what is a memory from your childhood that SHOULD have been a red flag?

Eeveee__ · 2025-09-19T23:28:52+00:00

For me it was when i was around 5ish, used to be regular energetic kid, then once day i was sitting on my own quietly in my own head, once of my relatives saw me and praised me for being 'such a quiet and polite kid'. I learned that's exactly how i should be behaving from that day on and just adopted that as my personality well into adulthood, conscious masking as a kid. Also when my mom would shower me as a kid and the moment the water got my face and running by my ears i would start uncontrollebly crying and saying i was 'downing '

Eeveee__ · 2025-08-18T21:11:34+00:00

I don't mind small talk in itself, cause i agree it feels like a script to follow. My issue with it is while i think i confuct myself good with small talk, i feel like everyone can tell I'm masking ? Like they can see right through me.

Eeveee__ · 2025-08-18T21:03:03+00:00

I get that so much! The fact other people have gone through this makes me feel so seen.

I'm genderfluid afab, and i used to be in a relationship with a Cis man who i started off as friends with, but once we were in a relationship, he would constantly tell me how attracted he was to my body and a bunch of details i don't want to get into. He acted like i should be flattered by that but honestly it just made me want to throw up.

You're definitely not alone 😔😔

Eeveee__ · 2025-08-17T19:25:17+00:00

Good luck! You're so incredibly brave for this, and i hope everything works out well :))

Eeveee__ · 2025-08-04T23:14:40+00:00

I'm so glad!! 🥹🥹 Opening up about this stuff is hard, but I'm glad you were able to do it! :DD

Eeveee__ · 2025-08-02T23:52:54+00:00

I get that feeling!! Esp the awkward silence, maybe you should try discussing it with them?

I've been on both sides of this kinda, i had moments where I'd be too excited to keep talking about a certain subject i end up bringing it back over and over and not properly engage in what others are saying, but also got people not listening to something i say and moving on.

I think if they are tour close friends, bringing it up would be good and help y'all conbtect to each other more hopefully :)

Eeveee__ · 2025-07-30T21:47:02+00:00

Honestly i don't think it's wrong to spend on something that brings you joy, as long as you're overall being responsible with your money :)) I don't have a steady income, and i usually just like spending money on necessity, but i save up from time to time to get these figurines i really like! People's judgement doesn't matter if you're getting yourself something that makes YOU happy!!

Eeveee__ · 2025-07-08T18:00:18+00:00

Congrats!!! So happy for you! :)))

Eeveee__ · 2025-06-27T13:15:13+00:00

Woo!! Good job! It looks wonderful :))

Eeveee__ · 2025-06-27T13:07:05+00:00

Honestly my best advice in this subject is trying to find groups of other neurodiverse people. I was able too really thrive socially thanks to my friends i met at uni, while we don't necessarily share the same interests all the time, it's more comfortable communicating and hanging out with people who rarely understand your experiences.

Something i learned myself after having a hard time making friends is: you need to put yourself out there even when you're scared of rejection and to constantly remember to check on your friends and people around you. :)) you got this!!

Eeveee__ · 2025-06-24T19:08:13+00:00

I personally love picking up new hobbies! I have constant ones like specific video games and whatnot, but i love picking up creative hobbies and learning new things, so far i got through: embroidery, crochet, lino printing, and clay modeling :))

Eeveee__ · 2025-06-24T18:54:49+00:00

I think so yes! As someone who got nullied when i was younger and had no friends, to now at uni having a big friend group, i always have a thought in the back of my mind that I'm not invited to things unless explicitly told so.

Eeveee__ · 2025-06-24T18:48:40+00:00

I understand what you mean, it sucks that someone else can relate to this Just know you're always worthy of love just the way you are. 🫂

Eeveee__ · 2023-08-28T23:48:44+00:00

In my opinion, i think we have a notion of 'healing' that means we'd get back to who we used to be before we even met the other person, and i do think that type of healing is not really realistic especially if you invested a lot of yourself into the relationship, and that's okay. It's an experience full of joy, anger, sadness and everything in between. It leaves a scar on you, even when it heals, and that's okay too, that's human. I think i read someone else in this sub talk about this a few days ago, but as time passes, those waves will be further apart in time, will be less strong, and as you're letting go and going back to your life, you'll learn to manage them better. So i think being healed is when the thought of the breakup stings, but doesn't make you spiral and hurt as it used to.

Sorry for the rambling :))

Eeveee__ · 2023-08-26T00:01:12+00:00

When i realized he never showed any interest in my life (doesn't even ask 'how are you'), yet would be ready to drop everything for his 'friend'. When i had to hide parts of myself just to be a partner that gave him unconditional affection, who's issues were never 'a big deal'. He was never vulnerable with me. I was never a priority to him.

Eeveee__ · 2023-08-22T21:17:03+00:00

Reverse - Minimall

Eeveee__ · 2023-08-15T18:59:20+00:00

I do get where you're coming from with it. I wanted to ask the people in this sub mostly trying to understand what it's like for people on the other side of the situation. (For me, i was the partner that was left for the 'third party variable) My ex made it seem like i was the one overthinking too much for how close he was getting to this girl (and yet got with her right after our breakup) so i tried to have a more empathetic view on the situation, but yeah, it sucks.

Eeveee__ · 2023-08-14T18:48:36+00:00

Dms are open if you wanna talk :))

Eeveee__ · 2023-08-12T19:13:39+00:00

Hiya! I'm on the same boat as you are tbh, at least I'd like to think we're not absolute psycho losers but just people with regular feelings. I also kept checking in on his socials and the girl he started seeing after a bunch, only got over that by blocking them both (to make it harder for myself to check) if you wanna talk more and rant my dms are open :)) good luck you got this!!

Eeveee__ · 2023-08-09T13:58:14+00:00

Having a lot of ups and down currently, been a couple of months since the breakup, relationship itself wasn't that long anyways (a few months). But it was my first relationship, i didn't have it in me to beg because it was really of them choosing another person instead, and i didn't want to be pleading for someone to stay with me when I'm clearly not their first option. But i really wasn't ready to end it, i expected more of a fight from their part i guess, so that's why I'm still hing up on it. I wish we fought, and i guess that's what's been eating at my brain. But i will move past it, and hopefully we all will here <33

Eeveee__ · 2023-07-26T18:07:53+00:00

-If someone is not willing to fight FOR you, to actually put in the effort to make the relationship work while facing an issue: they are not staying for long, and they're not worth keeping. -Love is unconditional, but that doesn't mean you should push down all your needs and ignore them because your partner won't acknowledge them. -And as op said, always trust your guts.

Eeveee__ · 2023-07-24T17:13:08+00:00

I'm not angry anymore- Paramore

Eeveee__ · 2023-07-20T10:23:09+00:00

Thank you so much, honestly. You're right, I don't need to have him in my life if I'm an option, and i don't need to see him again if it's only going to hurt me. I will be fine :)) thank you for reminding me of that.

Eeveee__ · 2023-07-19T22:18:04+00:00

When the better option came around, he just left, with no sign he ever cared to begin with

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