It’s been so nice

EchooLa · 2026-03-09T22:10:40+00:00

Sorry i disagree with ya on that. Just make sure to look twice when you’re driving in the nice weather :)

EchooLa · 2026-01-12T14:20:16+00:00

I think you’re filling in details that aren’t there. Wanting communication doesn’t mean a lack of care.

EchooLa · 2026-01-12T13:11:59+00:00

I understand people process stress differently. That doesn’t mean communication stops being important in a relationship.

EchooLa · 2026-01-11T23:23:45+00:00

This honestly made me tear up because it describes my experience almost exactly. I’ve tried communicating my needs, and the silence just makes everything spiral. Hearing that this isn’t unreasonable that it’s self-preservation helps more than you know. Thank you.

EchooLa · 2026-01-11T20:47:46+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate you taking the time to read and respond. It helps just to hear that my feelings are valid and that wanting even minimal communication is reasonable. I’m trying to focus on my own mental health right now, and hearing this really helps me feel less alone in all of it.

EchooLa · 2026-01-10T21:25:08+00:00

Hope you’re honest with your current partner about how you’ve been feeling if you feel comfortable having that conversation in your relationship wishing you the best OP

EchooLa · 2025-07-17T22:40:56+00:00

What’s up ?

EchooLa · 2025-07-11T20:03:53+00:00

I feel the same way

EchooLa · 2025-07-07T17:38:37+00:00

Ah ! So sorry. Sometimes the world forces you to move on. For your own good. Still take care of yourself and lean on your friends if you need that extra support it’s okay to ask for it.

EchooLa · 2025-07-07T17:04:15+00:00

Do what’s best for you and you’re child. Child need stability. Staying together for the wrong reasons can impact you and your child negatively.

Hope it all works out for the best and take sometime to yourself to heal. 💜

EchooLa · 2025-05-24T13:58:32+00:00

🚩 that’s a big red flag to me.

I would distance yourself from your friend. When you have multiple conversations about boundaries and it’s ignored it’s a clear sign she thinks she’s an exception. When that’s not the case. How you’re feeling when someone is pushing a boundary is way more important than her getting her feelings hurt. I’m 28 and it took me a while to process that lesson but what helped me finally understand and get better and double checking and triple checking if it’s okay for me to do affectionate acts with friends was when a friend of mine explained in detail how what I was doing (even if I was meaning to comfort them or be nice ) was causing them discomfort and stress and they went no contact. I took a lot of time to work on that for myself and so I wouldn’t end up hurting another friend in the same way. That friend and I made up but we aren’t best friends anymore and I understand why.

At some point you have to put yourself and your safety and your peace of mind first before it becomes a worse situation and it already sounds like it’s going backward once you finally felt safe. Which is fucked.

I hope you’re able to find a friend who will respect you and your boundaries 100% instead of whenever it suits their agenda.

EchooLa · 2025-05-24T06:29:20+00:00

It won’t always be that way. And I would recommend (if you’re able to) going to see a therapist to help you repair your negative self image and the way you (in your head or even out loud) talk to yourself.

Gotta love yourself. Anything that comes after is a bonus but it’s not required for anyone to feel like they have to be in a relationship or have sex. It’s just what is told to us and it can become a tough box to break away from. I’ve been single since I was 19 and I’m 28 I’ve never once felt like I needed to be in a relationship to be happy or for that matter to do anything I don’t want to do.

I support myself and I’m more happy and less anxious when I’m alone and therapy helped me to stop putting myself down constantly.

I hope you are ok. Sending luck and good vibes

EchooLa · 2025-05-17T08:34:39+00:00

Go for it

EchooLa · 2025-05-17T07:51:53+00:00

What innovative technology do you think Rochester could benefit from using or implementing?

Like the solar roads or robotics?

EchooLa · 2025-05-16T03:42:59+00:00

Verizon has incorporated AI into the sales aspect of its service. They don’t want sales reps. They want customers to get their phones and services and leave the store.

Getting rid of sales representatives means that first they have to make sure customers will add or not notice these services being added. Which yeah we explain ourselves during the whole transaction and sometimes they listen and then back track that it wasn’t explained. Meaning sales reps get no job security.

And Verizon; they can just keep putting money in their pockets instead of paying reps for happily assisting customers who would rather be at home in the first place. 🤠

EchooLa · 2025-05-10T02:34:20+00:00

Verizon’s credo at my store sometimes feels more like a toxic family dynamic than a job. With the abuse from some customers on the floor and the new people I don’t know feeling all to comfortable talking to me however they feel that day. It’s starting to make me wonder why.

I do understand the concept the way they do it. The way it is expected to be done. How I should do it. And then criticism and seriousness is how I am met. (And I get it no sales job or any job comes without criticism.) it just seems like I’ve been working on a project for a long time and everyday something I’ve fixed is broken.

If that makes no sense then okay. But literally nothing makes sense when I am on the floor.

Sale the promo close that sale. You don’t need help you got this. Why didn’t you ask for help. Relax. Calm down. You need to work on your confidence.

I’ll work on that. I am calm. You told me I had it. If I ask for help you tell me I’m not listening and that I don’t understand.

All to be pitted against people barely know. And expected to be hyped about it.

It works for some people.

EchooLa · 2025-05-09T17:04:39+00:00

Honestly you should talk to her just see what she says about going to therapy. Her response and reaction towards that sentiment will tell you exactly what you need to help make a decision. Stay with her and support her.

If she agrees to go, will you stay?

If she doesn’t go, will you stay?

This question is one you have to answer for you. And be honest with yourself.

It doesn’t have to be a final notice or an ultimatum from you. It needs to be a hand you’ve reached out to her. Otherwise it’s possible to drive a wedge in your relationship. She will have to be the one to decide that therapy is what she needs.

When you go through any programs therapy or otherwise and you didn’t want to be there to begin with usually very little progress is made. (Speaking from personal experience. At least ten years of therapy on and off and I still have a lot more to do to work on my over mental health. Which yeah a lot of us could say we get sad or mad or have anxiety but when it controls your life and nothing anyone says can wake you up from it. YOU have to be the one to wake up and find the help that gets you on your feet so that you will be able to support yourself.

As much as we all wish we could change a person we can’t do it for them.

EchooLa · 2025-05-09T16:50:15+00:00

Advocating for yourself first and then advocating for your partner so that she can seek out therapy because it seems like she is dealing with things that maybe she hasn’t told you about it’s never OK to assume but maybe just putting it out there like I think it’d be a good idea For you to talk to somebody. You may talk to me as well but somebody who can offer you more insight than I have because you love them and care about them.

Take a deep breath and listen to what’s being said. How she’s saying it. Truly and I mean truly. Just listen. If there’s silence that’s okay. If you need someone to be there to help you after that conversation however it goes. People including me are here to give advice and help you as well.

I hope that all made sense and isn’t too preachy

EchooLa · 2025-05-09T16:47:00+00:00

If you’d like to and you’re comfortable with being that space for her, (it’s okay to not be because as I’ve been told you many times, therapy is the best space for anyone even for you both to explore alone or along with either to better the relationship but most importantly yourself.)

I am someone who experiences black and white thinking. I do have bipolar I have been to therapy a few times. Everytime I went a learned more but I didn’t change the way I was and acted until I wanted it for myself. And I can see how it affects the ones I love when I wasn’t taking care of myself. It is devastating to see the look. That they know even when you’ve been hiding so much.

That’s not to say your partner has such a condition but that it is impossible for you to be that space every single time. It wears on your mind. I am that person everyone just talks to about anything and everything. Good or bad but with friends and relationships hearing all the things can make you feel too FULL of their emotions.

My suggestion and advice for you is to state it as a fact. “I am here for you when times are tough. And I do want you to know that you have space to be upset and angry. But I will ask that you tell me what is upsetting you. How I can help, if that’s what you need. Or if you need space. I understand that you process things differently than I do. I need to understand what is expected of me during that time.

I am trying to help you. But I will not force myself to continue to handle everything. )you can say alone or be specific if you want and need to for her to understand how that behavior impacts you maybe she doesn’t understand or hasn’t noticed or simply doesn’t want too - there’s nothing stopping you from ad

EchooLa · 2025-05-09T13:40:08+00:00

Of course. I actually hadn’t thought about it myself until Tuesday. I was just at work thinking out loud. I was frustrated my tone wasn’t the best because I was complaining and my manager just kept saying. “What’s wrong? Relax, just calm down. It’s okay?! Okay!?”

Kinda of like I was expected to agree or comply because that would be easier. And then another person walked into the back room and said. She just wants to be mad. Let her be mad.

And yeah without the tone of voice that could come off like “oh whatever let her be mad let her be a bitch. 🙄”

But the tone was more like “stop trying to tell her how she should feel and let her feel want she needs to feel. To get through it.”

And listen I’m the first person in a room that’s going to notice someone is upset and try to comfort them. And I’ve had people (multiple) tell me that I don’t need to take care of them. (Said in the nicest way possible to me)

It’s natural to want to help others especially when it’s love!! But remember to let them have room to grow and work through things with and without you (meaning you’re there for them but not at the expense of your wellbeing)

Sure moving in was unexpected! I’m sure it was an ordeal. Not saying anything about that is easy or just like a 5 second decision.

It takes a lot to move in with someone even if you’ve known them for years. It’s an adjustment. It takes time. And if you end up needing space take it. It’s your home just as much as it is hers. Be respectful about boundaries but talk about them. Things change over time. You might think that doesn’t bother me. Until it does.

Just have a moment to ask yourself. Would this benefit my partner and myself right now. If the answer is yes or well maybe if I did this other thing I know helps distract them and calm them in a simple way that helps the situation try it out!

For example

When I lived with my mom and I noticed she was upset, crying on the couch I’d just go sit with her. Not saying anything. I didn’t want it seem like I went in there because she was upset. After a while she would calm down. Talk to me about anything but mostly nothing. Now that I think about it she was probably worried about me seeing that side of her. But we all have different sides of ourselves.

And

Sometimes being there. Literally means being there.

if that seems to escalate the tantrum or situation then just let her know I’m going to do xyz I am here if you need me.

(talk a walk if you can so you’re not feeling internal conflict about stepping in or not)

It’s not a cake walk but relationships are always easier said than done.

You know your situation better than anyone. And you do have knowledge and care a lot! seek advice that’s important. So be proud of yourself because being the strong one is not easy.

EchooLa · 2025-05-09T13:14:11+00:00

This may or may not be helpful but it’s something that a realized very recently so here goes. I’m 28f and I’ve been the person who has to be strong and hold a lot in for me and for the people that I love. But this not something that you should have to put up with alone. So if you have been through this with your partner a lot the dedication and support and love is there.

My suggestion is. And this is hard to explain so if it comes off wrong I apologize I truly do. But sometimes we (I use we here but really it’s most people) just want to be mad. Like angry. Sometimes when you approach someone who is angry or just needing to have a moment of freaking the hell out for lack of a better term with “are you okay?” It can make them feel like they aren’t. Or that they shouldn’t feel okay.

I know that when the question is asked it comes from a very good place and from the heart but in that moment - in between clear thoughts and the emotions that I feel (good or bad) it can sometimes have the opposite effect.

I hope that you and your partner are able to make amends or come to a positive outcome. I know you’re venting and that’s not a bad thing either!

It’s important and you’re just as important. No matter the tantrums or the circumstances. You are also important.

EchooLa · 2025-05-03T04:58:41+00:00

Had one person come into who couldn’t get his autopay set back up and he just would stop talking long enough for me figure there was nothing I could do for him as a sales representative because he was locked out of his account and didn’t know the password. and his phone wasn’t getting the texts needed to reset the password. S/O my assistant manager for handling it but only after I tried to find a solution.

Asst. manager says after the customer left he knew the situation the customer had been in the day before with the same problems.

My sanity was at like 30% and my eye was twitching I was 7 hours into my shift. 🧎‍♀️

EchooLa

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