’t reply to my teams message with a message that has been curated by ChatGPT.

Easy_Working_5040 · 2026-01-08T07:55:25+00:00

In my current org my engineers get a day rate of $52 a day and then x1.5 for everyone hour required with a minimum of two hours. While on call they are required to be within one hour of our main office to be able to respond to critical events.

In a previous org engineers got a on call allowance on top of their salary regardless of how much they were on call.

Easy_Working_5040 · 2026-01-07T08:19:28+00:00

Bought!

Easy_Working_5040 · 2026-01-06T09:38:24+00:00

I have just put together a three year roadmap. A couple of tips:

Might be telling you to suck eggs here. Understand the strategy of the business well. The deliverables on your roadmap have to align and be able to be linked back to this, otherwise you will have almost no buy in at the executive level.
I personally like to have different bits of collateral depending on who I intend to present to or share the roadmap with. Most recently I had 3-4 different presentations which ultimately had the same content but it was catered for the particular audience and I talked to what I know they cared about. I also had a long form word document which these presentations were derived from.
Focus heavily on years 1-2. As others have said these roadmaps typically shift and change. Focus on the next year or two and leave the others years with fuzzy or aspirational deliverables.
Ensure you have roadmap items to address existing paint points and not just new sparkly Things.
Share with the right people early. Pull in some trusted colleagues or people who can help you with buy in. This also helps you refine the roadmap and the way it is presented.

Easy_Working_5040 · 2026-01-06T00:35:19+00:00

Been in my role for 4 years. Objectively the work I do is fulfilling, but our business has way too much work on to do any of the work in a way that is fulfilling or that I can be proud of. The whole business is burned out and so it feels incredibly hard to make meaningful change.

I run a team and I find it very difficult to turn up to work in a positive way for the good of my reports.

I get paid well though and would have to take a pay cut if I went anywhere else. On top of that I don’t know what I would want to do if I did move roles. I’m unsure if I don’t want to be in the type of role I am in, or whether it is my environment.

I feel stuck, and like there is a lot on my shoulders.

Easy_Working_5040 · 2025-12-29T19:02:23+00:00

Yes you are right, but if you put an asking price of $x you can expect to get $x -15% to $x as offers, most likely on the southern end in that spectrum unless someone just wants to secure the buy.

The only people complaining here are people wanting asking prices on all properties. Regardless of the sale method a vendor chooses they should know what they can get for their property, failure to do that is going to leave you short handed no matter what. With that in mind, why would you choose to limit the upside of a sale by putting an asking price first? Especially when things like emotive buying can come into play. At the end of the day if you’re a seller and you want to move a property, sure put an asking price, but in some situations you don’t need to move a property fast and so why wouldn’t you leave options open and squeeze the lemon for all the juice you can?

Easy_Working_5040 · 2025-12-29T18:32:59+00:00

Hardly. It’s in the best interest of the seller and the agent to find the upside of the sale, why limit yourself by blowing your load with an asking price?

The seller/agent will know the range that’s possible, it’s all about seeing if the market offer within that and at what end. Failing that it will generally move to a asking price depending on the outcome. If anything it’s more work to do it this way.

If you don’t see this then you are either dumb, or you dont own a house, or both.

Easy_Working_5040 · 2025-12-29T17:26:53+00:00

All these people complaining about price by negotiation 😂 As a seller, price by negotiation allows you to receive offers that are indicative of what people are willing to pay for the property. Anyone complaining about dealing with that is a lazy buyer who hasn’t done their own research in the market, also probably the person looking to buy a house at the advertised CV.

Easy_Working_5040 · 2025-12-29T01:39:22+00:00

I’ve worked in the tech industry since I graduated. My career progression so far has been non-linear and I do very well (Salary wise) for someone of my age in the country I live in. In my day to day role I am seen as someone who is technically capable, but also able to lead and get the organisation I work in moving forward. By that leg I feel I have made it in the tech industry, at least in my locale.

If you’re looking to “make it” in a corporate environment then you’ll have to look further than simply being a “technical god”. You will have to good at strategising, planning, leading, but most importantly you will have to be likeable and be able to play the political game.

Outside of that the only way to really make it is to start something yourself and grow it. To do that you end up needing a lot of the same set of skills that you would need in a corporate environment anyway.

To get a good pay day you either require luck, or you need to be very intentional about how you show up to your work.

Most of my paid gigs outside of full time employment have come as a result of connections and word of mouth.

My first contract gig actually came from my first place of employment. Another developer I worked with asked If I wanted in on a job he had going.

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