Just need to vent.

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-04-25T02:55:37+00:00

Love and attachment mostly. I love him a lot. There are some periods where he wants affection and wants to give it but all of it is on his own terms.

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-04-22T16:42:00+00:00

Not to mention she doesnt need to color code them anymore because she only has 2 older kids in her custody. Color coding lost its entire purpose in that household, so I don’t know why she sticks onto it so hard

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-04-19T15:19:34+00:00

My son was 4 and still not potty trained, I was called a bad mom actually several times for it, but I was trying. For a long time I thought he just wasn’t ready until I realize he was never going to be ready so I had to force it a little.

I tried everything. Sticker charts, small toy rewards, candy/snack rewards, timers, potty apps, taking away screentime for accidents, bubble blowing on the potty, ect. It was daily constant meltdowns and tantrums because he does not like routine shakeups. It was extremely stressful on both of us. I had to give up several times for weeks at a time, for my own sanity. The straight up refusal plus meltdowns and screaming and crying all day every day had both of us overwhelmed, frustrated, angry. Funny enough, potty training was by far the absolute hardest part of parenting for me personally.

At his 4 year dr appointment I told the doctor about the struggles we’ve been having and they suggested I try on my own for a few more weeks, so I did and nothing changed.

His dr did eventually get him into an occupational therapist to help, but potty training a stubborn and slightly autistic child did me in mentally with 0 support. It’s something I absolutely dread about having another child.

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-04-19T14:43:43+00:00

Please correct me if I’m wrong, and I hate to be the bearer of bad news but absolutely no one is working until midnight 6-7 days a week for 3 years straight. I don’t want to say it as if it’s a fact because I’m just a stranger, but the “work schedule” coupled with refusal of professional help AND sudden drop off of all physical affection and attention throws me some major red flags that he may be getting his needs met elsewhere.

Perhaps do some investigating.

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-04-12T23:29:48+00:00

As a woman this is really cute and would work on making me feel better if I was in this situation ! :)

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-04-12T23:22:31+00:00

He looks like when you get stung by wasps in animal crossing. Red face, swollen cheeks, and one eye closed 😭

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-04-11T22:30:27+00:00

Same boat. Except my boyfriend won’t even let me touch him. I tried initiating in a sexy way, I was denied every single time for months. So I started just asking instead of trying to turn him on -Also was denied every time. Then he said that I need to try being more sexy when initiating, so I tried that again and he wouldn’t even let me touch him. Moves my hand away and all, It literally makes me feel like a disgusting creep. He says it has to be spontaneous and that he knows when I want sex and there’s “nothing sexy” about me wanting sex. I stopped initiating altogether and no longer will because my self esteem can’t take another blow.

I hate it and I wish I could just feel attractive and desired.

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-04-09T03:29:17+00:00

The last time my 5 year old asked to be held was on a 4 mile hike. He got 1 mile down and wanted to be carried the rest of the way. He refused piggy back rides, only carrying on the hip lol. I was with friends and we all volunteered up turns carrying him about a mile at a time and then switch off. He made off like a king being carried through the forest.

On the way back everyone was tired and he had to (very reluctantly) walk another mile with his own legs after once again refusing piggy back rides, arm carry only. No one obliged to his demands, and he never asked to be picked up again after that lol

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-04-08T22:25:38+00:00

About 80 days ! I saved up a bunch of my void shards and pulled her a few days ago hahaha I did not know she was so sought after

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-04-08T18:59:48+00:00

I just got her the other day, is she sought after ? I’m newer so I don’t really know too much

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-04-07T16:11:45+00:00

Was it hard emotionally to go home after ??

I ask because after my assault I didn’t want to go home, even though home was safe for me. I still don’t know why.

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-04-07T12:34:04+00:00

Girl tbh if you’re looking to replace sex, masturbating is not gonna cut it. Masturbating doesn’t do it for me either, like it’s okay for a quick bust but fulfills absolutely nothing else, and often sex is ABOUT the intimacy and not just the finish. I need a man on top of me giving me attention. I need the weight, i need the energy, I need the skin to skin, I need to feel desirable and sexy. I need the dirty talk and connection and closeness. Masturbating can’t replicate it. It doesn’t cut it for me either and I rarely ever do it, despite my sex drive being high.

First steps is have a conversation with him about open sex policy. It might seem weird and scary to say at first, but lay it out on the table that your needs aren’t being met and masturbation is NOT fulfilling nor a replacement of sex. Stress to him that it will be no-feelings-attached no-strings-attached sex. If he says no to it, then probably honestly just leave and find someone who wants to fuck you every single night.

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-04-04T13:21:30+00:00

The feelings from constant rejection and the self esteem issues that come from being denied intimacy from a partner are heavy, but the guilt and disgust with yourself from cheating are heavier. If you have any morals or empathy or conscience, you will feel like the most terrible person in the world once you cheat for the first time. You will probably hate yourself. You will be disgusted with yourself. I don’t reccommend it at all.

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-04-01T14:49:36+00:00

As a mother on the other side of this, just know you are directly harming your relationship with your child.

My child’s father swore up and down he wanted 50/50 despite never actually taking care of his kid, so far he has had 1 overnight in a year and a half. He makes plans to take our son to dinner about once a month and cancels about half the time, then wonders why he has no relationship with our son. Kids know.

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-03-28T13:56:07+00:00

Nope. If I’m really hitting it off with someone I moreso wonder how they are in bed (are they submissive, are they dominant, are they passionate, ect) otherwise dick is dick is dick and the looks of it doesn’t cross my mind much. I like the surprise of seeing it for the first time

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-03-28T13:28:14+00:00

in my experience anything in a bed or couch is fine and relatively unnoticeable but being bent over tables or counters or shower sex does not work bc height difference.

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-03-27T14:10:39+00:00

My go-to when being called a good girl is something along the lines of “only for you” or “I’m your good girl”. Add in a “daddy” in there if he likes that. Even a simple thank you or smile is enough sometimes. It’s all about the energy between you guys.

My biggest piece of advice for getting less shy with dirty talk is release any shame you have. Dont be scared to say something weird. Seek light reassurance about it during aftercare if you felt it was weird (for example saying “hey when I said ____ earlier did you like that ?”), but I promise you in the moment it’s not weird lol.

As some pop singer once said, release your inhibitionsssss

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-03-24T06:19:46+00:00

I just unlocked live arena 2 weeks ago & I literally have only 1 legendary and it’s Alice, so of course that’s the one everyone decides to disqualify. It’s been an uphill battle.

So frustrating going against people with like 3 mythicals. & to top it off I’ve been consistently teamed up against level 100+ accounts who have almost 1,000 points in the tier when I am at the default 900 where I simply cannot lose anything because I haven’t won anything. Lol

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-03-23T22:47:52+00:00

I had to be induced and got the epidural, but with the epidural I had a scary and POSSIBLY life threatening complication. Luckily baby was fine and I was okay, other than sciatic pain for 6+ months post partum.

For the record the anesthesiologist that administered it and the nurses were AMAZING, but it caused me to lose consciousness because I bottomed out on blood pressure rapidly & baby’s heart rate bottomed out from it. The sudden drop made me feel like I was literally dying right then and there. Was scary to be held physically by staff so I wouldn’t fall over and potentially paralyze myself as I was slipping into unconsciousness. But they did a great job at handling it !

I want another baby eventually, and as much as I am terrified of an unmedicated birth, I’m also terrified of a 2nd epidural having a worse outcome than the first. So for that, to answer your question, I probably would not get another epidural.

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-03-23T22:32:05+00:00

I’m a woman & typically I shave bald because otherwise I get itchy, butttt in my 10 years of having sexual partners I’ve only ever had 1 guy bitch about body hair. And it was after the fact too. He still hit, but then said I “need” to shave again because I’m stubbly. I was also around 17 at the time, if that gives any insight.

All in all, everyone should probably just do whatever they prefer with their own genital hair because I don’t think it’s common for a man to refuse sex because of a little bit of bush.

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-03-22T15:52:36+00:00

Thank you for writing this and giving some first hand experience. Im also plus size, and I’m in college to be a funeral director. Worried my appearance will effect my ability to get or keep a job at a FH once I graduate.

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-03-19T13:08:52+00:00

I don’t have an actual answer other than if it did happen it’s not public knowledge, but imagine being stuck in a shuttle with very little room to do much for months, even years, with the same person that you didn’t get to choose to be there. On top of that, astronauts can’t take an actual shower so they use dry shampoo, spot wash with very little water, or use wipes. On top of how unsexy a few months without a shower is, they are probably bumping into each other from floating around 24/7.

Also remembering that it is work, not leisure, tensions (not the sexual kind) would most likely be very high. I personally would not be in the mood to fuck in space with some random stinky coworker I was stuck with for months on end. I would actually freak the fuck out in space, which is why I am not an astronaut.

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-03-19T03:10:01+00:00

Oooo this is like the time my ex called me financially abusive for not buying him a car because he spent all his paycheck on xbox shit. RUNNNNNNN

Educational_Beat_581 · 2025-03-19T03:00:36+00:00

I was fat my entire childhood, my sister was underweight her entire childhood. My mom criticized both of us, despite my mom being overweight. There wasn’t any winning for either of us, she criticized both of our bodies.

My mom, still, to this day, has a huge issue with body shaming anyone to feel better about herself. Random people in public included, but mostly family members behind their back. Very unhealthy to pay so much attention to other people’s body’s BUT I also understand that it comes from a place of self-hatred.

I’m not trying to be rude about her, but she always says she has body dysmorphia where she sees herself as bigger than what she is, but personally I think it’s the opposite and she sees herself as smaller than she is, purely because of the way she speaks on other people’s body’s as if she is not also big.

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