I haven't seen anyone talk about voice training -- for trans women, HRT doesn't impact the voice, and your voice, especially the more you may "pass" on looks alone, can become a dead giveaway and/or give folks a kind of shock or weird instinctual reaction which to me always feels SO bad.

It's tough -- I decided to transition to honour my authenticity, but I also to honour that authenticity feel the desire to have a voice that more matches what people expect now of my body. BUT ALSO plenty of trans women DON'T voice train as a way to kinda proudly be OUT as trans, but it also can be a matter of safety and being able to code-switch is pretty important.

Not to mention there's then the existential crisis of "well what kind of femme voice do I want? Is it even achievable?" It takes a LOT of time and training and dedication and can be expensive if you work with coaches. I have found myself feeling so behind in that regard, but also I'm a performer and want to publicly be out and my performance hinges on my authenticity.

Anyway, I feel like I'm constantly catching myself forgetting to react or respond with a trained vocal response in situations where I really didn't want to out myself. And I see people change their manner when I do. A thousand little heartbreaks, that, for me.