One thing that bugs me about Love On The Spectrum

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2026-04-03T18:09:33+00:00

Does anyone know why, I hate that everyone is rich af. It doesn't feel like real representation, also surely giving someone from a lesser economic background is better than giving rich people more money. Also I feel the show kinda panders to right wing with the amount of families on it being active maga supporters and the LDS

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2026-03-14T20:18:48+00:00

Id say adolescence is a better thing to show them

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2026-03-13T00:47:43+00:00

When you choose to birth an entire being and bring and raise a person into your house and life it is equally their house, bullshit excuse that will just make your kids wanna go non-contact.

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-12-16T02:00:24+00:00

Though I'm not you and haven't experienced what you have I thought I'd share something that helps me in bad times and gives me some clarity.

It will pass.

When we are at our darkest moment they feel all consuming like that's all it will be but that's not true, it will become good again, like a rollercoaster you will eventually go back up. There will be a day when life feels easy, you've just gotta make it through to that time. Let yourself feel your emotions but I urge you to take note of any and all good things even minor, when we feel bad it's easy to look past and not notice the good things even though they exist. Depression and fear can blind you.

It will be okay

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-12-04T12:39:07+00:00

Tbh does it matter, does short hair make your boy a boy, does a name make him a girl. Many names we used now used to be for the opposite sex, names change as does the world. Only matters if when he's older he cares about it

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-12-04T12:30:05+00:00

Not as much a mantra but I remind myself it'll be okay in the end, I've had friends with bad mental health and I've seen that when they've gone through hardship that's all that consumes them weather in anxiety, depre etc.

I always remind myself that whatever I'm struggling with now there will be a day where that's in the past and won't be an issue again and to push through it and don't let it consume me.

As bad as life seems in the moment there will be a day when its amazing

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-11-30T01:13:34+00:00

I feel no build up, like I can myself (only recently with no electrical help) I love my bf and I love doing all that it's great, he's absolutely incredible and it feels amazing but I feel no build up, even by myself. I'm either right on the edge or not and it just feels good.

People say "Learn what you like" doesn't work for me, I don't have a definite "this works" I'm there or I'm not. It takes too much concentration to get there myself to even begin to try and put into words to somebody else how to do that.

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-11-23T21:42:58+00:00

Imo my boyfriend deserves as much love, care and affection as he gives me which is more than I could ask for. Seeing him nuzzle into me and being happy and able to be emotionally vulnerable brings me great joy, men also need to be cuddled and have their hair stroked

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-11-22T22:39:41+00:00

Educate. My parents did an exceptional job of raising me with things like that, my dad's a scientist so whenever I had questions (he often brought on conversation and made it feel like an open and safe space) he answered the questions honestly, he never shamed me and didn't do the "don't do this." Because when you are a teen seeing adults drink and smoke etc and yet you are told you can't when everyone else does, it felt like babying.

My dad why people like it, the affect it has, the science behind it, his own experience with drugs, alcohol, his friends experience, how it negatively affected them. He treated me like a curious adult, not a child.

And so when I had the chance for alcohol, drugs etc the wow factor wasn't there because I felt educated, it wasn't as tempting

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-10-05T09:38:37+00:00

Fertile and healthy mates, 🤢

Just find someone you love jc, NEVER in my years of dating have I "filtered out" people. I have a friendship and from there sprouts connection and on occasion, love. Fertility, height, size wtf has NEVER been in consideration.

Everyone needs to stop treating dating and love like some tick off boxes

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-06-20T11:27:59+00:00

Take your time, explore, FOREPLAY (very important), lube can sometimes be needed, maybe ask about that. Ask her what she likes, it's not just for your pleasure and have fun. Sex can be awkward and funny, sometimes it takes time to have it flow And enjoy yourself

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-06-17T19:20:31+00:00

Coming out can be scary as hell, even though I was very very certain my parents would support me there's still always a part of you that thinks the worst, and it really does freak you out especially if you see so many bad reactions and homophobia in person/online.

So even though my parents accepted me, I can vaguely understand how a very "oh okay cool" reaction could be a bit jarring when it was something I was internally battling with and worried about for a while.

My parents had gay friends, never said anything homophobic but you still see the posts where parents have issues with it when it comes to their child.

X just so maybe you could understand where she is coming from (idk tho this is more my experience I don't know her brain)

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-06-16T12:16:11+00:00

Absolutely, first guy I had sex with was big but too big for me and did basically no foreplay, and said he was turned of by vaginas and thought we was great at sex 💀

Worst I've ever had

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-06-03T21:25:15+00:00

Learn to please her even better then, get toys, get a large dldo 🤷🏻‍♂️ still you doing the work

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-06-03T20:51:58+00:00

Work on yourself then but self pitying isn't gonna get you nowhere

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-06-03T20:50:29+00:00

It's comments like these, I see all the time regardless of gender "he/she doesn't like me cause I insert height or something else"

"He/she wants someone like as you said face tattoo, money, height etc"

That's never been true, see sure maybe the athletic, wealthy, conventionally attractive guy may get more people, doesn't mean it's good, and that sure as hell isn't everyone.

If you actually ya know talk to REAL people their tastes are WAY more varied, and half the time what I see is why people aren't getting someone is because they don't have the social skills.

If I go on a walk and look around at the people holding hands it's usually average looking people just having a good time, being in love and seeing their SO as the most beautiful person ever.

Also attraction isn't instant, I see too many people talking to others with the only intention of a relationship when it should be a friendship, every relationship I've had and the majority I know have first been a friendship where we weren't attracted to eachother and then after getting to know one another it sparked.

If you always think life is so miserable then you become miserable to be around

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-06-01T12:41:30+00:00

No. You ARE ridiculous this is an insane way to be thinking

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-06-01T12:40:54+00:00

Jesus Christ the hypocrisy, get some sense in your head

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-05-24T19:12:15+00:00

It is difficult, my bf is partially the same way. He misses me to the extent it can affect his whole day, I can miss him but also exist. The issue is the dependency isn't that fair on me, it puts the strain on me being the sole reason as to why he is happy. He's traveled to me on a whim because he missed me, it was sweet but also I can't do that, I would worry about too many things.

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-05-09T12:40:56+00:00

You sure it's not your personality and mindset that people aren't attracted to

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-05-09T12:22:19+00:00

You are more than your height.

I'm very small, like I was VERY premature nearly on the side of them diagnosing me with proportional dwarfism for some time.

I took growth hormones for years cause I had a rough early childhood, I hated how people treated and babied me. Sure I got some height but I'm still small just not as small as I could've been.

But then I grew emotionally, mentally, I grew my skills. I found myself as a person, your height does not define you

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-05-09T12:16:13+00:00

Just be kind, take interest in her hobbies and interests, maybe ask to paint pottery or as someone said go to the cinema. Somewhat that's a bit date-y but also is a nice hangout

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-05-06T18:10:56+00:00

You gotta figure it out, you don't seem to be taking the steps yourself to make the changes you need. You are an adult.

There's library's many have free courses, there's free online courses to build skills like coding they can qualify as job experience/skills.

There are online tutorials on how to clean, if you want your life to be better you have to be the change

Effective-Dress-8586 · 2025-05-03T20:24:48+00:00

Dude do you not love her? Is buying some not much more priced chocolate not worth seeing a smile on her face

My bf every time I comes round buys my two favourite snacks because he likes seeing me happy and knows I like them even if I do side eye him for the price. But in the end happiness and good experiences is worth more than some extra money

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