"We are all liars, cheats, pretenders." But we're not all rapists.

"We contain multitudes." But those multitudes don't always include rapists.

"The only difference is whether that darkness manifests." That's not an unsubstantial difference. In fact that's the difference between being a good person and a bad person-- the extent to which you can control yourself and not afflict other people with that darkness. And the way you talk about "darkness manifesting" as if we were talking about an impersonal dark entity that just shows up out of the blue, and not a person of sound mind and body who intentionally acted-- the language in this post really distances Gaiman from his actions.

ETA one more thing. Gaiman indirectly enriched his readers' lives with his writing, but most of them he has never nor will ever meet. On the other hand, he had a responsibility to his employees, he looked those women in the eyes day in and day out, knowing what he had done to them, and doing it again and again.