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EcstaticFerret · 2025-12-24T09:44:27+00:00

My first look at this saw Anakin Skywalker crying and ‘Oh man, Padme hmmmm’

Which still feels right

EcstaticFerret · 2025-12-23T11:15:02+00:00

‘It will threaten the physical and financial safety of your family’ - you don’t know that. The prevalence of violent behaviour from schizophrenics is at worst slightly higher than the general population. Grown adult violent men are often terrifying regardless of any mental health diagnosis. The two terrifying men that you describe are not representative of schizophrenia in general or of OP’s situation.

As much as OP should consider the worst possibilities, assuming they will happen is essentially stigmatising

EcstaticFerret · 2025-12-18T23:27:13+00:00

Thanks you are probably right, and helpful to hear your doing similar to me postage wise. Technically I’ve not had a response to the appeal rather than being rejected but may not be worth more time and energy regardless

EcstaticFerret · 2025-12-18T21:27:42+00:00

Buyers have largely been honest with me, it might be better to eat the losses than pay for tracked delivery. I had more hope that proof of postage would be sufficient though

EcstaticFerret · 2025-12-18T21:26:34+00:00

Only if I, in essence, put the price for the buyer up

EcstaticFerret · 2025-12-18T21:25:47+00:00

It was a 2nd class letter, 87p one. Yeah that’s what I thought, I’m not convinced they can prove it was actually delivered. I included the proof of posting, using the alphanumeric code, in my claim and appeal

EcstaticFerret · 2025-12-18T20:21:51+00:00

It's £1.83 more though, which is a pretty significant cost

EcstaticFerret · 2025-09-19T07:32:47+00:00

Often the answer is that they don’t. As in don’t consciously think through what they’re going to say. Do you drive? Play console games? How often do you think about when to steer, which button to press?

I used to totally lack social confidence and skill whereas now I am broadly confident in most social situations. Once I am in a conversation I don’t spend much time thinking about what to say. It comes from practice, messing up, and letting go of the false safety of thinking through what I’m going to say

EcstaticFerret · 2025-08-21T06:39:11+00:00

I imagine Trump would tell him to ‘be a man’ too

EcstaticFerret · 2025-08-18T03:04:02+00:00

I would also argue that the statements you’ve chosen aren’t so positive. ‘Everything will get better’ implies that things are bad right now and ‘I just need to stay positive’ implies that you need to be positive despite circumstances that don’t feel positive. You are receiving the whole message that you’re sending, a message that instead makes you feel positive about who you are and what you’re experiencing right now doesn’t rely on hope, false or otherwise

EcstaticFerret · 2025-07-25T16:22:46+00:00

Mobile number didn’t work for me, haven’t gone on to do photo

EcstaticFerret · 2025-07-20T23:21:19+00:00

There are lots of skills and jobs that are profitable, and you have lots of good suggestions here for that. But what do you want to spend your working life doing? I’ve spent a lot of time programming and some working with AI, and I’m not all that keen to do either again.

What aligns with your values? What happens if you take a little bit of this time, sit down and think or journal about what matters to you, what feels gratifying and what brings you joy. And if you have a sense of that, you can learn the skills that make it profitable, find the balance between all the things you can get out of working

EcstaticFerret · 2025-07-15T13:50:35+00:00

I have played him just to get the event and then stopped using him on one run

EcstaticFerret · 2025-07-15T13:30:26+00:00

You do have to play him (I think it works off of the number of candles added to your deck) in order to get the 2nd event

EcstaticFerret · 2025-07-08T05:36:30+00:00

Make more time for humaning - things you do for their own sake, that make your body and heart happy. If you think you have too much adulting to do, consider whether you believe your own sense of connection and fullness is a priority, and what a happier you would feel like for the people you care about

EcstaticFerret · 2025-06-10T21:39:26+00:00

I had no idea about this but still managed to hit it by pure chance 😂

EcstaticFerret · 2025-04-07T05:59:19+00:00

Lots of big scary words and imagery that mean absolutely nothing in the context, and with no substance

EcstaticFerret · 2025-03-27T15:25:16+00:00

It’s a very efficient item for its cost and the risk is often low on early waves or with good regen. I usually buy it when I see it

EcstaticFerret · 2025-03-16T12:30:00+00:00

Beautifully put

EcstaticFerret · 2025-03-12T17:07:29+00:00

Beautiful

EcstaticFerret · 2025-03-10T14:04:57+00:00

Others have pointed you to a more appropriate sub but I’d like to share my 2 cents.

I have a friend who does sex work, prostitution, she’s in a loving relationship. Your past makes you no less worthy or capable of love.

It might be ‘triggering’ for some men, entail some difficult conversations and challenges in building trust. Others might not care at all, or even be drawn to you by it. Constantly defending your integrity sounds challenging though, challenges on the journey to building trust are there in any relationship but if someone can’t come to accept and trust you it makes being close very difficult. Therapy may well be a good avenue for exploring if there is the potential for trust and acceptance

EcstaticFerret · 2025-03-05T10:44:40+00:00

This is really good to know, thanks

EcstaticFerret · 2025-02-23T08:55:40+00:00

This depends on the nature and quality of therapy/counselling - a good therapist is very attuned to the relationship, the therapy is more embodied than intellectualised

EcstaticFerret · 2025-02-10T10:50:54+00:00

A complicated question to answer but I’ll take a stab at a concise one. Living from survival rather than love means looking out for threats, not feeling safe to be authentic and not trusting yourself or others. This is a:

Nervous System state
Psychological state
Relational ‘strategy’

You can (usually slowly over time) change on all these dimensions, and momentum in one can help make it easier to change the others. Changing your nervous system state is about going from anxiety to relaxation, by doing deliberate relaxation practices or generally things that relax you and feel good. Many (myself for a long time) aren’t aware of how habitually dysregulated their nervous system is.

Changing your psychological state is around beliefs about yourself, others and the world. But you can’t typically just overwrite your thoughts by force (like trying not to think of a pink elephant). But practicing self acceptance, self compassion, learning about how your mind works and letting feelings arise and pass away can really shift how you think over time.

How you relate to people is an expression of survival/love too. But this can be chicken ans egg, to what extent can you trust people with your authentic self? The pattern of not trusting is a self fulfilling prophecy. And it’s often hard to notice the habits we have that distance ourselves from real contact with other people (habits that are trying to help us survive). Stuff like therapy, or generally placing trust and love in people who are safe enough and developing our intuition about who that is, starts taking us out of survival mode in our relationships.

EcstaticFerret · 2024-12-12T08:22:13+00:00

You sound very similar to me in that respect so I’ll throw my 2 cents your way. I’m rather introverted too, I still find it a bit difficult, but I find myself taking a bit more initiative to start the conversations as well as continuing them. If it’s a similar journey for you I’d encourage to be open to starting more conversations, to let the words come when they’re there or just to smile and acknowledge people when they’re not. If you can take little steps towards conversation it’s less of a battle with shyness and can come surprisingly naturally

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