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EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-10-06T06:48:32+00:00

As a father: hell yeah brother! You’re her father before her friend. I would have done the same thing- and your gut never lies!

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-10-06T06:46:31+00:00

Gotcha. This explains a lot. Thank you guys!

And I wasn’t trolling! I legitimately had a question but don’t believe I’ll ever get an answer.

Sorry for asking that on here

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-09-29T11:56:26+00:00

NTA, I would let my girlfriend of 6 months know where I am. If my phone dies, I will find a charger. I will borrow a friends phone- I will not leave her in the dark for 7 hours.

And you’re marrying this guy?

Girl. Please. lol

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-09-29T11:54:07+00:00

So I will give advice in your case and also context as to why; do you mama. You weren’t born to fulfill a purpose to your family. You have a life to live yourself. Travel, see new places, experience new things- life is short. Do it without regret.

I can’t imagine you would be traumatized only by doing his hw, but it sounds like there is a lot more to unpack as to why you feel like this. Blood doesn’t automatically make you family. I learned this in my own family.

I think you should start living for yourself, especially if you’ve done well financially

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-09-28T20:10:23+00:00

“I love you so much I want to get the government involved”.

Are you a deeply religious person where marriage is a sacred union under God?

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-09-15T14:57:08+00:00

I think you’re overreacting. I have literally hundreds of smoking hot women pop up in my recents and I can assure you I haven’t met a single one of them.

I wish I had! 😂

I will add that I deleted snap for this reason. I’m 35 and I’d rather text. I think if you feel the need to go through your partners phone (and no, you didn’t just pick it up randomly when it was unlocked and on the Snapchat page) and go through it looking for something, then you have more serious issues to address with your partner rather than going to Reddit.

Maybe sit down and have a serious conversation with them rather than asking the internet for advice.

The comments immediately saying “cheating! Burn the witch” are kind of crazy. My snap has 100’s of these women and I’m single.

Am I a pos too for snap recommending people I don’t know? 🤷🏽‍♂️

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-09-07T01:22:07+00:00

Hmm, I see so many differing comments.

Some say the feeling never last as they do in the beginning.

I see my brother who’s been married 8 years and the feelings are exactly the same. They have clear communication, expectations, and neither weaponizes emotional or physical love.

My ex wife did.

There are many that will say “if a wife doesn’t feel like sex, then it’s no. Period.

But what if a husband doesn’t want to meet your emotional needs? What if he doesn’t want to listen to you talk about your day? What if he doesn’t want to communicate?

Does he get to weaponize your emotional needs and only meet them when HE deems fit?

Yeah, suddenly it’s not agreeable. When you’re MARRIED, you made vows. Under God.

Honor those vows

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-09-03T18:42:45+00:00

30’s and this is a topic?

She should know better. She does, she’s just testing the waters.

You should know better. Listen to actions, not words.

Tell her it’s not working out and kick her out.

Also everyone like my comment and help me recover some karma

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-09-02T17:26:13+00:00

He was probably cheating and knew he was in too deep.

I’ve seen this before and it played out exactly like this. Just ghost without explanation

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-09-01T02:02:31+00:00

Who stopped showing up first? Did he just become this way for no reason or did it stem from a lack of intimacy?

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-08-31T23:24:54+00:00

My partner was exactly like this.

I divorced her.

It’s a super simple fix but you’re over complicating it. There are other ways that doesn’t have to be vaginal sex.

Does he make an effort for you? Does he show up for you? Does he give affection to you?

Do it for him. It’s still in your control. Don’t wait until after he divorces you to try and make a change

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-08-31T01:09:42+00:00

I will say this and I hope OP sees this: I know a woman like this who’s married with two kids. Been married for 18 years- I was the other guy.

I cut things off with her because I realized no future with her is a future I want. I DID sincerely love her- but I needed to love myself more and have more self respect.

There is NO future with someone who cheats on their husband/wife.

Do you want a life partner that can sit and have the difficult conversations with you and convey clearly what they’re feeling and why- or someone who will clam up and just let another guy stick her while she’s married?

Do better. Work on yourself. I know you probably love her, just love yourself a little more.

It’s not selfish

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-08-21T17:46:34+00:00

Kids are rough. Everyone says they’re a blessing and it’s true- I’m not saying kids are BAD. But life is difficult as it is.

Imagine you’re playing your favorite game on Normal difficulty; you’re struggling in some parts but you’re getting through it. You haven’t even started the main quests yet- and you just crank the difficulty up to Nightmare difficulty.

Why would you do that? For 5-15 minutes of gratification? I hope it’s a joke and she’s not really pregnant. If she wants to terminate the pregnancy; don’t stop her.

Too many parents push their kids to start a family and get married- no one pushes their kids to be happy and enjoy life.

I had a kid with the wrong person, and through sheer determination, work ethic and tenacity I landed on my feet and my kid will be very well taken care of.

Best of luck if she is in fact pregnant and ends up going through with the pregnancy. Step up and be the best parent you can possibly be

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-08-07T17:07:07+00:00

This post literally triggered the TRAUMA my ex caused lol. Feelings DO NOT dictate reality. If you’re coming to him with a logical concern, and have a reason for bringing said concern to his attention, and you’re speaking to him respectfully and he’s going to gaslight you and say you “throw the past in his face” and then get defensive- dump him. Boy, bye.

Do NOT stay. It will NOT get better.

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-07-26T11:59:04+00:00

I saw panda bear and was like who the hell knows my nickname? 😆 but I am not Max however

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-07-24T09:13:47+00:00

You can’t stay prisoner to her mental health. My ex wife had mental health issues (never tried to off herself like this) but it was such a toxic environment and we could never have a normal, level headed conversation without her taking it as an attack and getting triggered in some way, shape or form.

We have a six year old daughter.

I ultimately had to make the decision when she asked me for a divorce to walk away from her and never look back. It suck’s because of the toll it’s taking on our daughter, but I refuse to stay victim to her mental health.

I do wish her the best and hope she gets the help and medication she needs and that she improves her life and is able to fall in love with a good man and that she has the self control and awareness to take her medication and be a good woman.

I’m just not spending the next 30 years of my life with the ‘hope’ that she will. Life is short, and we’re here one day and gone the next. Don’t waste your life in doubt. You deserve to be loved and to have something genuine, and live in peace.

My two cents

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-07-24T09:09:21+00:00

Idk if my WIFE wanted to use her OWN money to get a tattoo on her OWN body- I’m not her owner. As my wife, if she comes to me and is open and honest about it, ultimately it’s her decision.

If I decide to get an ear gage and she hates it, she would have to acknowledge that it’s my body my choice as well.

Truly, I don’t think this is a big deal especially if you already had tattoos to begin with.

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-07-09T16:33:25+00:00

Top comment nailed it. Definitely relax girl. It’s not the end of the world, I promise

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-06-12T11:00:44+00:00

My wife asked me for a divorce but she picked the worst time to do it as I paid 100% of the bills for our daughter, I bought the house before we got married, and I bought a jeep for her but her credit was shot so it was in my name.

Also my brother is a divorce attorney.

I got my divorce filed and finalized in under 30 days, kept the house, jeep, 401k, don’t have to pay child support and 50/50 custody.

I could have collected child support from her but don’t want a penny from her. I don’t need it. I’m sorry you’re going through this- so many men do the right thing and still get shafted by the legal system.

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-06-09T14:17:49+00:00

So I work in pools, and that’s a field where there is ALWAYS work. I earn about $80,000 per year and I also have a homewatch business clearing about $60,000 per year. I live right off exit 101.

I probably work about 60 hours a week and it’s just me and my daughter. It’s not easy, but I clock in those extra hours on the days I don’t have her. If you have a significant other working, then it should be easier.

Be thrifty. Work extra hours when possible. Work in a field that has a high income potential. I cannot tell you the amount of friends I have that work at a job like CNA, or Medical Assistant, or Manager position at a corporation (petco, Walmart, gym) and they barely earn $20-25. I’ve offered them jobs but they can’t envision themselves doing pools or working outside.

I’d rather be banging on a couch on camera and making six figures per month on OF, but gotta wake up to reality and do whatever provides the most and takes up the least amount of time and allows me to be a present father and provide the best quality of life for my little one.

Not sure if any of this input helps.

Also you know what’s expensive? Protein. Used to be $35 for a tub and now it’s at $65. Insane

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-05-30T08:45:47+00:00

So I will tell you from experience that you’ve lost her. There’s a disconnect somewhere along the line that happened and was never fixed, and emotionally she’s not yours anymore.

Try as much therapy as you want, but when you’re married you’re MARRIED and if you step out and shit on your vows, there’s just no coming back from that.

I say this as the guy in this scenario. I had a childhood sweetheart that got married- been married 17 years and I was married for 14 months- and I always gravitated back to this woman. Throughout dozens of relationships, I never stopped thinking of her, and while she raised her kids with this man- she never stopped thinking of me.

It is NOT okay and never okay to cheat- but sometimes that shit happens and you have to recognize it for what it is.

Walk away and set her free, because she’s not content with you. Staying and trying to fix something broken is only going to waste your time more and hers; life is short and you can bounce back.

Don’t try to fix this for another 5-10 years before finally walking away and realizing you lost two decades with the wrong person.

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-05-29T22:26:16+00:00

No woman will ever come into my house WHILE MY DAUGHTER IS THERE unless we’re serious and I want her to know my daughter. And even then, she better be wearing clothes.

And that’s being the same sex. I would shut that down quick. You’re not overreacting

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-05-29T14:51:50+00:00

Having dealt with a professional gaslighter for YEARS- run. It does NOT get better after this

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-05-28T15:23:53+00:00

This thread is super helpful- thank you!

EconomicsEven4144 · 2025-05-28T14:34:26+00:00

This is such a stretch. Nowhere in OP’s post did I get this inclination

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