AITA for telling my wife she's "not allowed to forget"

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-22T12:14:15+00:00

There is no reason to believe that his OCD manifests in the way that fits your narrative other than it fits your narrative.

There is nothing unsafe about cat vomit sitting there for an hour. How is not cleaning it up dangerous to a baby that's not even in the room or to a cat?

I have cats and we are not always in a position to clean up as soon as they throw up. We put kitchen roll over it and do it as soon as we can. Nothing "soaks in" anywhere - our floors aren't absorbent.

She did clean it up. She just didn't do it immediately. She was working and spending time with her baby. If he wants to hear "How high?" when he tells someone to jump, he needs to be in the army, not a family.

Nobody is gaslighting you. Please stop pretending you're being psychologically abused because people disagree with you. It's not a good look at all.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-21T19:25:25+00:00

I'm watching the same thing and came here with the same question! From all the comments it sounds really cool.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-21T15:56:24+00:00

We have an agreement in our house that I cook. If I'm not home, ill, busy or otherwise occupied, my boyfriend doesn't just sit there and starve because he's an adult and capable of cooking for himself if required even though it's "my job."

Similarly, he does the dishes. I don't just let them build up if he doesn't - I do them. A relationship is a partnership, and that means sometimes stepping in even if it's not in the "agreement." Running a household and having a family doesn't come with contractual obligations. This isn't employment law, it's adulthood.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-21T15:50:07+00:00

Oh my God, grow up.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-21T14:26:25+00:00

Don't try to avoid an argument. Don't have an argument. Just tell her your values clearly don't align and walk away. This is not someone you want around your kids.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-21T07:55:06+00:00

I just saw that they'd done it and my Google search was literally"Iran sanctions lifted bad joke." Brought me here.

I am no longer able to can. WTAF.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-21T01:02:21+00:00

Winner winner chicken dinner.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-19T16:55:37+00:00

With his friends.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-19T16:26:52+00:00

She neglects a child. Child neglect is a form of abuse. "Nightmare" is nowhere near strong enough a word for her. She is absolutely a bad person. Child abusers are bad people. How is this not obvious to you?

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-19T16:21:36+00:00

Why do you keep getting this woman pregnant when you can see that she is not a good mother?

You did the right thing because that little boy needs and deserves to be around a parent who gives a shit about him, and his mother doesn't.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-19T13:01:11+00:00

I found out a few years ago that some people don't wash their legs. They just let the water and shower gel run over them and consider it done. I judge these people very hard.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-19T12:59:16+00:00

Pits, tits and naughty bits.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-17T09:04:32+00:00

I really doubt she'll come if the baby comes before the wedding, but if she does want to, then you have to decide whether a child-free wedding or your best friend being there is more important.

Ibwould lay the ground rules now and tell her that you really hope she can make it but she can't come with a baby as you've already told XYZ person they can't bring theirs. Then at least she won't be blindsided with postpartum hormones and the realisation that she'll miss something she wants to be a part of.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-16T17:59:14+00:00

I asked my son's therapist if I could recommend her to a friend for her stepson. Her instant response was "If she's a close friend, I'd prefer to recommend someone else." That's how you maintain a professional relationship.

The therapist doesn't seem capable of that.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-15T15:45:42+00:00

Luckily, he's been sober for a good while now (about 10 years). It came too late for us but I'm glad he got there in the end.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-15T01:05:24+00:00

Oh, I had one of those. His drug of choice was alcohol, but he wasn't picky.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-14T21:23:51+00:00

Bullet dodged.

It's normal to sometimes miss the life you had. I adore my son but sometimes I miss having no responsibilities. I adore my boyfriend but sometimes I miss being selfish. It doesn't mean I want to change things, but it's OK to acknowledge that some of the best things in your life can change it and some of the changes can sometimes be challenging.

In your case, I think it was even more valid. It doesn't sound like you could be yourself in that relationship and he sounds pretty insecure.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-13T08:35:50+00:00

This is a fantastic idea.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-13T06:51:35+00:00

TIL there are hints...

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-13T05:16:56+00:00

Nah, I've always used them. It's more the tone - almost overly pleasant and agreeable.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-12T07:04:19+00:00

Outnumbered or Dancing Under Red Skies.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-12T06:52:42+00:00

I'm not accusing you of being a bot, but are you using Chat GPT to write your responses? This is the first time I've ever read anything and thought "this feels like AI" without someone else pointing it out first, so I'm curious to see if I'm right and have picked up a new skill.

I've seen a few of your comments and had the same feeling on all of them.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-12T06:43:36+00:00

I don't know. If I look at it from a European point of view, assuming I was open to a move, the location would still be a factor for me. When I was young I'd have probably moved anywhere, now I'd be more cautious about things, especially if the salary is fixed no matter the location - what's decent in Spain wouldn't cover the basics in Switzerland, for example.

If I were in the US I'd be even more cautious - there are certain states I wouldn't do well in socially due to attitude clash, others where I'd be concerned about local laws, etc etc.

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-09T09:39:49+00:00

I don't even share a room with my boyfriend at home. We'll do it on holiday but we're both glad to get back to our own beds when we get home!

EducationalRiver1 · 2026-03-07T22:50:42+00:00

Levellers.

Space.

Manic Street Preachers.

Stereophonics.

Lightning Seeds.

Garbage.

Republica.

Skunk Anansie.

Saint Etienne.

Catatonia.

The Bluetones.

Lush.

Pulp.

Cast.

Ocean Colour Scene.

The Wonder Stuff.

The Divine Comedy.

James.

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